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Archwinger · 2016-07-24T13:33:35+00:00

I've never understood women who file for divorce but still keep trying to be sexual, friendly, or romantic.

It's an official divorce proceeding. Not just one more random shit test. Some lines you don't cross.

FireTempered · 2016-07-24T13:43:56+00:00

My iron rule of divorce 101.

Once the papers are filed, quit fucking her.

Stay away from her.

Start a new life while you can, time is a-wasting.

Anything else is proven to not work, is retarded.

EDIT: Assuming you want the divorce...

throwaway99847 · 2016-07-24T16:02:32+00:00

We got an early start and 20 years in, she is just getting into her career. The most I can get out of her is that she doesn't feel like she can make a decision without running it by me first. She wants to stand on her own for a while.

I told her I wasn't going anywere. So she's having me buy her out of her half of the house. The kids are still here. She was in the process of moving out until her lawyer advised her to stay in the home. Looks like we'll get to an amicable uncontested, she's taking all of her debt with her. I've been lifting, dropped 10+. That's not going to stop. She has been commenting.

As I air all this out, I'm starting to see it: oneitis. She, she, she...

In all of the sidebar, which I've gone thru about all by now, I haven't seen much as far as making the transition to being single again. Is it time to check out trp?

buckshotdblaught · 2016-07-24T13:34:56+00:00

Don't fall for it. Work on self improvement

youcantdenythat · 2016-07-24T14:03:50+00:00

If you want to fuck your (soon to be) ex then fuck her. Why are you asking us?

Things to consider:

Will this cause more drama in my life?

Is this making me comfortable enough that I won't do things to raise my SMV and date other women?

UEMcGill · 2016-07-25T19:45:24+00:00

She has initiated sex a couple of times since then, which is mostly the norm of our sex life. I know "I am the prize." But in that moment, I can't come up with a "no."

In your case, NO. She's being a branch swinger and throwing you a bone for whatever reason. She feels bad, she thinks you feel bad, she misses the connection, whatever, the fact remains she's still out the fucking door. How are you going to feel after she's fucked you for the umpteenth time and announces she's got a date with Chad? She's opened up the relationship but you're not in on it.

Tell her to pack her shit, and move out. Even if it's just to another room. Tell her you're an "All in" kind of guy and you don't need her anymore, because you are moving on. The opposite of love is indifference. Show her your fucks garden is empty and you have none left to give.

bogeyd6 · 2016-07-24T15:43:14+00:00

My wife filed for divorce on me over a year ago. I fucked her like a back of the alley slut every time she initiated.

redearththeory · 2016-07-24T13:34:32+00:00

That's not really enough information for us to provide feedback. Is she divorcing you because you cheated on her with a bunch of hot 23 year olds? Or because she fucked chad the pool boy? Do you want to stay with her? Or maybe you're happy with the divorce because she's rich and you want to spin plates.

WhiteTrashKiller · 2016-07-24T18:03:38+00:00

Most courts will not grant a divorce if you are still having relations with your spouse. You can hide it if you want from the couts, but if this is known it most likely will void the divorce.

Also, why are you having sex with her? She initiated the divorce, pack up move on, salvage what is left of your masculinity.

screechhater · 2016-07-24T20:20:06+00:00

"She has initiated sex a couple of times since then, which is mostly the norm of our sex life."

Sounds like to me she has tried to get your attention for years over quite a bit of omega bullshit behavior and she finally had enough, and may have used divorce to finally get your attention, or not.

Your comment of the norm is probably her/your problem and she just had enough. Part of the problem with not initiating with women and LTR's in general as men get bored, or start turning themselves off because of harpiness, the woman thinks she is not attractive and all kinds of other hamsterness. So, it can be your fault. She obviously was attracted to you once and may find your DNGAF attitude intriguing

Better read side bar more and lift. Should not be asking this, you should know.

Countpudyoola · 2016-07-26T17:39:07+00:00

If after the divorce she wants to bump uglies as a plate and you can keep your emotions in check: Go for it.

But, now's not the time.

She filed.

Adios.

Build a new life with her as an ex.

Don't help her keep all her options open after she's already made the "final" decision.

assured_destruction · 2016-07-24T13:19:13+00:00

are you still living with her? Pack up and get out.

Get yourself a new 22 yo plate.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-07-24T13:36:29+00:00

Give me a reason to give a shit here, Jesus

Title	I already know the answer...
Author	throwaway99847
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Comments	39
Date	July 24, 2016 11:53 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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