Have I missed my chance if I’ve chatted with a cashier girl about 7 times making small talk without asking for the #

FereallyRed · 2019-04-03T06:11:57+00:00

One way to find out.

Pull the pin.

KettleLogic · 2019-04-03T07:19:50+00:00

You need to care way less about what she thinks. Dont pedestal this interaction

mrpthrowa · 2019-04-03T10:13:04+00:00

You counted them lol.

johnhello · 2019-04-03T13:51:17+00:00

Just approach daily and these questions won’t matter

BornOnMay3rd · 2019-04-03T06:09:28+00:00

If she has seen you enough times to be used to your prescence then yes. It's too late.

johncillo · 2019-04-03T14:13:32+00:00

Read Day Bang by Roosh. Sidebar material.

TheRedPillRipper · 2019-04-03T11:00:18+00:00

I’m building rapport

u/LeGone_James are you?

7 times making small talk.

With a cashier. From my experience I’d guess each interaction would’ve been perhaps 1-3 mins long equalling a total of 21 minutes. Max.

I’m not saying you can’t build rapport in such a short time; especially if there’s attraction; but; the circumstances; the time-frame and the dynamics leads me to think she’s not as invested/interested as you think.

That’s okay. That’s why you’re here and why I’m replying. I’ll assume you’ve read the sidebar.

Gauge her interest: When you’re there next making small talk look for IOI’s. Once confirmed it’s game-time.
Topic and flow: A thing I used to do was find a unique piece of clothing or accessory a woman was wearing and compliment it. Not her. e.g. “Those are beautiful earrings; where were they made?” Notice I didn’t say Where did you get them? This is because you want to ask *leading questions” that delve deeper into the topic; and give more ammunition to dictate the flow.
Steer captain: Once you’re conversing it’s time to steer the conversation wherever you want it to go e.g. number close..

Here’s a quick example of how I used to pickup in stores;

Me: ”Hey please can I buy these tictacs.”

Her: ”Sure. That’ll be $12.99.”

Me: ”Great. Those earrings are beautiful. They handmade?”

Her: *”Don’t know. I got them as a gift from my mom.” *

Me: ”I like them. I’m going to buy a pair for my sister/niece/Aunty. Hey if I give you my number can you ask your mom then text me?”

Her: ”Sure. But my phone’s in the back.”

Me: ”Here’s mine. Put your digits in and I’ll text you.”

This usually was how it happened with a few obvious variations but the basic steps remained the same.

Godspeed and good luck!

Jedi_Buzz_Zerker · 2019-04-03T07:39:00+00:00

It's part of her job to be nice to you; don't ask for the number, because it'll just make the interaction exponentially awkward...

smartstarfish · 2019-04-03T15:28:18+00:00

You’re living in your head

Inaction and overthinking is not going to get you anywhere.

Send it and you’ll get a yes or no.

redvelvet_oreo · 2019-04-03T11:05:18+00:00

Just ask her to help you find some milk and then ask for her number. It can be 50/50 depends how much she’s into you. Had a similar situation I didn’t really care I just liked teasing the girls in the deli. I got one of their numbers and I had been there more then a year everyday. The key is that it was never a thing of awkwardness. I asked for her number cause I felt like it and just to see if she would give it to me. Also pre selection works wonders because now the other cashier is into me lol.

Gdubs76 · 2019-04-03T13:07:51+00:00

You also need to give her a reason to call you along with your number.

omega_dawg93 · 2019-04-03T14:30:22+00:00

"there's a Starbucks (or McD's or whatever) nearby... we should have coffee there."

then watch her body language and degree of eye contact.

if she agrees, cool. if not, ask one of her coworkers out.

lapeparoja · 2019-04-03T17:51:10+00:00

No and Yes. No because, you still can ask her out. Even more, I encourage you to do it. Yes because, there is a high chance she will say no. No big deal.

Title	Have I missed my chance if I’ve chatted with a cashier girl about 7 times making small talk without asking for the #
Author	LeGone_James
Upvotes	33
Comments	52
Date	April 3, 2019 6:05 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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