"Be a train, not a taxi" is not a novel idea within red pill forums although you may not have heard that exact phrasing before. It basically means "plan, lead, and hold frame" but I used this metaphor long before I found TRP/MRP and I still find it helpful. It seems to root the idea a bit deeper in my psyche by making it more visual.

A train is not a taxi. It doesn't drive around town looking for passengers. It's got plenty already so it doesn't need you and doesn't have to bend over backwards for you. It doesn't ask you where you want to go. It tells you where it's going and lets you decide whether you want to go there or not.

And where is it going? Fun town. So if you don't go you damn well better have something better going on because this train is always a great time and you know it. And if you don't go, some other bitch will and will post pictures of her great time on Instagram and you'll hate your life. So you probably better go.

u/red-sfpplus summed it up perfectly on r/askmrp today in response to a question about extramarital dating:

You do not DATE. You live your awesome, fun life. You do activities YOU want to do, regardless of whether or not they want to show up. You start asking what they want, where they want to go, blah blah blah their pussy will dry up faster than west Texas in spring. I have played this game with my "wife" for our entire marriage. Always worked. Now I am doing it with 3 different women I have met in 3 weeks. And it still works. Every single time I pressure flip them, and every single time they rise to the occasion.

A common tenet of TRP is "texting is for logistics." U/red-sfpplus's advice here works out thusly when dealing with plates or potential plates: "hey i'm going to (place/activity) on (day) at (time) with (whoever else is going, if anyone else is going). you wanna come?"

If she says yes, you work out logistics. If she says she can't, and doesn't offer another day, you don't reply. If she does offer another day, let her know what you're doing that day and ask if she wants to come (same invite structure). If she says maybe, use a takeaway "it sounds like you're not sure about your plans yet. let's just hang out another time"

With a wife it's essentially the same, just a little more assertive/assumptive/bossy: "hey we're going to (place/activity) on (day) at (time) with (whoever else is going, if anyone else is going). wear (whatever you want her to wear) and be ready by (whatever time you want her to be ready)."

If she says ok, great. if she protests because you guys already had plans to do x,y,or z, consider altering the plan (if it pleases you to do so), if she protests because she simply doesn't want to use a takeaway: "No problem you don't have to go, baby. I'll just go alone or see if (whoever you want) wants to go."

If she's not ready on time and she frequently isn't, consider leaving without her.

You're a train, not a taxi. You have a plan. You're not dependent on or beholden to the plans of others. You can change your plan if a better one is presented of course--you don't have to be autistic about this just to feel in control--but this way you always get to do what you want to do (unless what you really want to do is whatever your wife/plate/friends/kids want to do, you directionless vagina).

This is an extremely attractive quality/ability/frame to have. What I love about it with plates or brand new girls I haven't gone out with yet is that, if they say no, they still know what I'll be doing on a particular day at a particular time, and that they're missing out. I've often gotten texts back from girls who had said no, but as the day/time approaches will say "hey are you still going to (x)?" FOMO kicks in and works in my favor.

(shameless brag alert)

Same with wives. Just yesterday I asked mine if she wanted to join me and this other girl for drinks and dancing this Friday night. She said she didn't really like that particular girl and that I could go alone if I wanted. I just said "ok, cool" and then she asked where we were going. When I told her where and that we'd probably just grab a hotel downtown she quickly changed her mind and decided to come.

Women don't like sitting around KNOWING what you're doing and who you're doing it with, or wondering who you might meet when they aren't there to keep an eye on you. It drives them crazy. So drive them crazy. Have a plan. Communicate the plan and invite them along (except on boys nights). Whether wife, plate, or prospect, be emotionally unfazed by whether they come or not. Stick to the plan either way. You'll be glad you did.