Line in the sand

DanceMonkeeDance · 2018-08-03T13:48:43+00:00

She is getting her tingles online because you are not giving them to her in real life. Work on yourself. Stay plan is the same as the go plan.

You've got a long way to go. Read all the sidebar, especially the posts on frame and mate guarding.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-08-03T14:06:11+00:00

That shits a bitch and I suspect low T is either a cause or a symptom and it's what's making me not be able to recover, and makes me completely unable to function if I'm sore and tired.

Occam's razor. Get your T checked. It's really that easy. discounted-labs.com. $36 to get tested. Buy the test, walk in with paperwork, blood drawn, results in your inbox within a week. I don't get paid by them, but I probably should.

Game my wife even more.

Fuck your wife even more. Choke her on your dick. She's clearly needing drama.

BTW, my FATdar is pinging majorly on you two. You both sound fat as fuck.

I see fat people.

redesquire · 2018-08-03T16:18:30+00:00

Since you're using a newly-created throwaway account the least you could have done is choose an interesting username. Maybe something like u/i'manonlinecuck or u/skinnyassfullofexcuses.

Bro, there was a time when I was the guy on the other end of the online activities with married women like your wife, until I realized how pathetic online "relationships" are after reading Rollo's essay Letting Go of Invisible Friends.

Do you know what these women had in common? They were married to fucking losers who couldn't generate tingles. These women were so desperate for masculine attention they would send me unsolicited nudes, naughty videos of themselves masturbating, cumming, squirting, etc., and would tell me all of the filthy, degrading things they fantasized about me doing to them. Open your fucking eyes, faggot. This is what your wife is doing ... right under your nose. And your only response is "don't ask, don't tell?" Newsflash, my friend, the "sex is good" because online Chad is getting her wet, not you.

You think you're safe because "she only chats with randoms from way out of state?" Pull your head out of your ass. You have no fucking idea how many dudes shes fucking around with, how often, where they live, etc. You only know what you have learned through holes in her opsec. Bad news, buddy ... every time you penetrate the holes in her opsec, she shores them up and locks her shit down even more. You have only scratched the surface.

There's a woman I used to know who projects the image of being the perfect wife and mother. Her husband has absolutely no idea that she is sexual freak online, she posts nudes to numerous NSFW subreddits, she's is a member of a secret kik group specifically for married people looking for affairs, and she's likely had one or more actual affairs. Her opsec is fucking locked down, and her husband is completely in the dark, and he probably thinks all is well because she's fucking him on the regular. Sound familiar?

I'm positively the only guy having sex with my wife(or else she wouldn't hold that title)

Wake the fuck up. I've had women (possibly even your wife) from all over the fucking country BEGGING me to travel to them, or to meet them at a neutral location, because they're desperate to fuck. They think about it constantly, to the point where they have already worked out their alibi, who would watch their kids, where we would meet, how to avoid being detected, etc. Guaranteed your wife has already mentally prepared the logistics, and has hamstered a justification for crossing that line. But I guess you're cool with that, since your sex life is good.

I never took any of those women up on their offers, and I've been out of this game for more than a year, but there are at least 5 women I could text right now who would move heaven and earth to set up a fuckfest on 24 hours notice. Now that I think about it, since you're apparently cool with getting cucked, you should just DM me your wife's info. It's been a while since I watched a married woman get herself off while fantasizing about me fucking her in ways you can't. Unless she's fugly, of course, in which case I'm not interested. Gotta be HB8 or higher to be worth my time.

But for the past couple years I've had to play whackamole doing mate guarding online. Telling her she stepped out of line and to cut it out.

She clearly has no respect for you and your weak-ass attempts to establish boundaries. I wonder why....

You have a fuckload of work to do on yourself. Best get started.

red-sfpplus · 2018-08-03T15:08:18+00:00

Also, divorce has been on my mind but I don't need that shit right now. My kids don't need that shit right now

Bullshit.

See a lawyer.

Why? That is like taking a chick home to fuck her, but then not having the balls to do it.

Listen man, I waited 10 months to long to get divorced. I am so happy now. My kids are happy. You do not see how dead the grass is you are standing on till you move to the other side, look back and see it is dead and fucking yellow as yellow.

When every hill is the one she wants to die on, pull the rip cord.

When my kids said "Dad we like going out with just you" after she moved out.

I knew I made the right decision.

RandomlyChosenTitle · 2018-08-03T17:28:22+00:00

That shits a bitch and I suspect low T is either a cause or a symptom

You can get a temporary T boost just by successfully gaming some women. Go spin some plates and see if that helps. Don't worry about your wife, just tell her:

"I need to do this because it makes me feel good and keeps me healthy."

Oh, she wouldn't find that to be at all reasonable? Interesting...

RelativeJellyfish · 2018-08-03T13:56:29+00:00

Man, you are all over the place in the post. Seems like your wife is having emotional affairs with randoms on the internet. Your (sex) life is good (according to you). So you need find other outlets for your mind and energy.

My best advice is: Trust but Verify. The occasional snooping is ok, but it's probably better to notice any slight behavioral differences (and then verify).

Otherwise, you know what you need to do. Make you better...

Countpudyoola · 2018-08-03T14:24:12+00:00

Your form is either out on your dl or squat. There should never be a point where you can out squat your dead unless you aren't squatting low enough or you're deading with your back and not your abs. Before you hurt yourself shell out for a trainer for a month or two. The upfront cost will save a lot in the end.

She's playing an online MMRPG called imaginary affair.

Whatever.

Your best angle would be to shut up about it, and just monitor (clandestine) to make sure it only stays in cyberland. Especially if you're knocking boots well and consistently. It's a mental fetish and you're giving her a hard time so she's now rationalizing it to you.

Maybe you get svelt, start taking a cue from the online narrative what you should be pushing into new territory with, and she gets bored with it like most do with a game after a while. The key is to make sure YOU are what she ends up steering towards if she gets bored with it instead of amping into IRL activities.

So really people have their quirks and if it all stays online and I were you and getting my needs met I would just laugh it off as her hobby.

But yeah, I'm with u/SteelToeShitKicker . Ya'll are fat. Cool. Be fat. Just be less fat than her and strong fat. And able to game less fat chicks than her.

Rian_Stone · 2018-08-03T14:23:51+00:00

holy trinity

i fucking hate when people make this shit out to be a cult or ideology.

FixYourselfFirst · 2018-08-03T13:51:00+00:00

adrenal weakness - Have you seen a doctor about this? Are you being treated? You need to worry about your health first, then the health of your relationship.

You do have some relationship issues with your wife. But those are secondary to your health issues.

mindfulbutgutless · 2018-08-03T14:28:57+00:00

I've been struggling with adrenal weakness. I'm trying to minimize stress and get my lifestyle in check but, yeah.

what is your body weight and hieght? Eat your lean muscle mass in grams of protein, get 8 hours of sleep and make sure you are properly executing each lift. Do Not over work yourself at the gym. 3x a week spaced out to a allow recovery and adaptation.

My kids don't need that shit right now

there will never be a good time with this attitude.

Any of you ever deal with adrenal weakness/burnout?

Yes, about a year ago I gave myself CNS fatigue/failure, Dr. thought it was renal issue but I had perfect kidney function. Symptoms are similar to adrenal weakness. My was cause by DL 3x a week heavy and squatting just as much. took about a week and a half off from the gym and complete reset my NLP starting back at 135# on all lifts except OHP the went down to 85#. Since then I have studied about volume and stress/recovery/adaptation cycle & tinkered around with different sets/weights until I found what worked for me. Your body will adapt, it just may take you longer. Or you just might be a pussy and using this as an excuse because it got difficult.

suprathepeg · 2018-08-03T17:04:02+00:00

So for getting fit. You obviously need to eat more and work on lifting heavy but clean.

Get your T checked for sure but diet is king at all times.

Download MyFitnessPal on your phone. Set yourself a goal of adding 10lbs and track your meals. Your likely either low on macros (protein, fat and carbs) or micros (nutrients) figure out what your eating over a couple weeks and then make some intake targets. Something like 175g of protein and 200-400 calories over your maintenance level to add muscle.

You need some carbs to build muscle but wildly overeating low value carbs (grains and sugars) will also build fat too which is somewhat counter productive. Do your own research on carbs but I’m a proponent of high fat/low carb eating to stay lean.

I’ve done dirty bulk in the past and yes you get bigger and stronger but you also get fatter. The much better way is a lean bulk. Gaining 40lbs over the next year only to have to diet down 20lbs kinda sucks and is harder work than adding 10lbs of lean muscle. Once you get fat it can take a lot of mental energy to completely rejigg to lose weight not to mention it’s in no way good for you.

Also make sure your eating high value foods rich in micro nutrients like steak, good veggies etc. Starving for vitamins will make your body want to store fat more than build muscle. Regular fast food isn’t your preferred path.

If you add 10-20lbs of muscle over the next year you’ll look and feel totally different than now.

If you’re a sloppy lifter than you’re gonna want to either get a partner who knows how to lift or hire a trainer to get your form in check. Hurting yourself needlessly in the gym will only set you back.

Bedtimeshine · 2018-08-04T06:19:33+00:00

She should have got served D papers after the second time.

Title	Line in the sand
Author	newthrwy1214
Upvotes	2
Comments	58
Date	August 3, 2018 1:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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