Overcoming burnout

Ive_Had_Enuf · 2016-03-15T11:10:42+00:00

Oh and keep your fucking one thing at a time responses to your self.

Castles aren't built in a day. They are constructed slowly - brick by brick - and after careful planning.

You say your career is shit. Ask yourself: What little thing can you to today to make it better? You figure that out, implement, then set up a new your baseline - maybe your career is still shit, but it doesn't smell so bad anymore. Keep doing this and before long, you might tolerate it - shit you might enjoy it. (If not-find a new fucking job).

Same with finances. You can't can climb this mountain in one step (unless you happen to fall into a great deal of money.) Instead, make a plan, take it slow, pay off that one high interest credit card first. Then the second one. Then before you know it, you've started saving your money. You'll find that as you get closer and closer to the summit, you start to enjoy the view.

Wardrobe is shit? Go out. Get new clothes. (While your at it, game the cute store clerk who wants to help you out). If you don't know what to buy, get some ideas from a magazine. If affording it is a problem, buy one garment at a time. Take it slow. Before you know it, you'll be looking sharp without much effort.

You've been at this for what - two or three months? You can't change a lifetime of behavior in that short amount of time. Take it slow. Enjoy it. Build your foundation brick by brick.

its-iceman · 2016-03-14T20:20:28+00:00

Part of doing this for me was finding out what made me happy and doing that. Like from day one. You shouldn't be miserable, you should be looking forward to conquering your day (some of the stuff you mentioned), and then have things you enjoy lined up as well.

You eat an elephant one bite at a time, not in one single bite. It's a lifelong journey and you have to enjoy the ride because the destination is ever moving and changing.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-15T02:02:05+00:00

When you took the pill how did you stay the course when you knew the results may take months to materialize?

For me it was deciding a cost-benefit analysis. I thought I could get in shape etc and could get a decent woman lined up in a few months. Then I realized I already had a decent woman on tap and had to decide whether warming up an old, cold pussy was better than cultivating new, hotter pussy. I realized it would probably take longer and more effort to land a couple of plates than it would to get my wife on board.

So the issue is the same as if you were suddenly single. As a newly single man it would probably take months before you get the first plate lined up.

Luckily- the self improvement steps are almost exactly the same for a wife or for smashing plates! No shortcuts but a similar result- so consider this: You are actually killing TWO birds with one stone.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-03-15T13:56:44+00:00

When I would deploy, it was 8 to 12 and 5 to midnight, or reciprocal watches. Always be there 15min prior for turnover

Off watch, I would have, cleaning stations for 1hr, eating and husbandry 1/2 hours, plus 30 minutes to get ready for bed. One more hour for gym.

My department was useless, which is why I was put there. Didn't have time to piss without falling behind.

Heaven forbid we have a drill for action fire or man overboard, another hour in bunker gear or a wetsuit.

So best case scenario, 2.5 hours break during the day, and 6 hours for sleep... Usually. 7 days a week for 32 day stints and then a port for 3 days, of which one was spent working... For 6 to 7 months.

How did I handle it? Nowhere else to go. Get a small luxury for yourself, cigars, coffee, whatever. You are at 40% right now. remember that.

Mine wasn't even exceptional, it's a standard hard sea trade.

So tell me how women not hitting on you, money being tight and such are burning you out again?

enfier · 2016-03-14T21:10:55+00:00

I just take off for the weekend to go camping by myself.

I just focus on continual improvement. Pick an area that's week, come up with a plan, work on it for a while, make it a habit, then repeat with another area. The journey never ends so I've stopped expecting that the job will be done one day.

cj_aubrey · 2016-03-15T01:34:16+00:00

Being shit and getting shat upon was pretty exhausting. Even with a little progress I started getting in control of some parts of my life and you should be too at this point. So what's your alternative? You can change the job or wives and things will still go to shit because the problem is you. Is this the first woman and job where you've had these problems with? Fix it now, waste more years and fix it later or die a turd. Your call and you own that decision too.

6TimesDown7TimesUp · 2016-03-15T03:13:54+00:00

I hit the wall often. Right now it's on the sex front, and can be super frustrating at times but then I look back over the last ten months and see all the little shit that has added up.

Hitting PR's in the weight room

Best wardrobe ever

Debt almost gone and saving and retirement at all time high

Career going well.

Not a humble brag, just that MRP works especially if and when you take it out of the context of how it works relative to your wife.

I'm guessing when you say the ladies aren't chasing you you mean you're wife isn't fucking you at least not the way that you want. Burns me up as well but I use that as fuel. Don't let it consume you. Let it fire you up to be even better.

Don't worry about it. Work on all of that other shit that is bringing you down and all of it a little at a time. I know we read about all these "overnight success" here on MRP and have the vets to look up to but it wasn't like they woke up one day and were ramen noodle instant alpha motherfuckers. No. They fixed their shit, all their shit, over time one day at a time and are still working on it.

Take your time, one step at a time on everything.

Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power as Lao Tzu says.

When I get burned out I take a break without backsliding. Consolidate your gains without compromising them.

Like a deload week in lifting. Works for me, YMMV.

jumpingshitstorms · 2016-03-15T13:17:54+00:00

Simple? There is no simple. There is only progress.

You need to start looking at things are opportunities and stop thinking of them as shit. As bad. As poor. It's progress. Life is not pass or fail. It's pass or learn. Life is not binary, nor linear.

I recommend reading THE OBSTACLE IS THE WAY by Ryan Holiday.

rocknrollchuck · 2016-03-15T16:49:44+00:00

Take a day and write down your goals. Not goals like "get out of debt" but concrete ones with a deadline like "pay off (this bill) by the end of June. Make a to-do list every night, and put everything on it you need to do. Resolve to knock out at least one thing on the list every day.

Oh, and pick the one area you stress about the most and put the most time into fixing it first. When it's fixed, go to the next most stressful thing and attack it next.

il-est-ressuscite · 2016-03-15T20:04:48+00:00

You've got to have a list of short term goals that will vault you to a successful pursuit of your long term goals.

There really is no other way to get to any destination. This kind of construction can help you build confidence with each success and create the momentum you need for when you're running on fumes.

There's no silver bullet or as I've read here a time or two learn to "embrace the suck." Lol.

Each week I fail in the pursuit of my main goal about two days out of seven. I then tell myself at least I'm not failing three days out of seven and eventually it might be only one day or no days at all.

angels_fan · 2016-03-19T14:14:50+00:00

It's sounds like maybe your MAP needs to be broken down into smaller, more achievable goals.

Instead of "crush it at work!", come up with specific items and goals that you want to crush at work and how you plan on accomplishing them.

Why is your wardrobe still shit?? This is one of the easiest things to fix. You don't have to spend $1000 to get nicer clothes.

We've had some discussion on video game playing here before, and my opinion is that I'm MUCH more productive running 100% 80% of the time with 20% recharge time than I am running 60% 100% of the time because I'm exhausted. Playing a video game, for me anyways, is a great stress relief. Ymmv.

Title	Overcoming burnout
Author	jumpingshitstorms
Upvotes	2
Comments	24
Date	March 14, 2016 7:55 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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