Loved the sarcasm in the “Anniversary Ideas” Post yesterday. Had me thinking... It’s funny, but also kind of sad, too.... For how many of us was this the Go-To plan in our marriages ? It sure was for me.
While we can deconstruct what OP was lacking in his post, everything really, one concept that stood out to me was the concept of creating sexual tension with my wife. Well, my complete lack of it pre MRP.
I always thought that my wife would or should want to fuck me for taking her out to a nice dinner, getting a baby sitter, buying an expensive present, etc. This would be my reward for being Nice and dedicating my life to her. Being a nice guy who didn’t force her to have sex. Bullshit. I was boring , predictable, vanilla, beta.
For newbs, She won’t automatically just want to suck your dick at the end of the night spontaneously (well, maybe for vets) Yes, do all the other things that make you attractive by reading the sidebar meterial, , but you Must stroke her responsive desire throughout the day. Remember, you are doing it for you, not her. Stick to basics: kino, text game, flirt, push/pull, just be awesome. Live your life in the Now.
I’ve been ramping this up last few days with my wife preparing for this weekend. It Was a busy fucking week. I started strong lifts too two weeks ago again after getting injured playing basketball, so I’m incredibly horny this week. Blood pumping. Imma fuck the piss out of her good.
Let her know this , tell her, you want her fucking body, want to ravish it . Ramp it up as the days go by. As my wife was leaving this morning for work, we kissed goodbye, I pulled her into me, pick her up and put on the edge of the counter, grinding, and said I couldn’t wait to rip off her panties off later on.... And I started to unzip her jeans , she was all giddy and laughing, licked my face, gave a wink and headed out the door. I knew she had to leave. We had no time. That wasn’t the point. I wasn’t doing it for her, it’s for me, It’s fun for me to do drive bys. She already text me flirty shit all morning. She is primed up for tonight.
For hard case Newbs, learn how to sexually escalate with your wife, first. Sex is a build up for her, starts in her mind first. She doesn’t just want to jump to the end of the story (sex) and insert dick in here- like us. Watch any dumb beta Rom Com movie, there’s a story first before he nails her.
Sex is a build up, and then release. It’s a dance. Everything is like this. Listen to the greatest composers (Mozart, Bach) on how they structured their melodies . It’s a slow build up, with spikes here and there, ramping up, a peak, and then release (or multiple .. if you’re good)
Everything needs tension in order to grow. Take a little acorn, it requires tension to expand enough to put enough hoop stress on it to cause it to split, and than attract nutrients from the earth in order to grow into a large powerful tree.
Walk into the tension. Don’t hide from it. Don’t avoid confrontation. That’s where you will grow too. Confront it with confidence. Feel it flow through you, acknowledge it, and walk right into it. When you walk into the tension, your wife will see you in a different light. Chicks don’t do this. It’s your job. Then, you will get those unsolicited BJs. That’s when you will know that your MAP is working.
Be a fucking man. Don’t jump to the end of the story, build it up.