how to handle anger

TheFamilyAlpha · 2017-06-16T18:22:13+00:00

I cannot hold frame the way I would like to when angry.

Frame = reality

You shouldn't have to hold frame as it isn't something you do, it's who you are.

It's OK to be angry, it's a part of being a man. We are simultaneously the more violent and romantic of the sexes.

You are walking this 'life path' alone, embrace that. Recognize you have very few breathes and you can either use them pissed or you can find comfort in the discomfort.

Learn to Smile in the Rubble Life is good brother, then it's gone.

Don't get so caught up in TRP, MRP, or global politics that you forget to enjoy your own backyard and the things that really matter in life.

Go out and Hang a Polaroid in your life, detox a little and learn t oenjoy something as small as a breeze.

bogeyd6 · 2017-06-16T18:50:01+00:00

As someone who is quitting nicotine, yeah you have your answer right there. First two days I could have ripped someone's head off for sipping their coffee too loudly.

brotherpotatos · 2017-06-17T16:52:04+00:00

I find myself like this when I have a lot on my plate. I have to do a b and c that I Dont want to do. Meanwhile what I really want to be doing is something else. I'm split and I'm mad. I'm holding my environment accountable instead of myself. I've lost site of the mission that put me where I am. The original thoughts that led me to where I am either did not account for complications or the toll of stress has been born more harshly than projected.

Chances are you are trying to fix things by adjusting the tactical level of operation, but the real problem is a few levels back on the strategic level.

elvezisdead · 2017-06-16T18:07:08+00:00

Get a therapist - Deep down you know why you're mad, you just need to deal with your past and move forward. Great job with all the physical stuff, now you gotta lift that mental shit.

straius · 2017-06-16T19:05:06+00:00

How long have you been doing RP? Do you think it's possible you could just be experiencing a delayed anger stage?

Therapy is not a bad idea either because you'll likely need to untangle the why before you'll be able to find the right tool to process it.

Just "turning it off" may be a recipe for problems of repression. Which if true, could also explain the seeming irrational nature of your anger.

If looking for a therapist, you may have luck with a DBT trained counselor. Also look for a therapist that understands men's issues. I found one that is actually RP aware which makes the whole process a lot easier as he understands the terminology and concepts already.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialectical_behavior_therapy

FireTempered · 2017-06-17T01:17:26+00:00

I remember a guy that set himself up in a sniper position and had a small town pinned down till he ran out of ammo. When they cuffed him said. "I don't know why I did it other than I quit smoking last week. Seems I've been a little on edge."

I quit years ago. Some of my business associates still remember it, not fondly.

FireTempered · 2017-06-17T01:17:33+00:00

I remember a guy that set himself up in a sniper position and had a small town pinned down till he ran out of ammo. When they cuffed him said. "I don't know why I did it other than I quit smoking last week. Seems I've been a little on edge."

I quit years ago. Some of my business associates still remember it, not fondly.

saysomestuff · 2017-06-17T06:39:55+00:00

Have you done anything to your diet? Any kind of low carb made my moods terrible until I went full keto.

youcantdenythat · 2017-06-17T11:36:24+00:00

I had to rewire myself to use amused mastery. It took awhile.

Before, when I got angry, I usually had a quick flush of rage then an urge to retaliate. I learned to recognize that flash of rage and forced myself to laugh (sometimes just laugh to myself) instead.

I get a little flush of pride now that I manage myself in a way that many can't.

It's great to see people get pissed and angry while I'm just sitting there laughing to myself about how foolish they are to let their emotions get the best of them.

For example, I used to get roadrage if someone honked at me in traffic. Now I just smile and wave and watch them rage-out haha.

Title	how to handle anger
Author	rejonkulous
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Comments	23
Date	June 16, 2017 5:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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