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LTR Is in vacation

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Bulk_king11
December 3, 2018
9 upvotes
askMRP

My LTR is on vacation in Mexico for the week. This trip was planned before I was in the picture. She’s there with 3 friends who all have boyfriends. The one just found out she’s pregnant.

Since me she has been begging me to go with her. But it just isn’t in the budget for me right now and I started a new job and couldn’t get off.

Up until the trip she kept saying how she didn’t want to go she didn’t want to leave me. And was crying the night before. I trust her. I do and I know I’m her alpha full blown. Since my MAP I’ve seen how things are supposed to work. She tells me everyday she never experienced someone like this.

So I just been letting go. Acting like it’s just another day. But my mind can’t help but creep in with hypergamic thoughts. “Hot girls. Mexico. Alcohol. Hit on Insecurity. Fuck this”....So I just been staying busy.

Only thing is she has been texting me. Calling me. And FaceTiming me non stop. I kind of treated it like a GNO scenario that rollo talks about. And encouraged her to go have fun. Enjoy herself and we’ll talk later. Still she’s texting me.

she’s honestly more worried about me cheating on while I’m gone than vise versa. She knows my past. I was the dude stealing everyone’s girl when I was single so that also adds to thoughts. I seems some shit first hand.

My question is as a good partner is it best to pack on the comfort in this situation. Or just let her do her own thing and not respond to text and calls till later in the day ?


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Title LTR Is in vacation
Author Bulk_king11
Upvotes 9
Comments 42
Date 03 December 2018 01:09 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203757
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/a2ohvb/ltr_is_in_vacation/
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[–]BostonBrakeJob41 points42 points  (9 children) | Copy

You're insecure as fuck. Stop acting busy and start being busy...with something other than hamstering what she may or may not do.

She'll either cheat, or she won't. Get over it, quit worrying about it, and deal with it only if/when some red flags or a trickle truth comes out.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

6-9 months is about the furthest you can book out air travel for most major US airlines

You consider a 6-9 month relationship long term?

You need more abundance in your life.

Stop texting her. Tell her she in on vacation and to enjoy herself. You cant wait to hear all about it when she is back.

Grow a pair.

And get a better job. An all inclusive to Mexico is what? A few thousand?

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You know what's better when you chick goes on vacation with her girlfriends? Killing something in Alaska with your bros. You couldn't pay me to tag along in that trip.

[–]mrpthrowa6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to get her used to you.

What is "you"?

i.e. what is your frame.

Do you want to be providing text comfort all the time.

Do you want to be scarce with text, providing a reassuring message every now and then, but be the person to give her the feels in person that she'll be looking up to.

It's up to you.

My personal approach?

Text fucking sucks. it's very poor at conveying feels and emotion.

Humans are hormonal beings.

My girls understands that I'm too busy, so they understand that when they text and I don't reply, it's because I'm too busy - too busy with my courses, too busy with work, too busy having fun, whatever.

I'm genuinely busy. They understand that. They see that what I put my phone down I put that crap away and don't touch it unless i absolutely have to.

They just understand, like my main girl says, "you're just not a text guy are you".

Yeah that's right.

She also understands that when they are with me, they get me 100% and I'll drill her like I'm trying to reach the earth's core.

And she looks forward to that.

also, a little anxiety doesn't hurt.

I sense that my main girl is a super anxious when I'm out of town, sends me emotional messages and pics and what not.

She even acts somewhat needy...

And I just shut that down by... not replying

When I get back, it's forget all that nonsense and drill time

she loves it... so oh well.

[–]Frosteecat4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your phone is like the 3rd wheel in your relationship.

I’m so glad that shit wasn’t a factor back in the day. It’s like an insecurity machine that people use to gauge their partners’ “real feels”.

Get out of your head. Every time you have frame issues your phone seems to be involved.

Go lift, have fun & STFU!! Stop using it as a lie detector/pacifier.

[–]GroundbreakingDevil2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Go out and get some strange, your Oneitis is showing.

[–]Gainster19901 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

X2

This is the a solid cure and also preventive medicine whilst in a ltr

[–]PillUpAss4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

You are giving way too many fucks. If she cheats, she cheats. Stop thinking that’s your responsibility.

Also, since you read Rollo, go back and review TRM and what he says about LTRs. If you had better options, you wouldn’t be doing this. Get better options.

[–]creating_my_life4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy

But my mind can’t help but creep in with hypergamic thoughts. “Hot girls. Mexico. Alcohol. Hit on Insecurity. Fuck this”

I give her 3 months before she figures out you're a beta pussy like the rest of the soy boys.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

50% of the humans on earth have a vagina. Why the fuck do you care if this one cheats? You can't stop her, and the way your hamster is going on overdrive tells me you have it comming anyway.

If she gives you reason to believe she's a lying whore, downgrade to plate.

No marriage, and no kids, this is a no brainer.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you had a "Mission " McFaggot, this wouldn't be an issue now would it ?

[–]coachdad8-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

She's calling you in between drinking with hot dudes from all over the world with sexy accents. I hear sun, alcohol, nice hotels, and lots of skin is a recipe for sexy time with strangers. But maybe you're right, maybe she's loyal.

[–]Bulk_king112 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yea she is. Your troll comment is cute tho

[–]Peter_B_Long0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

It sounds like you're trying to front about being this Chad persona but the fact that you're asking this question on this sub and you're expressing how emotional she's been about this trip proves otherwise.

If you were really "the dude stealing everyone’s girl when I was single" you wouldn't be worried about this shit. In fact, Chad would be too busy trying not to cheat while his girl was away vs. worrying about her 24/7.

It is what it is, and there's nothing you can do right now to prevent her from cheating. Acting like you're busy and avoiding her is such a beta move and I guarantee that if you try to front like you're too alpha to give a fuck, she WILL pick up on it, even in a different country and it will only increase the chances of her cheating.

[–]coachdad81 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

And his angry responses to the advice of the group proves he's just another scared guy trying too hard.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

she’s honestly more worried about me cheating on while I’m gone than vise versa.

Guilt can certainly do that so I wouldn't assume anything.

comfort

Do both comfort and Dread! Be busy and unavailable most of the time and provide comfort liberally. The 2/3 rule applies in this situation as in all. If she sends you 3 texts, you should respond with 2 etc.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Time's up. Do we get an update??

[–]Redpillbrigade17-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

Start with “All I think of is your hot body on the beach and how I would slowly rub sun tan lotion on you.” “Slip my fingers under your tight bathing suit.” “Feel you getting aroused as you relax more and more “

Etc

Get her to fully live that sensuous vacation but get off with you virtually. Did she pack a toy? Does she prefer her fingers? Sext her till she cums so she feels your strength and dominant frame even from thousands of miles away.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This would work if he was Alpha. Does he sound like it?

[–]Redpillbrigade171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ha good point..



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