When he doesn't really care, he's just making a show

randomgirlimok · 2020-08-29T04:27:00+00:00

My ex did this same thing- tried to plan an elaborate Valentine’s Day so he booked a surprise for me. So we’re standing around downtown for like a half hour waiting for this “surprise” that never shows. An hour later he gets several calls from the horse and carriage ride he booked asking where we are. By then we were already at a restaurant and could not make it. He gets all mad and accuses them of getting the time wrong and ruining his plans. Later that night he wants to drive by his work to look at the piece of PAPER he had written the time on, so we do. Of course he had screwed up- he wrote the time down right but couldn’t remember it. What’s funny is he could use his smartphone expertly for his secret porn addiction but couldn’t put this date in his phone’s calendar.

jenaemare · 2020-08-29T03:09:54+00:00

I remember playing the sims 3 and Anges Crumplebottom got so mad at my male sim I think she spaz at him for taking her to a movie theater as a date and doing low effort things. Even a pixel woman has more standards then this woman.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-08-29T00:57:25+00:00

Now he'll brag to his friends about how he got out of taking the old ball and chain out for their anniversary.

Sage_Planter · 2020-08-29T00:53:26+00:00

I'm so over this tee hee look how adorable and clueless he is crap. We all know this is the one thing a year he's expected to organize, and he couldn't even get it right.

feminologie_ · 2020-08-29T03:00:52+00:00

Imagine all the housework, emotional labor, intimacy and possible kids she's given him, just to be treated like this. Pickmes will always lose.

Princes5Celestia · 2020-08-29T09:59:45+00:00

I remember my husband was planning my birthday and he was actually doing things for my bday! I was so excited bc I didn’t know what the surprises were. Surprises: 1. Spend time with his parents, 2. Go to a movie with his dad A movie that I never cared for, Star Wars, 3. Hiking.

Things about me. I love to try new foods, I don’t like Star Wars and my birthday is in a cold month and I hate being cold. I love hiking but in the summer when it’s hot.

The excitement when away. I was so angry and he couldn’t understand why.

2020-08-29T01:24:26+00:00

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typeadhd · 2020-08-29T03:55:06+00:00

This is just sad 😞 truly I would be so tempted not to say wow at least he tried to take me out but hopefully this isn’t a pattern he needs to do better. This is his wife for gods sake

RiteWriter · 2020-08-29T00:59:40+00:00

This is the difference. Do not settle.

KetoKittenAround · 2020-08-29T04:02:32+00:00

Every joke has truth to it...

qweenalexandria · 2020-08-29T15:13:41+00:00

Yuck. This reminds me of my x who pleaded and begged to take me out for my birthday. I had to work late and didnt want to go. But he insisted on doing something special and was "hurt" I didnt want him to do anything. I worked at a restaurant and he showed up AFTER we closed (if you're in the industry you can understand how embarrassing that can be to your co workers) but still had guests, a whole hour after he was supposed to be there. He was busy making my "gift." He had no dinner planned and I had to pick a place while sittinf outside on a bench in the February cold as my co workers walked by. We get there, there's a waiting list so we go to a bar where he proceeds to talk about himself incessantly. We get to the restaurant and I am unamused as he panders on and then decides to tell me that I need to get my head out of my ass and into the relationship. All because I wasn't building him up in his boring af convo. He then comes and sits next to me and shows me what he made. A piece of paper with a note written on it and tries to kiss me and I'm like fuck no. He gets up to go to the bathroom and the waitress comes over to see if I'm okay. I get up to go to the bathroom and try to leave but hes waiting for me and begs to sit in my car and proceeds to cry about how much he loves me as he waits for his cab.

I cant believe I dated him for another 5 months. What a pathetic jerk

Title	When he doesn't really care, he's just making a show
Author	What_u_callme
Upvotes	253
Comments	20
Date	August 29, 2020 12:19 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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