Is this a pick me mentality?

Averyhvw · 2020-09-16T19:51:27+00:00

It’s more about being conditioned to have negative feelings when they see a “stripper body.” Images of beautiful women become associated with men ignoring her or implying she’s deficient. I don’t blame her either.

RiasXgremoryX · 2020-09-16T20:17:20+00:00

Yes, this is Pickme behavior. I used to be like this, my ex was a violent abusive narc who compared me to celebrities, IG models, strippers and porn stars he could never have. I self harmed and hated other women. I acted just like your sister, I would have a disgusted look on my face every time I saw them and would talk crap about them.

But I realized: who keeps them in business? who's funding their lifestyle? who cheated on me? who hurt me? men. Not these women who are just doing their jobs and living their lives.

Your sister needs to realize that women are not competition. That's what men want is to keep us fighting amongst ourselves so they can get away with as much BS as they can. she should direct her cause of pain to her ex. and its not going to be easy but she has to break this habit if she wants to live a happy and fulfilled life.

eveninghope · 2020-09-16T19:57:56+00:00

You're right here. She should learn to refocus that energy on understanding who the actual bad guy is. These women are just existing. It's her loser ex that made the shitty decisions.

tossed_salad100 · 2020-09-16T23:46:09+00:00

I hate to say I had a phase kinda like this but it was with Indian women. My ex was Indian and near the end of our relationship he got super pro-Indian and super anti-white/anti-Western and mentioned beautiful Indian girls and commented on Indian beauty subs. Then he slept with an Indian girl while stringing me along.

He’s gone and I am no longer racist. I was aware at the time that he was the problem and not the girls, but my heart was not having any logic at the time and they made me feel sick and so insecure. I didn’t want to see them.

tellmesomething11 · 2020-09-16T19:51:54+00:00

She gets triggered because she’s insecure. I mean, her ex basically verbally abused her by either saying he liked those bodies and triangulated her against them.

At the end of the day, she’s a pick me because she thinks these strippers are a threat to her. The real threat is a low life man, period. A hvm man would never. Until she accepts that she’s not the problem, she’s part of the problem.

Hahane · 2020-09-16T23:48:51+00:00

I think she'd be a pick me if she tried to imitate them.

OrchidLion · 2020-09-17T03:59:03+00:00

Because she feels inferior to them,

and hates her own body,

and wishes she has that body type,

and wishes her ex wanted her the way he wanted the strippers,

and believes that all males like that body type

and she keeps hearing from scrotes and scientific articles how its biological for a male to like hourglass curves and...

Need I go on

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-09-17T09:51:59+00:00

TIL that an hourglass/curvy body is actually a “stripper body” lol. She sounds like a massive pickme if she refers to other women as thots and strippers just because they have a particular body type.

Title	Is this a pick me mentality?
Author	TheTower_14
Upvotes	80
Comments	17
Date	September 16, 2020 7:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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