I understand the urge to snoop. But why do we snoop? You cannot control someone else. You can only control yourself.
There have been a few posts in the last few days that were initiated because of snooping. I understand - you get a hunch, it eats away at you, so you go and look. Hard to fight back. You're afraid. Why?
You're afraid of her leaving. Let that sink in for a moment.
Do you know AWALT? Then what are you afraid of?
Do you have your personal shit together? Then what are you afraid of?
Do you know hypergamy is a thing? Then what are you afraid of?
Nine times out of ten, the time would have been better spent un-fucking the relationship, or better, un-fucking yourself.
My point being...RP men shouldn't snoop. Snooping is for chicks. It's insecure. You should be busy being confident, getting stronger, increasing your SMV. If she swings, be ready to get a newer hotter one. But honestly - if you're hot, and funny, and fuck her right - the odds are in your favor.
I don't snoop. I love my wife, but I also love my life without her in it, because I have cultivated a life for myself that I love. She gets to share in it. Were she to swing away...it was my turn.
I am curious what others have to say about this, as there may be better reasons for snooping (perhaps a large sharing of assets to protect. Children also come to mind.)
Rather than "trust but verify", I practice "assume, and don't worry about it."
Thoughts?
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