Her Sexual Changes (Direct vs. Indirect)

helaughsinhidden · 2018-09-18T17:53:20+00:00

BOTH!

Indirectly.

Wife has gone from the WORST backseat driver to giving road head. I did give her some positive feedback and she says "Oh, I wasn't sure you liked that" and smiled as if I would have ever turned her down previously.
Now, it's nearly a weekly occurrence.
Never lets me cum in her mouth for past 19 years and now she doesn't stops until I am done.
She told me she is working her way up to swallowing.
On letting me finish in her mouth, now suddenly she says "HUH? it's not nearly as bad as I remember, I kind of liked doing it".
She used to dodged anal big time, now she's even correcting her girl friends if they say they won't even try.

Directly.

"Put on those crotchless panties I bought you and send me some pics right now!"
"Bend over and spread your ass" she said "I don't like being told what to do" I slap her ass "It's not a request" She does it!
Heavy breathing during BJ and saying "Don't stop!" about 10 times in a row too. Each time she gets more excited and when done, she's so wet I could hardly comprehend it.

After 21 years together, I so wish I had learned this from my Dad or it it was required reading before marriage.

EDIT: I also stopped "asking" too. That was a change for me. Now, I just do or tell her what to do, not a back and forth conversation with a thought process, approval, and consent.

johneyapocalypse · 2018-09-18T17:10:25+00:00

I didn't directly influence my wife's sexuality per se, they did:

Mr. Crunch.
Mr. Curl.
Mr. Fuck You.

ReddJive · 2018-09-18T19:16:13+00:00

For the most part women married the man they want to be with.

Either you became a pussy or you failed to rise to the occasion.

Its the minority that married a woman that isnt on board with any changes or refuses to come along on the ride. Or maybe your fall was so far down they cant forgive it.

Either way. Doesnt matter. Stop hamstering the why. Accept it.

It just is. Your actions are more important.

zurgenfloggin · 2018-09-18T17:01:14+00:00

For me all of the improvement tracked indirectly — as you define it. The more I improved myself (lost fat, weight lifting #s went up, got proactive about responsibilities I had let myself get lazy about) the more she responded. Key moment was when improving myself became the goal and not improving her behavior. Let her worry about her.

For me this has been the real magic of mrp— improve yourself. Don’t make it a huge covert contract.

justpickanyusername · 2018-09-18T17:14:35+00:00

Both. You build attraction and employ dominance.

"~~I want you to~~ swallow my cum"

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-09-18T17:08:58+00:00

“have expanded your wife's sexual appetite”

No, it was always there, just not “for you”

2ndal · 2018-09-18T17:26:57+00:00

Indirect or directly? Both, definitely.

CaptJohnLukeDiscard · 2018-09-18T18:28:46+00:00

For the noobs reading this, every situation is different but this is probably close to a hard & fast rule... indirect changes should precede direct changes. By that, I mean that if she isn't subconsciously making indirect changes, direct requests won't be nearly as effective.

SorcererKing · 2018-09-18T23:25:11+00:00

Dread should - by definition - be "indirect". Once you have solid frame and get more congruent in your behavior, you can start being explicit about what you want in the moment. This is not some autistic sit-down-and-talk-about-her-swallowing-habit thing here.

IRunYourRiver · 2018-09-19T19:02:02+00:00

Reading these comments I'm left with this overwhelming sense that we all want the same things, our wives and us (and probably other women too). It's just that the hoops we have to jump through are different and our ways of displaying or burying our desires are different from each other and waay different from what we've been told.

BluepillProfessor · 2018-09-20T00:56:11+00:00

Mrp is done mostly indirectly but we do talk to our wives. Stuff comes up. Stuff gets discussed. The key is to Avoid negative energy like whining and complaining about not getting enough. Emphasize positive energy like talking about all the hot sex you want to have with her.

Title	Her Sexual Changes (Direct vs. Indirect)
Author	cutthesh1t
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Date	September 18, 2018 4:48 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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