Sunday night I initiated with my wife and she was receptive. I was about to get going when she stopped and said we needed to close the door (kids were already in bed, etc). I jokingly said that if she wanted it closed to go ahead (I would have done it if she pushed it). She gets up and closes the door. After this she allows me to start over but is no longer into it (doesn't want kisses, is now upset, mentions just finish, etc). I roll over and say that its not worth it if she isn't into it. She then immediately storms to the bathroom slamming the door. She eventually comes back to bed and we fall asleep.
Since then she has gone radio silent outside of logistics. I have continued to act cool around her and do my normal thing. Four days of this.
I'm wondering if I should just continue focusing on my stuff and wait for her to get over it? I am also wondering if it would be better to initiate again (fully expecting a hard no and for her to then start the puke fest) just to be done with this crap.
Very late update: Friday afternoon she texted me and asked if we could talk. Once I got home from work she started bringing up the fact that I never asked what was wrong all week and she had the worst week because of it. I just simply said that if she had a problem or issue then she needed to say something. This went back and worth in this manner for a while. Eventually she eased up after I gave her some beta feelz, I showed her some affection (hugs, etc. which she hadn't had all week), and then had great sex (huh!?)!? She never mentions me declining sex at all. The next day I get the kids to spend the night elsewhere and take wifey out for a real date (we haven't had one in a while). After was naked hot tub, ben wa balls, great sex along with a BJTC in the mouth which has never happened with her. Lots to learn and keep improving on!