Hi Guys, big improvements from sidebar and lifting over last 2 months, but i have a recurring problem that im not sure how best to deal with.
I has 2 young kids and sometimes they misbehave or cry like crazy over something minor like all kids do sometimes. My wife is very quick to shout at them and tell them off, tell them to stop crying, put them on the naughty step, where as i normally give them a little bit of time and ask them in a calm voice to calm down or stop being silly, ignore them a little and only after that start raising my voice etc.
This usually works for me fine, they calm down of their own accord, but when the wife is there she immediately starts telling me to tell them off, meaning shout at them or not let them get away with things, or your being too soft. To me this is because she gets angry when they misbehave and shouts because shes angry, but will never just leave me to do what i think is appropriate, she thinks i should do exactly what she does, or im being to soft.
I have tried to explain my way often works but she just thinks im being a wimp and i sure this lowers her respect for me. Ive tried explaining there is more than one way but she may agree when all is calm, but then just does the same thing regardless next time.
So, am i just being too soft and should really make sure to be the loud no nonsense discipline parent in the house, should i do my calm give them time, ignore approach, and just keep saying to her ive got it, or stop interfering over and over again.
Any other ideas, thoughts? I need to get this sorted as i think its undermining some of my good progress recently.
Thanks in advance