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Finally understand "be attractive"

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April 16, 2018
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I finally get "be attractive".

I have been here for just under a year with all of the sidebar read and lifting 3-4 times a week....slowly becoming more attractive. In the first couple of months, the anger stage which led to being Rambo was all about getting more sex from my wife.

Finally clicked last night why I don't need to worry about what my wife wants/thinks at all. As I become more attractive, I am getting more interest from other women. I am not fully where I want to be with my wife but it doesn't matter. There is a point coming very soon where the options available will outweigh the loyalty I have for my wife and she knows it. As more attractive women openly begin to hit on me, she will have no choice but to enthusiastically have sex with me or I will leave. Her options are to have enthusiastic sex with me or risk me leaving for someone more attractive. My options are stay or go - the more attractive my options are, the easier it is to leave.

Understanding this allows me to see how the next 6 months to a year will unfold - which leads to a sense of calm and confidence which will only lead to better handling of shit tests.


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Title Finally understand "be attractive"
Author FossilGuy16
Upvotes 11
Comments 35
Date 16 April 2018 04:18 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204613
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/8coqy4/finally_understand_be_attractive/
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[–]BostonBrakeJob10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're right, you do understand "be attractive."

"Don't be unattractive" on the otherhand....

[–]FossilGuy16[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

??

[–]CaptJohnLukeDiscard18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

Don’t get your validation from IOIs from strange or from sex with the wife. That’s weak and puts your sense of worth in others’ hands.

What is your mission? Find your mission, chase it, and let the women sort themselves out. Assuming you have your shit together (attractive, finances, etc.), the less you worry about poon the more it will come to you.

[–]johneyapocalypse6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t get your validation from IOIs from strange

Agreed.

Don't become an alcoholic to overcome being addicted to opiates.

[–]thunderbeyond0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Very well put.

[–]crimson_chris3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

You still give too many shits. As you give less shits about your wife because you are living your mission, you have a social life, you are verile and hawt from eating like a god and hitting iron - the more women (and possibly your wife) will be drawn to you.

If you are actively thinking about it, you are not there. And it's not just about being physically attractive (but that is part of the puzzle).

This weekend my wife did something bitchy so I withdrew my attention. She confronted me later by throwing a temper tantrum (it was cute). I finished what I was doing according to my initial schedule and when I went to hang with her she was all cuddles.

Two times in the last couple of weeks my wife asked me "why are you punishing me" - meaning withdrawing my attention. On one hand, I need to be more subtle when withdrawing attention. On the other hand she now sees me withdrawing attention as "punishment". There was a time not long ago when she DNGAF about me being around.

MRP is a sexual strategy. But, attraction is a side effect of being an awesome motherfucker. Focus on being awesome (for you), not on being attractive (for validation). Wash on, wash off first - then kick Jonny's ass.

[–]FossilGuy16[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I still give too many shits, yes, but compared to where I was, I am much improved and starting to see external signs of it.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I finally get "be attractive".

no, apparently you do not; because

she will have no choice but to enthusiastically have sex with me or I will leave. Her options are to have enthusiastic sex with me or risk me leaving for someone more attractive.

as you phrased it her negotiating with herself about having sex with you.

ATTRACTION CANNOT BE NEGOTIATED

now what is true is that as you become more physically attractive and develop abundance you will become more outcome independence which is emotionally attractive.

maybe, maybe not, your wife will start to feel a little tingle in her vag and she will want you inside of it.

in other words:

TINGLES UBER ALLES

[–]FossilGuy16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

i think what I am trying to state is that I am getting over my oneitis and with that things will naturally change. If it doesn’t I leave.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Another chief negotiator lol

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ATTRACTION CANNOT BE NEGOTIATED

But it can be COMMANDED.

[–]Reach180Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

As more attractive women openly begin to hit on me, she will have no choice but to enthusiastically have sex with me or I will leave.

Fake enthusiasm so you don't leave....sounds so hot when you put it that way.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Understanding this allows me to see how the next 6 months to a year will unfold - which leads to a sense of calm and confidence which will only lead to better handling of shit tests.>

The sense of calm is huge. When I internalised u/BluePillProffessor's prescription for 1 month for every year of marriage and simultaneously started to see the IOI's and figure out they were IOI's a sense of calm descended.

I am coming up to my half way point on the prescribed timeline. If things keep moving like this it will be great, totally unrecognisable in terms of improvements both personally, family wise and sexually. Relationally, it's not toxic but it's also not that interesting, other than the sex.

I realise however that is no reason to rest. If truly, the stay plan is the go plan, i have a lot of work to do in the next 6 months.

That keeps my pride in check.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

First understand that Oneitis, also is a direct statement of the belief in a man's lower value, to their wife or to "another".

Second, end Oneitis by changing your beliefs. NOT by replacing the source of that validation.

The same validation that continues the Oneitis loop, is an ongoing defacto statement of lower value. A statement of lower value that ends immediately with the end of Oneitis.

In spite of your gains in the gym, the problem is your programming.

[–]crimson_chris1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's all a power play. A woman will never be "happy" in a relationship where she has a man with a lower SMV. That is why relationships built on the foundation of Oneitis are doomed. What's funny is how much women will fight (shit test) any new found confidence from a historically shitty Captain. She thinks she wants power in the relationship, but once she has it - she will begin to resent her partner.

[–]FossilGuy16[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

I would agree that my programming is my biggest hurdle and overcoming it has not been easy. The sense of calm I refer to is the knocking down of the pedestal and starting to have abundance.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

And that, I will grant you, is a very good start. Because you are doing the work, everyone here has chimed in for you.

The point I'm making is the next step of your progress, that so many here have also been through. Your story reads that you are curing your Oneitis by seeking validation elsewhere. Trying to tell you that you are replacing it, not curing it. Same problem, different target/source.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

i have no issues with OP getting his validation or dick wet from other thots.

as you elude to their's levels to this shit. first, discover that that sweet sweet validation (and pussy) is widely available. step 2, get so much of it that you finally figure out that this is not really what your searching for. step 3, stop needing it and self validate.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nice explanation. There may be other paths, but the territory to be covered, and the destination, are the same.

[–]FossilGuy16[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I have been struggling with this for awhile, how to change your mindset. Not as easy as just telling yourself to change and it doesn’t come in one step. I think it comes from building yourself up which then affects your mindset...as you laid out. Thanks

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

how to change your mindset

definitely the hardest part of MRP. IMO it flows from actions you take and the feedback that comes from that action.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hey Foss,

Just ignore the other commenters picking on all the flaws in the text you probably wrote in 30 seconds. Wearing their fancy ass red beret hats, swinging their terminology around.

Jokes aside, I had that recently too, after months of hard work. It is a nice feeling when that SMV rises up above hers, and that look on her face when you get some attention, the kind of attention that she used to have to fight off to get / keep you. That vision you had of yourself back when you were an angry beta, that motherfucker has come alive.

Own it. Enjoy it. Don't overcook it.

[–]FossilGuy16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks.

[–]2ndalRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I finally get "be attractive".

do you?

what part of "i'm attractive, fuck me!" is attractive?

[–]FossilGuy16[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

That is not me expectation at all...I am starting to not give a fuck, probably due to abundance.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

she will have no choice

Covert contract.

My options are stay or go

No. Those are her options. Since the relationship is her responsibility.
She knows how to keep you interested.

[–]FossilGuy16[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

When I said she will have no choice, what I mean is that she can fuck me or I go elsewhere. Covert contract...I don’t think so, I don’t care with way.

Her options are stay or go. My options are stay with her or divorce her.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Be attractive for yourself, other's appreciating it is a byproduct.

[–]FossilGuy16[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yes

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

DEER, is someone getting a little defensive?

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Her options are to have enthusiastic sex with me or risk me leaving for someone more attractive. My options are stay or go

Laying it out stark and bare for all to see. This is why MRP "works" because it forces the issue and provides very clear options to the woman. Fuck me or fuck you. It is crude, rude, and obnoxious- and absolutely essential in modern relationships where women have all the power. You have to be a man and knock her off that pedestal. When she is in a defensive crouch looking up at you with awe and a touch of fear you will not get denied regularly any more.

[–]imakegreatmeat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

O

[–]aureliusshrugs-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

How the fuck did this get 81% upvoted? This is weaksauce validation seeking bullshit.

So little content yet: 4 wife 2 women 2 she 1 her 5 attractive

You clearly have no mission other than trying to impressing a bunch of people on the internet. Look Mommy! I learned shit! Here's your cookie.



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