And we were doing so well. Lost frame with wife from a shit test while trying to console a crying infant. I retaliate with a petty remark. It devolves when she attacks me on a personal level, I hit the nuclear option. We talk and calm down. Topic goes to how she takes pride in not lying. So I lose it and call her out on her texting her ex-boyfriend (some orbiter). I play dumb pretend I only know partial info and probe her for more info. (took screenshots of her texts with him, so I know the whole sad story). She denies there's anything going on or did go on. So I unlock my phone and slide over to her. I tell she can go through the entire phone, it has all my texts, emails, phone calls. I asked her to do the same. She refuses, stands by her lie. I even frame it as, it sounds shady that you won't show me your texts with him. What if I had an ex gf text me and I refused to show you. She then flipped it back on me with some hamstered b/s. She's a really, really good liar on the fly. I thought I could trip her up and she'd admit it. I know she went through the texts, maybe to get her story straight. She had a sleepless night. Anyway, should I continue to play dumb, bust her out on it or should I never let her off the hook with my 'suspicions'?
It really erks me that she's so pious about this and tries to reverse it on me.
Where do we go from here... I think there are only two resolutions, she admits it and figure out if I want to forgive her or I leave her b/c I think she's a low quality person and I can do so much better.
For her, divorce is terrible from the aspect of joint custody of the child. She couldn't care less about having me in her life. I think this marriage is too far gone.