First time poster. Been slowly making changes for awhile now...
Since the wedding, sex dropped off. Things improved greatly when we started talking about a baby... eagerness, frequency, etc. Made me think things had been fixed so we went off birth control...
Pregnancy, I was doing my blue pill darndest to take care of her. Every ache and pain was cause for attention and concern. Baby was born, no sex for 5 months. I was trying to be supportive and understanding (so Blue Pill) but finally had a conversation. She blows up at me. Eventually we get into an every 1.5 week routine or so. I would have left her by now if it weren't for our daughter.
Our daughter is now 14 months old. I've been lifting and reading since I found TRP shortly after that. I can't help but resent my wife, although I'm learning to let go. I felt tricked and trapped for the longest time. My physique is improving, career is going well, but she hasn't desired me since the pregnancy. Nothing I'm doing seems to be working and I need some help refocusing my efforts. I love being me now, but the infrequent sex is not ideal. After we start I can get her really going, but she's always been more reserved even then.
Stats: lifting 5x5 stronglifts for over 6 months now. 6 foot, 165 lbs, 15% body fat, good facial bone structure. Squat, bench and deadlift ~1x my bodyweight. Not where I want to be but an improvement.
Read: sidebar articles, rational male, NMMNG (not quite done with this one yet)
Dread: dressing nice, going out for drinks without her less than once a month (always sends her into a shitstorm meltdown), went on a guys' trip recently that she keeps trying to guilt me over, lifting regularly, getting involved with my church and the local chamber of commerce but I definitely need something more on the social front
Her: not breastfeeding, working part time. Her father was and is the perfect beta low-T provider. We live in rural MN so we are surrounded by that culture. Only had one boyfriend before me back in High School. This has been corroborated by friends and family, so if she is to be believed her N count is 1. I generally own my shit around the house, but not in her eyes. Example: she is of the strong opinion the lawn should be mowed twice a week. For our lawn, that would be a colossal waste of time most of the summer. She uses it as an excuse to see me as less than. I would call her a classic straight-laced tight-wound stubborn redhead who should've gone on to be a career girl, but instead hasn't worked a full time job since the wedding 5 years ago.
Finance: All of my wealth is in investments (in a protected trust), only pulling in 5 figures right now because I'm working at one of the startups my family owns. I am on track professionally to meet my life goals. We go on vacations regularly (ski vacations, she hates skiing; but I'm not going to change that for her. She's welcome to come with or not come with, she's been on every one so far)
Game: N count of 8 or 9. I did pretty well in college for the brief period that I wasn't head over heels in a blue pill relationship, which was most of my college experience sadly. I felt really at home being single and playing the field... but I have this terrible habit of getting into serious relationships accidentally (nice guy syndrome) and turning into a total pussy.