I’ve noticed a recent influx of differing opinions on topics concerning dates, OLD, standards etc. and one thing I want to bring attention to is the strategy part of FDS. All of us came here because we were tired of how men were treating us and the lack of results we were getting out of dating.

I understand wanting to believe that you can disregard these strategies and the perfect man will just show up and prove you wrong, but the world just doesn’t work that way, men just don’t work that way. We can’t surpass male socialization. All we can do is work around it and hope that the right man will get through the fortress we’ve built around ourselves to offer us something worthwhile.

Going back to your old strategies or being lazy and doing things out of frustration or boredom will do nothing. Being a pickme is literal insanity. They go on these low effort dates and have sex right away over and over and over and nothing changes. Instead of introspecting and judging the situation objectively, they just believe that the right person will just magically show up. They refuse to believe that their actions play a part in the types of men they are allowing around them and how that manifests into their low self esteem and codependency.

If you feel your standards slipping because of the LVM vying for your time and attention or lack thereof, remember where you were preFDS and realize you are better off saving your energy and no longer investing in men. Focus on leveling up and remember that that which is the most available isn’t the most valuable. You are a precious jewel that only few can afford. Don’t let these LVM get through your armor and let you think you don’t deserve the world.