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Melatonin and 9 month old

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August 5, 2018
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Background: Traveling with the wife but don't have any family in the city we live in. It is cheaper and more convenient for her to travel to where our family is to drop our 9 month old while we are on vacation. On the way back, she'll pick him up and fly back.

Story: I got a package today from Amazon with sleeping pills for kids 3 yrs old and up. When she got home I asked her what they were for. She told me since she was traveling alone, she was gonna use the pills to help him put to sleep for the flight duration. No doctor consultation, no consulting me. Just bough the pills. I said we are not doing that for a five hour flight. Gotta suck it up. Told me she wasn't going anymore.

I got angry since melatonin is no joke. Baby is 9 months old and she is traveling during the day with no layovers. I bought the tickets and asked the same day if it was going to be an issue of her traveling alone. In addition, medical decisions should be done by both. The only other decision we had an issue with before this (medical) was circumcision. Which I was able to persuade her not to do.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance.


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Title Melatonin and 9 month old
Author TATAUN
Upvotes 7
Comments 27
Date 05 August 2018 12:35 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204125
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[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Stand your ground. You shouldn't be drugging the 9 month old. I just traveled with a 3 month old. No drugs, no problems.

[–]WonderfulandValuable0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like the 9 month old is Satan himself;)

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You shouldn't be drugging the 9 month old.

This 1000X.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. Just no.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

As a one-off situation, this absolutely needs to be addressed.

But there is a MUCH BIGGER ISSUE.

Your wife’s willingness to drug a nine month old for her own, personal convenience.

No, your kid probably wouldn’t die, but there could be other, long term effects that HAVE NOT been studied because nobody wants to fuck up a bunch of infants to find out you shouldn’t give them medicine for 3yo and up.

I’m not going to freak your shit out by telling you all the bad shit that could happen, but I will make a comment based on my experience with my first wife being a heavy, medical user and doing some nefarious shit with my two little boys, ‘for her sanity.’

I told her if she ever did that shit again my first phone call would be 911 and I wouldn’t stop making phone calls until I found an attorney to terminate her parental rights and put her on supervised visits only.

So, with that in mind, please pay VERY CLOSE ATTENTION to what your wife is doing with your kid. This wasn’t a last minute bad decision based on frustration.

This was a pre-meditated, thought-out, act of bad will that indicates a potential flaw in her thought process.

I’m not trying to be an alarmist. I’m suggesting you simply start paying attention and look for patterns of behavior in her.

You don’t want to find out in 5 years that your kid is ‘slow’, or ‘emotionally off’ and is struggling in kindergarten, and wonder why.

[–]helaughsinhidden3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

3 yr old minimum, a warm bottle of formula is fine

[–]bourbonhipster4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife's greatly misunderstanding the function of melatonin as a sleep aid. Melatonin helps regulate sleeping patterns. It's not something that is going to knock you unconscious.

So my advice would be don't let her fly alone with your infant. Go with or go in her stead.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Oddly, my pediatrician advised that we could try it on our child. We never did but he did not raise any concerns about taking it. Although your boundaries are yours to hold

[–]friendandadvisor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oddly, my pediatrician advised that we could try it on our child.

LOL. "Try it on your child!" Shoot, I'd try pepper spray on YOUR child!

[–]WonderfulandValuable2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

  1. Child should have powered itself out BEFORE boarding.
  2. fly during the night or during regular bedtime.
  3. music and coloring pages/some quiet toy
  4. read to the child
  5. no sugar the day off and a pillow/blanket with Lavendel scent

Some suggestions for a relaxed flight without drugging the Child.

[–]45derangement0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

not that i'm advocating for drugging children, but you obviously don't have kids. i've had a 6 month old stay wide awake for 18 hours of flying. wide awake..

flying with kids can be a challenge and maybe as a non related passenger a crying kid is annoying, but everyone is going to have to suck it up. its funny as a parent, crying kids don't sound like fingernails on a chalkboard anymore, its just ambient noise.

[–]WonderfulandValuable0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A well tired out child will sleep on a plane. Or at least behave well if properly entertained.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Melatonin is perfectly safe for infants. So is benadryl. And cbd drops. Certainly not for everyday use but for a plane trip? Not a problem medically speaking.

That said, you can have whatever standards you want.

[–]Yetna2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Melatonin is a naturally occurring hormone. I don’t believe it can be classified as a drug.

[–]DoctorNini0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

In the dosages you can buy it in the US it absolutely qualifies as a drug.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

. 3mg for adults

[–]WolfofAllStreetz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Took our Daughter to Grand Cayman when she was 9 months old. No drugs, (I could have used some for me honestly), made it through fine.

Our friends gave their kid some kind of benadryl or something, gave the opposite effect... kid was up all flight. I found it funny, karmas a fickle bitch.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They sell melatonin over the counter, no prescription, In communist Canada. It is a joke. You look like a nieve tool thinking it could harm your child. Blowing up about it looks like you are actually searching out material to get bent out of shape over.

The way your wife is behaving is no joke and a completely separate issue.

Squash that shit.

Which I was able to persuade her not to do.

Who is the fucking captain of your boat. Does the captain have to persuade the first officer to go on a mission? Your In her frame if you have to convince her of anything.

She should be seeing you as the prize and asking you permission or validating her decisions (like medication for your child ) with you before taking action.

What the fuck is it with weak mother's today. 5 hours on a flight is hard? What the fuck did the generations before her do? What happened in the last 30 years?

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would tell her if she ever disrespects me and our marriage again by making decisions like this without consulting me again... there won’t be a marriage to disrespect a 3rd time.

[–]jacksarmy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

melatonin is no joke

Its an over the counter with no prescription needed, its a supplement, so it is a bit of a joke

[–]screechhaterRed Beret-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

Benadryl you dumb duck.

This is a good plan. Your frame sucks and you know it. Too bad she made the plan

[–]helaughsinhidden5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not in an infant

[–]screechhaterRed Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Actually yes. The plane ride for some can be a fucking nightmare.

Our middle child had hell until we used a bit of Benadryl. The bottle in her mouth didn’t help

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

IIRC, Benadryl causes depression in children. I think it's a bad thing to begin even if it's a one off for an infant. It will become too handy for mom to give sonny a blast or two before bedtime.

On top of everything else, though...the pills are FOR BABIES 3 YEARS OLD AND UP AND YOUR WIFE KNOWS THAT YOUR BABY IS ONLY 9 MOS. OLD. IS SHE POSSESSED?????



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