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LTR Management

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November 28, 2018
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Hi guys,

i am pretty much unexperienced with women (28 years old).

Due to improving myself and my looks and upping my SMV, I was fairly successful with the ladies the last two years.

Right now I am in an LTR (24 years old).

I was doing a good job when we were dating and was using the advice i got from here and TRP.

I was showing a lot of abundance mentality and push pull was point on.

What I need now is a strategy guide for LTRs.

I started to let the beta shine a lot.

We are deeply in the honeymoon phase.

We are giving us cute nicknames and telling us how much we love each other and stuff.

I cringe on the inside but I cant stop doing it.

I mean she is really cute and submissive.

She is never bitching and respects me.

She is always excited and happy to see me and has never flaked before.

I havent seen any negative change until now, but I think I will in the long run.

Am I being a faggot? Should I start neglecting her a little more?

Sometimes I use dread on her or remove attention for a while.

She notices and adresses it covertly but it does not really change her behavior.

I am lifting and still seeing my guy friends. I keep my life busy.


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Title LTR Management
Author laylow82
Upvotes 16
Comments 27
Date 28 November 2018 02:40 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203771
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/a16rof/ltr_management/
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[–]innominating20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

All this is fine.

Read the commandments of poon and follow them. Give her a little less than she gives you. If she gives you a lot because you are the prize, you can give her a fair amount of beta comfort, because she earned it. Just make sure it is less than she gives you.

Always lift. Stay in shape. Keep improving.

Always make time for other men and go out and game other women a little.

Instill passive dread in your LTR. Make her jealous. Flirt with the waitress, but much better to have the waitress flirt with you and you act like it happens all the time.

If your LTR try’s to make you jealous, disregard, don’t mate guard, withdraw attention and give it to another woman.

Have firm boundaries. Assert them. Reward good behavior with beta. Never tolerate bad behavior.

You’ll be fine. Read the MRP sidebar. MMSLP will be good for you.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

You chased the bus and caught it, what now?

The only advice I am going to give you... Wrap it up, you are in charge of BC.

[–]rpsheepdog7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy

Go to Married Red Pill, read through the levels of dread

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (6 children) | Copy

Am I being a faggot?

Yes, but probably not for the reasons that you're thinking.

Sometimes I use dread on her or remove attention for a while.

I'm not really sure what you mean by "use dread" on her. Dread is something that should be constantly running in the background as the result of being a high value man with a busy life and abundant mindset. Don't be a try-hard faggot that feels like you always have to show her that you can get other women. If you truly are the prize, she'll feel that and adjust her behavior accordingly. Deliberately making her jealous is totally unnecessary if she's doing her part, and it reeks of desperation.

I started to let the beta shine a lot. We are deeply in the honeymoon phase. We are giving us cute nicknames and telling us how much we love each other and stuff. I cringe on the inside but I cant stop doing it.

If you're cringing at your own behaviors, what does that tell you about whose frame you're in? Some beta behavior is necessary in an LTR, but you can do it in a noncringeworthy way that is consistent with your own mindset.

It seems like your eyes are halfway open, but you really need to read the sidebar materials. The man you became after swallowing the pill is the man you need to be in an LTR. You're not changing who you are to accommodate a relationship, you're offering her a relationship because she adds value to your life, and you provide comfort to her (i.e beta) because you want to. The fact that you're asking if you should neglect her tells me that you're missing the overall point behind this.

[–]hystericalbonding4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

We are giving us cute nicknames and telling us how much we love each other and stuff. I cringe on the inside but I cant stop doing it.

I missed the part of the sidebar where it said to stop having fun. Read Pook. Play with her. If you're not having fun, then next her.

The key to LTR is that you'll get treated like a bitch if you act like a bitch.

[–]Chump_No_More4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you are a high value man, solidly in your frame, as your mental point of origin...

  1. You don't have a strategy for LTRs. you have a mission in which everything else is secondary.
  2. There is no Alpha with a side of Beta.
  3. You don't create dread. You are dread incarnate.
  4. You don't neglect the LTR, you prioritize yourself.

LTRs are a good exercise because they provide a metric for a newly RP'd man on his journey to determine how well he's internalized an Alpha Mindset.

Use your LTR as the anvil to harden your frame and the stone to hone your mission. And when she no longer adds value... Next.

You have more work to do. Get back to it.

[–]OMSnow1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good read.

[–]mindfulbutgutlessRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

[–]redwall922 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

The sidebar is for men to read. You don't exactly specify if you are a man or not in your post.

The sidebar does not require a man to be married, engaged, or in an LTR in order for benefit to be accrued from reading the sidebar.

You should read the sidebar.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

unexperienced with women

So go hop in an LTR, that way you gets LOTS of experience.

Faggot.

You are 28. Go bang 28 women by spring break 2019. Ill challenge you. It will be good for you.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your focus is way off. If you need a daily playbook, try this: abacaba, select, start.

Just maintain a healthily dose of dread by keeping your SMV slightly above hers.

Build the life you want, have a vision, be the best version of yourself possible, and take her along for the ride.

[–]TheThirdT1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing wrong with some beta behavior. Everything is relative to you being your own mental point of origin. You don't use dread...you are dread.

Questioning your actions, worrying about others actions, doing something that makes you cringe, seeking advice means that you have inner conflicts that you need to deal with.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Troll



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