Suspect behaviour: File for divorce preemptively to protect my assets?

SorcererKing · 2019-02-22T22:22:04+00:00

I would actually ban this Eurofag, but given this is a throw-away troll account, I probably don't need to.

red-sfpplus · 2019-02-22T13:51:21+00:00

TLDR;

Wife keeps secrets yet I do all this behind her back. Which means I am a both a hypocrite and projecting faggot who needs his ass kicked by reality.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2019-02-22T14:08:34+00:00

I would of been out after she tried the divorce thing because you weren’t doing well in business. Thats a really shitty thing to do to someone and her true colors shine through there.

You have created a mess.

NMMNG_1 · 2019-02-22T14:43:57+00:00

As you would imagine it didn't last long until my wife filed for divorce and the only reason she didn't pull through was that the paperwork was too much effort on her part and I managed to get on the ascending branch again. So she backpaddled and withdrew the divorce

When I read this I though, "red flag, she's a conniving bitch."

But then I read this...

Couple weeks ago I found a 480.000€ real estate investment and went through with it, without even telling her about it. She still doesn't know. For reasons of financing I couldn't do the investment through my limited company and had to do it through myself as a person. Since we are still legally married, what I own personally I have to share with her 50/50 in case of another divorce.

Are you fucking for real? So you make her personally liable for a $500K deal that you didn't even tell her about? Faggot.

And then you have the fucking nerve to say this,

The notarial real estate purchase agreement was done last month and for the love of god, I totally forgot that I was married. Seriously.

BS.

You are a lying faggot.

If you really mean to better yourself (I don't think you do, you're coming for affirmation, faggot) you need to STOP LYING to yourself and others.

After she gave it, I am not sure what came over her, but she changed her mind and wanted her smarphone back. Since I was reading the article I refused to give it back, and she even climbed on my head to get it back, a thing she hasn't done in the 14 years we are together. Now I might be stupid, but I am not retarded and I don't need any more signs of infidelity than a women who tries this much to keep secrets. I judge her by her actions and behaviour, not by what she says. I still installed a keylogger this morning on her machine just to double verify, but even if she is not cheating, it's not possible to trust a person who keeps secrets.

Faggot. OYS. You talk about being ready for a "second divorce" and you're doing this kind of shit? YOU ARE NOT READY FOR SHIT.

markpf73 · 2019-02-22T16:26:23+00:00

I just ordered some popcorn to enjoy during the updates on the keylogger you installed...

mrpthrowa · 2019-02-22T11:14:21+00:00

Your paranoia about financial details is well placed, but you're going too overtly about it which is alarming her.

In effect, you're creating this tit for tat covert contract in her mind that says "I'm paranoid financially because i don't trust you, which means that if you somehow dupe me into trusting you then I'll relax my financial paranoia". This is too overt and is a traditional covert contract.

In the end I want to talk

Absolutely not. You don't "talk" about this stuff.

You want to spew some verbal diarrhoea to DEER your financial paranoia to her.

You don't do that. What you do is be a high SMV male, and it's up to her to stand in line. Women understand this, you don't have to state it.

Your gut is telling you she is not being faithful somehow. Personally, if the woman is not going over and beyond to prove that she is 100% committed then I'll hold my cards and go seek other women. I don't state it, I just expect it. If it happens, great, if it doesn't happen, then move on.

Based on what you describe you're better off moving on. You have a strong case of oneties if you're so tolerating of this behaviour of hers.

That little fight over the phone... faggotty as fuck... you don't have time for that sort of shit!

Cloudy_Pirate · 2019-02-22T11:43:15+00:00

Lmao.

Reads insecure faggot wall of text.

Looks at username of OP.

Easy decision for me. Too bad I’m not a mod.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T15:41:53+00:00

I can't speak for where you are, but in the US, having her sign that without her being aware of all assets may constitute a good faith violation. If it comes out in the divorce proceedings that you were "hiding assets" then it could easily end up in court and you may get penalized for your efforts. Once again, this is the US and some states only.

The only truly safe "assets" are unaccounted cash and any investments you can tie up in your LLC.

Also you are probably presenting as a half nervous, half "I'm being sneaky!" Guy and it is probably alarming her.

Countpudyoola · 2019-02-22T14:22:56+00:00

So if you're at the point where you are asking this question, why even ask the question and why aren't you talking to a lawyer?

You're worried about a battle. If the war is over, the best thing you can do is NOT throwing more time into it. This is one (maybe the biggest) deal. But if you don't care about staying married then why aren't you taking whatever lump you have to on this one to ensure that in the future it isn't even an issue (ie. you're single).

And then you end with a retarded argument over a word definition? Simple Jack, why do you even care enough to argue about that type of stupid shit? Take a cue that her reaction and investment in such a waste is a sign of your present SMV and that you are missing something. You then pivot, aa , am, change the topic or stfu. The moment you get dragged into this should be a flag to you that you are off any kind of game if you had it to begin with. You are in full beta mode.

JudgeDoom69 · 2019-02-22T14:58:44+00:00

I totally forgot that I was married

I'm calling bullshit. This is totally unbelievable.

marital property separation contract

If she won't sign it, sell the property to your business for $1

SBIII · 2019-02-22T09:56:05+00:00

Is this one of those threads where we have to guess how fat the OP is?

BobbyPeru · 2019-02-22T11:27:55+00:00

Your post is full of excuses for you and other people. It wasn’t your fault the business went bad, it was your dad’s. Well, take responsibility- you should have been managing it and saw the signs. Then, you excuse your wife for leaving you at the first sign of financial trouble.

Your frame obviously sucks if you are having a fight about trivial shit, and you have to grab her phone to see the wiki proof.

I don’t even know what the point of your post is, but you gave enough information to make it clear that you are beta bux to her... always have been.

No mention of the sidebar. You need it like a drowning man needs air.

JameisBong · 2019-02-23T01:07:48+00:00

Slow Newsday in Europe? If true why do you care more about her phone than her inability to sign your document? Let her cheat, then next her.

screechhater · 2019-02-23T11:00:50+00:00

You say she is hot, reeks of oneitis

You state she hit the divorce button once, and then recanted once you had you shit together

Actions of wanting her phone back is telling.

Seems to me, boundaries and your own ideals of self respect need to be addressed or you will revisit this in your next LTR

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Title	Suspect behaviour: File for divorce preemptively to protect my assets?
Author	BanMeAgainFaggot
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Date	February 22, 2019 9:22 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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