Wife flirting with my buddies a shit test?

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-10-24T12:32:41+00:00

Oh she's past all that party stuff right? She broke all her rules for you?

That sounds exactually what a man wants to hear dosent it?

You ever see the movie rounders?

If you can't spot the sucker at the table its you.

Based on the small amount of text you posted, it sounds like you are a sucker.

Westernhagen · 2018-10-24T14:36:44+00:00

39 with a 19 year old daughter? Past party phase experience? Reinvention change? More red flags than a Soviet military parade. Too bad you didn't discover the red pill before you wifed that up. But you can still serve as an example to others...

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-10-24T12:07:56+00:00

She’s getting feelz from random men that you’re not providing her.

Deal with that.

returnofthemackX · 2018-10-24T13:21:53+00:00

You are commiting to a girl almost in her 40's when you are in the prime of your life. She is also a reformed slut, which are the worst because they want to have their cake (slut phase) and eat it too (having a beta, you, committing later). And to top it off she gives you this bullshit.

Do what you have to do bro. Also, you have a lot to learn if that is your knee-jerk response to a shit test.

Reach180 · 2018-10-24T12:39:16+00:00

It's absolutely a shit test.

Anything you say like

you can jump back on the slut train if you want

is cringey beta mate guarding.

If you're a catch, you wouldn't give a fuck. "Maybe if you make him lunch, you could get him to work the rest of the day with his shirt off".

And if your buddy bends her over a saw horse, he's doing you a favor.

wkndatbernardus · 2018-10-24T15:53:37+00:00

STFU and get to lifting before Chadly Humpington backdoors your geriatric wife.

[deleted] · 2018-10-24T12:55:33+00:00

If you lifted and read enough you wouldn't give a fuck and you certainly wouldn't be here asking whether or not your butthurt, fear-drenched idea of a response is good. Hint: it's not.

[deleted] · 2018-10-24T13:59:42+00:00

"My wife/she/her" count = 21... in a two paragraph post.

[deleted] · 2018-10-24T13:25:27+00:00

Dear Logos, Don't you dare go and break any more of her rules. You are such a bad boy. No cookies for you!

Hypergamy must be satisfied you misogynist.

With Love, Feminine Imperative

hibloodstevia · 2018-10-24T17:02:35+00:00

You are beta bucks in her eyes. Probably not going to fix this with an old broken-down whore.

BIG_HUB · 2018-10-24T13:08:37+00:00

You’re so fucked, you don’t even know how fucked you are....broke all her rules, LMFAO!

friendandadvisor · 2018-10-24T20:26:12+00:00

My knee-jerk response will probably be something along the lines of “you can jump back on the slut train if you want, but I thought you were past that. And if you don’t mind, not with my buddies”

This is totally butthurt, and you need to forget about it.

Make plans for an exit. She is almost 40, and you should be Dreading her, not vice versa.

I think that you have oneitis. You need to be shopping for her replacement; she's already shopping for yours.

Don't say anything to her about it. What will it do? It won't improve your frame, it will only improve hers. Why is she not commenting on the hot chicks giving you IOIs? THAT is what you need to focus upon.

Rian_Stone · 2018-10-24T12:00:34+00:00

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Redpillbrigade17 · 2018-10-24T14:57:54+00:00

Yikes dude you’re beyond saving. You’re fully in her frame and you don’t even know it. You’re building sand castles in front of the waves with anything you want to open your mouth with when you’re in this state.

Red pill reality hasn’t even hit you yet.

RPAlternate42 · 2018-10-24T19:25:44+00:00

All posts should include the following:

how long have you been married
do you have kids
are you lifting?
what are your hobbies?
what Dread level are you on?

Without this, we can't see how much work you need to do.

I read this 3 times. I attempted to comment 3 times, and after every time I found more and more depth to the giant pile of hot refuse you've laid out before me.

I decided I can't say much that is useful beyond pointing out your obvious misfortunes. I would normally not find fun in this, but you are clearly pointing out the problems and then believing you can change things with your logically and well-constructed sentences.

You were married once, and divorced. This should have been the wakeup call. But no, and alas, you came out of that marriage as a bigger loser than before, retroactively rebranded yourself as a blue-pilled alpha, and then got married again to a woman with this shocking list of awesome, wifey traits:

39 years old
5 years older than you
has a kid that is 19
is a known slut

My wife is a little more clever than the average woman.

Wrong:

She is, by all accounts, a completely average woman. And she is not clever unless by "clever" you mean that she expertly got you to marry her even though she had a list of 4 things (above) that you were already aware of.

She is as clever as you aren't stupid; one does not find a $20 bill and call himself clever. You are that $20 bill: a large enough denomination to be considered valuable (but not the most valuable bill) and ubiquitous enough that everyone has one and everyone is very aware of them.

You are also, by all accounts, completely average: 34, divorced twice, married a 5 year-older slut who has a grown kid that lives with you, you think you're special somehow, and you believe talking to her and using clever sentences will surely convince her that you are right and that she is wrong.

Now that she is lusting after your buddies, you think more clever sentences will convince her of the errors of her ways.

Saying anything that isn't an AA response will come off as thirsty and saying what you want to say will make it taboo. Taboo = interesting and women love sticking interesting things into their multitude of orifices. it will also make you look weak and insecure and women hating putting insecure things into their vaginas.

Instead, say nothing (especially now since it's far past the moment). Instead, the next time she says that, simply state: "My wife doesn't lust after other men." Anything she says after, about it should be followed by "I'm not discussing it any more" with you going back to what you were doing. If she persists, leave. She will try as hard as she can to convince you it's harmless to talk openly about wanting to fuck your friends as long as you are present. If she persists and you ignore, but stay around her, she will stew, boil, and maintain a simmer of anger that will mount, build, and grow until the narrative becomes that you are controlling, an asshole, not the man she married, and any number of other attempts to shame you.

And you, based on this post, are a weak man who would quickly capitulate. Instead, if you aren't there, she can stew and be angry, but she will also ponder and wonder where you are and what your are doing. Ignore texts, calls, emails, etc. When you return, you manhandle the shit out of her: kiss, grope, escalate. If she goes along with it, then great... fuck the ever loving shit out of her. If her talking about your buddies makes you angry... then hate fuck her. Trust me, she'll love it.

And if she starts in, you pull a Hank Hill turn around and walk away. Maybe you spend the night at your buddy's place. Hell, even tell him about it, if he's a good friend. When you return you kiss, grope, and escalate. If she turns you down again, I hope you're on dread level 6, because anything less an this won't work.

If she turns you down again, you start working up the dread levels. Since you should be on level 6 before trying the walk out, I'll assume you've already done levels 4 and 5: time conditioning (being busy) and clothing (dress better.)

6: Study PUA. Test it on your wife. When she is unreceptive, walk away. If she pushes back, negatively, walk away and leave her alone. If she says anything to you in an attempt to shame you out of conditioning your time from her, AA, AM, fogging, etc. Flirt with her. treat it as a shit test to be passed. If she is still negative, leave the house.

7: Outside of the house, practice PUA on other women: Learn to have a conversation that is short, fun , and keeps her smiling and attentive. Keep it between 3 and 5 minutes and if the energy is good, get a number. You can do with it what you want, but the number was the prize, not her. This is just catch and release sport fishing.

8: If your wife hasn't fucked Chad yet, practice conversations with women in front of your wife. Limit this to service people helping you or women who are already interacting with you for a reason; don't seek out women to pick up like your wife is the wing man. The point is to demonstrate that you are comfortable around other women, you have casual abundance, and that other women are interested in you. She may sulk for a bit when she sees this, but she will want to fuck you to remind you that you are hers.

Somewhere between steps 3 and 4 and/or 7 and 9 is where the main event happens.

9: This is the threshold where she decides what to do. At this point, the amount of dread should be palpable for other people in the room. I think it's mostly understood that by the time you get here, she, or you, have likely checked out already. It's time to speak directly and plainly. Since, as an RP man, this is only done when things are serious (because keeping things light and breezy is the cornerstone to mystery and fun) so when you say those serious things, they hit harder. This is different than setting a boundary. With a boundary you simply state that you had an expectation that wasn't being met. It's up to her to fix it. With this, you are telling her that the boundary was crossed and that the leeway with you is over. Leave that in the air, then leave. Say nothing while leaving, while gone, and when you get back. Until the behavior changes, live as if she's not there except for logistics pertaining to the house or family. This is not an ultimatum (do this or this happens.)

To paraphrase Gen. Mattis: "Be polite, be professional, and have a plan to end any relationship with a woman."

Get your affairs in order, talk to a lawyer about options, have the papers prepared and pre-signed. Store them in a safe location. Make sure you are liquidating any fluid cash slowly, over time, and saving the money elsewhere (a buddy's bank account works as does a safe-deposit box.) These steps will make dread level 10 easier to address and almost business like.

10: It's been at least a month. or maybe a couple of weeks, and she is still not on board with you. Now it's ultimatum time. "Do [the thing] or this marriage will end." Say nothing more. This is the "come to Jesus" moment for her... she will either remember her life as a big empty mess that is unattainable at her present age and that she should make the most of a guy who is giving her more than enough leeway or she remembers how fun being a single slut was and believes she can make a go of it at the ripe old age of 40. Either way, you'll be fine.

Level 11: Regardless of what happens, get a series of plates or a girlfriend... anything to take your mind off of your aged slut wife. Don't try to hide it, but if the wife finds out, who cares... she's on her way out anyways... or is she? If divorce hasn't started yet and she is being good again, drop the plates and whoever else and recommit back to her. The dread levels are time for her to catch up to you and some women need 11 or even 12 step for this...

Level 12: fuck her feelings. Be open with the plates... tell them the situation and really slutty ones won't care. Tell your wife... at this point what could go wrong? She's a pain in the ass, a bad decision, but you gave her her chance and then some. If she'd rather just write you off, fine. Hand her the papers, tell your lawyer she has them in hand.

I know your situation isn't sex-related, which is what the dread levels were made for (DB situations) but the rules apply to any "bad" behavior on her part.

Stop trying to change a 39 year old slut with words: Acta non Verba: actions speak louder than words.

CalvinRichland · 2018-10-25T00:44:52+00:00

Hard next

lapeparoja · 2018-10-25T04:24:32+00:00

You should be banging the friends of her daughter, or something equivalent, not babbling about a 40 years old whore. You have never been alpha, dont delude yourself. Onwards and upwards! bluepill boy.

Title	Wife flirting with my buddies a shit test?
Author	InSearchOfLogos
Upvotes	6
Comments	48
Date	October 24, 2018 11:56 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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Stop trying to change a 39 year old slut with words: Acta non Verba: actions speak louder than words.