How does a young, inexperienced guy effectively absorb and utilize information on this sub without getting overwhelmed and overly analytical about every little thing.

Chadster113 · 2019-03-20T05:00:28+00:00

I know what you mean by over-analyzing everything. I do it too, especially with all these stories on this sub and the main one. I would just focus on the side bar and read the rational male if you haven’t already.

SauliusTRP · 2019-03-20T04:43:38+00:00

Easiest way is to read sidebar and directly start to apply basics in real word, if you have balls. Some doing the mistake here and reading for years, until they reach that „perfect knowledge“ state, which never happens anyway.

0io- · 2019-03-20T05:12:35+00:00

Don't over think things.

Approach a lot of girls. Ask them if they want to do something with you that you're going to do anyway. If they come along, try to escalate a little, hold hands, kiss, etc. If that's all going well you can just flat out ask if they want to come back to your room.

Don't be mad if they say no. Some of them will say yes.

FereallyRed · 2019-03-20T05:49:11+00:00

TRP doesn't have all the answers. It's not magic.

You could do absolutely everything right from a trp analytic standpoint and still be left alone with your dick in your hand.

These are guidelines and tactics that have been proven to work most of the time on the majority of women.

But life and circumstances do exist that are out of your control.

This is where the bloopers get it wrong, too. We don't manipulate or trick, we've just noticed what works.

Your job is to control what you can, not be a perfect TRP robot.

These are interpersonal sexual dynamics we're talking about. That's an innumerable amount of variables.

I once had a poster ask me if I would write a guide to opening women, covering all the possibilities.

He wanted a "if this", then "do that" code database.

That will never exist.

Learn the basics. Go try them. Be mindful of when glitches in the matrix happen so you can reflect later.....was it something I did or was it just not the right cosmic alignment/she was a raging PMS bitch/she just got an engagement offer.

Trying to keep track of every little thing is inherently self sabotaging just because the sheer volume of shit you'd need to be aware of would overload your brain to the point where's you'd be a stuttering distracted twitchy idiot.

That's not a good look.

Get the big shit down. If you're worried about being in her personal space of the amount of eye contact or wondering if your 2nd kino move caused a reaction, you're overthinking.

You've got to know when to hold 'em, Know when to fold 'em, Know when to walk away, And know when to run. You never count your money, When you're sittin' at the table, There'll be time enough for countin', When the dealin's done.

Kenny Rogers

smartstarfish · 2019-03-20T05:22:45+00:00

Take it one day at a time.

If you’ve been blue pulled your whole life you can’t beat yourself up for not changing with immediate results.

Being Alpha is a gradient and you’re just starting your journey. Be nice to yourself and reap the rewards in due time.

CasaDeFranco · 2019-03-20T05:15:28+00:00

Start on the easier digestable parts. Get a good job, dress well, make friends, lift. Then focus on the larger concepts.

kaolin224 · 2019-03-20T05:46:10+00:00

Take everything you read on the internet with a heaping tablespoon of salt.

Everything. Especially news and advice. Always, always consider the source before absorbing anything, and never, ever take anything at face value.

More often than not, you're going to find people who are the last ones you want to listen to, doling out advice like they're Gandhi:

Dudes who got played and are still bitter about it; chumps who have never been in a relationship; and others who aren't built to be monogamous. Everyone likes to pretend they have it all figured out.

Truth is, nobody really does.

That being said, your best teacher will be cold, hard experience. But at least now you have an expectation of what may come. Test it out for yourself. Then internalize what you've learned and share it afterwards.

When it comes to your happiness, never let anyone dictate the terms of it, especially not a stranger online.

mrpoopistan · 2019-03-20T06:38:20+00:00

I'm increasingly convinced that TRP is basically cognitive behavioral therapy with a side of EMDR (both are psychological approaches that have proven efficacy in treating trauma and anxiety).

On the CBT side of things, TRP is mostly about learning that the things that make you anxious aren't the end of the world. This is the older PUA idea that you need to do a large number of approaches, even failed ones, just to learn that a girl not wanting to fuck you is far from the world's greatest tragedy.

On the EMDR side of things, TRP is focused on installing positive attitudes. It goes an extra step further than EMDR by focusing on programs that tie positive cognition to real-world results. Especially when everybody is told, "Lift!".

That's the rough outline of TRP.

Step One: Confront Anxieties and Self-Truths

You should also develop approach skills in entirely non-sexual settings, just talking to door greeters, cashiers, bank tellers and other people. Talk to everybody a little more -- old, ugly, fat, hot, young, male, female, reptilian overlord -- it doesn't matter. Just talk a little more to everyone.

By desexualizing the general act of bullshitting, you'll have a more desexualized approach when you move on to sexual settings. This means you'll be generally calmer when you talk to hot chicks because you're at least not going to be stumblefucking around the basic of maintaining a conversation.

Things like very subtle hints through texting, or seemingly insignificant body language details, or basically any behavior that women act out verbally or non verbally I feel the need to over analyze it all.

Pro tip: High-status people often blow past other people's signals. Counter-signals are often the best signals. It's the classic idea that a billionaire in Silicon Valley can wear a hoodie to work because he doesn't need your bullshit. The same applies to how well we track others' signals. The countersignal of not caring (ZFG) is far more powerful than trying to win the analysis game.

I also think it's wise to confront self-truths head-on . . .

never been great with women

This is like saying you've never had a great play during the Super Bowl. No shit. You've never been to the Super Bowl. You can't really say you're bad with women because you've never really played the game.

Step Two: Install the Positive Software

It's wise to just itemize the positive features you want to install. I mean this should be done at a very low level.

For example, there's a lot to be said for sitting in a club and just watching other people's interactions like it's a fishbowl. I'm 40, and I still enjoy watching guys try to pick up women and guessing how it's going to turn out. See if you can pick up the moment a guy is going to "get it".

You should then try to make a list of those things that interest you and install them.

For example, one of my brother's friends who has a lot of natural game (though can be a little too tradcon), always works a "darling" into every conversation he has with every woman he talks to. I've actually tweaked this one to be more in the "kitten" to "sunshine" range, but he's a little more twang-y, so I can see why "darling" works better for him. As with any software install, you'll have to tweak the settings to your environment.

Always be on the lookout for new software to install. Turn the overanalysis into a fun game. If you see something that looks cool or that makes you wonder, process it and try it out. Uninstall anything that crashes. Tweak anything that struggles to run. Make updates as your software gets old and stops working as well.

Don't be afraid to experiment. Fail gloriously and have fun doing it.

AstuteBlackMan · 2019-03-20T05:28:20+00:00

I analyze stuff a lot too. It's a blessing and a curse.

I use to watch a guy on YouTube (still makes good videos) named Corey Wayne. Basically he said if you buy his book and read it once you'll get only a fraction of the info in it. But if you read it 10-15 times the information will become second nature.

I would apply that method to the sidebar. As soon as you finish it read it again. It may take a couple weeks or a couple days based on the time you have but you'll absorb the information and be able to understand it to where its second nature

FiftyShadesOfSwole · 2019-03-20T05:31:37+00:00

Relax harder

Blazerman_24 · 2019-03-20T06:00:16+00:00

You are still really young. It's good that you've come across these self improvement principles so early. Just keep working at it. Recognize when you've made progress and don't beat yourself up when you make boo boos.

We are all a constant work in progress. You'll always strive to be better than you are. Idk if you watch sports at all but athletes always talk about the game slowing down for them. Essentially saying after a year or two of playing, they are able to digest and process everything on the field a lot quicker, even if the actual game speed hasn't changed. Enough practice talking to women and the same thing will happen.

_Anarchon_ · 2019-03-20T05:45:47+00:00

Figuring out what you can change, what you can't, what to pay attention to in life, and what to disregard all comes from wisdom. You don't gain wisdom overnight perusing an internet forum. It comes with time, bravery, and honest introspection. If you're brave and honest with yourself, just chill out. It'll all come with time. And know that you'll stand out above most men, because most don't do those things these days. That'll eventually give you more real confidence, which will also help.

Now, telling someone with anxiety issues to just chill out may not be that realistic or helpful. But, know that there are ways to deal with anxiety. That's a whole other subject though. You might want to research that problem to help with this one. You aren't alone...these past couple of generations are plagued with social anxiety, for many reasons.

Classy_Amir · 2019-03-20T08:33:48+00:00

You and I... We're alike. A lot. I'm also 19, and I also struggle with what you struggle. Anyway.. I overwhelmed myself for over a year with information. I saw 0 results. I started working out 7 months ago and I started reading the side bar VERY carefully this time. Took me a good 3-4 months to finish it. I started applying it immediately but before I knew it, holidays came in my country and I can't meet women at my uni. No problem, I'm going to improve my day game. Don't read too much. Read little at a time and start applying immediately. When you fail, go back and analyze the situation. What seems to be the problem is usually super obvious. Fix that, rinse and repeat.

DarkWolfBG · 2019-03-20T11:32:55+00:00

I've been through that. We've all been.
My 2 cents are - just don't care. Don't allow your happiness depend on somebody else.
Do whatever you like, just do it with confidence. In all aspects of your life, not only in the personal one.
Don't focus on the fine polish like the sport, appearance, look. It means nothing without the masculine frame and the your confident presence. They can help to get there, but they are not that critical components. They help with the first impression. But afterwards it's only your attitude.
We all know that greatly dressed, good looking guys which catch the eye, but after a couple of minutes talk with a female, they are just discarded. Or the same persons as low-level managers. Too soft, too indecisive, all they do is organize the flow of work, and they are stuck there forever.
Do what you please, don't look for anybody's else approval, live your live for yourself. Because nobody will live theirs for you.

Verderubro · 2019-03-20T12:13:39+00:00

Practice, practice, practice. Select one topic, put in action. Once mastered/more comfortable, move on to next topic.

leftajar · 2019-03-20T17:57:07+00:00

True Knowledge is experiential.

Meaning, to truly understand something, you have to DO something.

Pick the piece of advice you find, that is most relevant and accessible, and DO IT. CONSISTENTLY.

Then pick another one. Rinse and repeat. In six months you'll know more than the hordes of wannabe alphas that populate this sub.

gerfcam · 2019-03-20T20:36:51+00:00

Focus on truly not giving a fuck, that will lead you out of your head. I saw a comment somewhere about putting yourself in the most ridiculous situations way more awkward than talking to people, once your used to that anything else feels minor.

I have to say, not giving a fuck has a snowball effect. When I started trying I would be brutally honest all the time, no matter who I was with. “My breath stinks” “man my asshole burns” shit like that. After a while I could literally say anything without caring, at which point I stopped doing that shit

moontripper1246 · 2019-03-20T05:41:21+00:00

By going out consistently

Sakarabru · 2019-03-20T06:52:28+00:00

Question everything- every TRP principle, each staunch mantra- and build experience by verifying those ideas in your own life. Experiment, find what works for you, learn from failures and celebrate success. Read, apply, analize briefly, then move the fuck on. Cultivate abundance mentality and outcome independence, not just with women, but in all things.

[deleted] · 2019-03-20T07:31:09+00:00

You need to get over some mild anxiousness by taking the problem head on and getting into it. Start lifting and actively improving yourself to overcome your fears for your own good, not for women or anything. You come for yourself first and have to be your own best friend, and confindence will come slowly. What worked for me too was doing what i just typed above, and even faking it at times earlier on. Soon I just started to go with it and ended up just believing myself.

Anasthaesium · 2019-03-20T08:20:40+00:00

To begin with develop two cornerstones habits . Don’t be rushed . You have all the time you need. 1. Habit 1 : compound lifts in the gym . There is an app 5x5 which will help . Workout diligently for 4 times a week 2. Habit 2: approach one stranger a day and have a small conversation . It need not be a woman.

Bonus habit 3. Eating clean and getting 8 hours every night while eliminating sugar and caffeine from diet .

Do these for a few months and see how you feel.

furcryingoutloud · 2019-03-20T08:24:33+00:00

I've never met anyone that at 19, had been great with women. There is no bar you have to meet, or requirements you have to pass. No pressure, no demands. Nobody cares how well you do with women, nobody is judging you from the sidelines. And nobody is taking notes. You, are your greatest enemy when it comes to life.

"Getting women" is the absolute emptiest achievement you can be chasing. Think of it as being able to solve crossword puzzles. Yeah, it makes you look good in front of some people, but it's an empty achievement, it garners nothing of value as far as achievements go. At 19, concentrate on how you can make money. Look for consistent monthly revenue opportunities.

Money is the honey of life. Concentrate on making it, and you'll be chased by much more than women. Don't chase women, let them chase you.

AwakenedSovereign · 2019-03-20T08:28:27+00:00

"How can I do that? How do I get from where I am to where you are?" Dr. Strange

"How did you become able to perform the most complex surgeries?" The Ancient One

"Study and practice. Years of it." Strange

FederalAnxiety · 2019-03-20T08:51:58+00:00

I think you're doing everything right. It takes time, often years, to be able to learn and effectively use everything.

For dealing with women, keep reading and learning the principles. First learn why you should respond to certain things in certain ways, then learn how to do it by reading examples and practicing in the real world. Repeat ad naseum and you'll get there.

imtheoneimmortal · 2019-03-20T09:02:13+00:00

Listen red pill music, watch red pill films and read red pill books

hrm0894 · 2019-03-20T11:26:25+00:00

By reading the posts (sometimes even mutliple times if it's good) consistently and for a long time. Then you need to apply it in the real-world and learn from your mistakes (and you will make plenty of them). After a couple years the posts will feel repetitive and that's how you know you've absorbed the information.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-03-20T12:39:21+00:00

You're not "overwhelmed." You're choosing not to approach women and flirt because you're still terrified of rejection.

This is like reading a bunch of books of piano music, but never sitting down to the keyboard, then claiming you're overwhelmed by all the notes. Maybe so, but that piano ain't going to practice itself.

frankgold · 2019-03-20T13:19:34+00:00

Take it one day at a time, one thing at a time.

Also, I'd say take your focus away from girls/women. You are very young at age 19. Instead of chasing tail for the next 10 years, chase your dream life for the next 10 years. When you live like %99 would wish to, but only %1 can, women will start throwing themselves at you, without you chasing them.

See: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FY-e2u35OCA

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-03-20T13:25:22+00:00

Too sum things up- focus on self improvement. Don’t worry about what people think.

jellyman643 · 2019-03-20T13:25:49+00:00

Wtf is mid social anxiety? Grow up

TopofToronto · 2019-03-20T13:36:38+00:00

The issue I occasionally have with reading through this sub is that ill start to feel overwhelmed by every little thing

Then do one thing and accomplish that one thing, congratulate yourself for doing that thing and smile as you fall asleep that night that you have changed your life by doing that thing, and don't think of the other stuff.

Then that thing becomes routine and you can accomplish the next thing.

The thing I started on was to make my apartment less "bachelor" to tackle the dishes everyday, cleaned out the fridge. etc. I did not do the entire apartment in one day but set a small task, what I could accomplish and did that. Then soon half my life had changed.

anxious about worrying about every little thing I am doing wrong

You can't do something wrong, really, you do things your way.

I hate gyms, I do not go to one. I hate the routine of having to go to one. So I got a few bar bells and other things to use as weights and have them around house. Now I do lift correctly, not with the back and use correct posture, I lift them when ever I have time , even have a set in the kitchen and do some reps while waiting for the water to boil or the microwave to finish.

but if I told some some gym head dude bro He would say I am doing it all wrong and have a routine of increasing my reps so much per week and my weights .. yada yada yada

I don't care .. I did it my way, I lost weight and gained muscle tone my way which is what I wanted.

Ask for advice and if doing it that way does not work , find your own way to do the same task.

red_matrix · 2019-03-20T14:41:35+00:00

Read The Book of Pook
Hit the gym and lift
Stope watching porn.
Delete social media

jm51 · 2019-03-20T15:44:12+00:00

I was just wondering if anyone could give some advice on how to take in everything this sub has to offer without getting so anxious about worrying about every little thing I am doing wrong or worrying about not picking up on behaviors that I should be.

Stop trying to be perfect. Not going to happen. Once you have given yourself permission to be imperfect, you will be able to give yourself credit for your achievements.

MattyAnon · 2019-03-20T17:16:20+00:00

The issue I occasionally have with reading through this sub is that ill start to feel overwhelmed by every little thing I should be paying more attention to/working on but don't currently do as much as I should.

Pick one thing.... work on it for a few weeks WITHOUT READING TRP. Get that thing down, then move onto the next.

You're young, you've got decades to work through this shit. Do it one bit at a time though

SittinAndWaitin · 2019-03-20T22:12:52+00:00

Take all the information you see here with a grain of salt because it's infected by cucks acting tough by hating women. Just do these things consistently and you'll be a new man in a year.

Heavy squats and deadlifts. Raises testosterone Eat a balanced and complete diet. Raises testosterone and makes your mind sharper. Pick a musical instrument and practice daily. Makes your mind sharper, gives you confidence, and is impressive. Be true to yourself and express your thoughts and emotions in a way most people can easily understand. This will give you confidence about your own ideas as well as emotional maturity.

Do you know why the top tiers of men don't need pua or the red pill to get laid? It's because they're true to themselves and then surround themselves with people who respect that.

Take care of yourself. Be yourself. Surround yourself with people who respect you for who you are. That's it.

monsieurhire2 · 2019-03-20T23:48:31+00:00

Look at the Big Picture Here
Make an Outline of TRP Stuff
The Outline Should be Subjects like "Lifting" "Financial Independence," "Looks-Maxing" "Status Building" "Personal Fulfillment" "Socializing" "Interactions with Women"
Then there should be sub-headings for each one. Things like lifting are pretty straightforward. So start there. Sub-headings would be "Intervals" "Exercises" "Progression" "Sleep" "Nutrition." Others would be WAY more complicated.
As you read TRP, you can add stuff that you think is relevant
Apply the stuff to your real life
Journal Regularly
It's work. It's life. Nobody said it would be easy. You get what you put into it. Someone earlier bitched about there being no rules. Well, here's a rule: If you jack off and play video-games all day, you degenerate into a fat slob. If you put in a fair amount of work in a balanced, disciplined, scheduled way, you WILL get a return. It may not be EXACTLY what you were expected, but things will improve in some way shape or form, UNLESS BAD LUCK / FORCE MAJEURE / ACT OF GOD, BUT HEY'S THAT LIFE, YOU PAY YOUR MONEY AND YOU TAKE YOUR CHANCES, GL.

KORB4311 · 2019-03-21T02:19:40+00:00

Get out of your head, you've read the material now go execute. Trial and error, the more practice you get the better you become.

[deleted] · 2019-03-21T17:50:52+00:00

Consider cognitive-behavioral therapy for anxiety. It can be done online for free through the eCouch program. It's some of the most red pill shit ever that doesn't get talked about much, and it ties in extremely well to NMMNG and WISNIFG.

Title	How does a young, inexperienced guy effectively absorb and utilize information on this sub without getting overwhelmed and overly analytical about every little thing.
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Date	20 March 2019 04:29 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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