Need a game plan

40mullet · 2017-04-12T07:33:20+00:00

First real improvement is when you don´t need to post your progress anymore.

gettingmymojoback · 2017-04-12T09:51:45+00:00

Give yourself time to digest the sidebar materials and actually understand and internalize them. It's an ongoing process. Don't expect change overnight, it will take months of consistent effort in the gym and in the kitchen before you see any visible results. Just stick with it, and keep doing the work.

Most importantly, have fun with it. Once you come to the realization that 95% of it is all BS, you can let go of the anger and start making real progress. Resist the urge to go Rambo and learn to STFU until you get a better grasp on things. Go slow. There's a reason the "1 month per year of marriage" guideline exists.

There's a ton of useful information posted on this sub, what you do with it is completely up to you.

TLDR: Lift, read, and STFU should be your immediate goals.

man_in_the_world · 2017-04-12T10:16:48+00:00

If there was a 12 step program you could follow and fix years of being a beta faggot, don't you think that somebody would write a book about it?

If it was so simple and easy that we could give you a one-page crib sheet and you could speak the magic spells and get laid like tile again, that would be the sidebar. But it's not. The sidebar is the shortcut, but it's still a long, hard road. If what we offer here is too much effort, go to /r/DeadBedrooms/ and vent about your sad situation, and you'll get a lot of commiseration there.

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-04-12T12:29:02+00:00

You're not going to get hand holding here. And there's no information on where you are anywhere in your short history.

easily

HA!

LewisCross · 2017-04-12T14:16:05+00:00

while you're doing all the sidebar things and especially reading NMMNG, start thinking about what you want.

You've lived for so long considering what everyone else wants that you've sorely neglected what YOU want.

Start asking yourself "what do I want? What do I want to see/do/talk about/be/hear/go to/experience? What will I get out of this? What's in it for me?"

And stop caring about what everyone else thinks about what you want.

If you want it, and can do/get/be it without causing injury to anyone else, then it is good and right. If you want it and are willing to do the work for it, then who is anyone else to say you shouldn't have/do/be it?

I want to stay up and drink two fingers of Bulleit before I get to bed tonight to privately toast a friend who passed away. I want to do it alone. It's a private, solitary thing. I want to mourn his passing and remember the good times and I want to be left alone while I do it. It is good and right for me to do this because I want it. I don't have to defend, excuse, explain or rationalize that to anyone. I want it, therefore it is good and right, fitting and proper, for me to do it, and no one else has any right to say I can't or shouldn't.

OldRoke · 2017-04-12T08:47:19+00:00

Gym: Start a programme and stick to it. I do 5x5 stronglifts and find the app on my phone really helps. Useful for someone who suffers from 'fuckarounditis'.

Reading: Read everyday for at least 30 minutes and start a reading list to get through. WISNIFG, NMMNG first. Next - Rationale Male, Mindful Attraction Plan, Book of Pook. Tips, use a kindle and highlight the important bits, or make notes. Reread your notes to get them into your skull.

There is no easy way - you find your own way

BobbyPeru · 2017-04-12T16:33:18+00:00

Be patient with your progress and don't beat yourself up.

Forge forward

capn_barnacles · 2017-04-12T16:54:00+00:00

I'm too new to be giving advice, but I think most experts would say step 1 is to lift and start identifying and passing shit tests (aside from reading and internalizing).

rocknrollchuck · 2017-04-12T17:25:33+00:00

Bluepillprofessor's book provides the best step-by-step framework I've seen yet. Very detailed and worth every penny.

223552 · 2017-04-13T08:31:05+00:00

Bluepillprofessor has his steps of dread, I found it a pretty good place to start. He also has about 20, 10-15min audios on different steps (don't have the link, but try bluepillprofessor.wordpress.com), listen to them during commute/workouts.

The sidebar books will fill in the holes.

Asking questions here, is also very helpful.

discobolus_ · 2017-04-12T13:18:11+00:00

I want to be a masculine leader. Who can I follow to get me there?!?

Bluepill Professor's book is as close as a step by step guide as you can find. But don't start reading it yet. If you read the sidebar in order, it will be the last book you read in the RP 101 section. Fortuitous, that.

The real trick - which is something nobody here can help with - is determining which pieces work for you and which pieces don't. And the really real trick after that is re-assessing the things that didn't apply to the version of you that first heard of them, but now apply to the version of you that's a few miles farther down the road.

Title	Need a game plan
Author	Bee_Complex
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	April 12, 2017 7:09 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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