I'm looking for suggestions about dealing with my wife's resentment/anger. Currently I ignore her attitude, remove my presence, focus on my mission but it's seems to be an endless cycle. Half the week she seems fine, the other half she's a resentful bitch.
Quick Background:
I run my own very successful business, I lift 5 days a week(run gear), I have have hobbies and a great circle of friends. Sex is/was never an issue. Even with her shitty demeanor we still fuck 2-3 times a week. That said, her attitude stinks and is becoming a huge turn off.
I spent a good deal of time searching and learning on this sub and I know it's often said that she's a reflection of me, but I'm not resentful, I'm happy with my life, my mission, my progress. I've searched for posts about resentment but most seem to reference the anger phase, and it's not me who is angry. So I'm looking for insights that I may be missing.
My wife seems to be very entitled and selfish at times. It may be of no value but a couple months ago my sister in-law, out of nowhere, in private, said she knows her sister is an entitled selfish brat and she thanked me for "hanging in there"... I think this was like a kick in the nuts that opened my eyes.
It's very possible I just stuck my dick in angry (she was not like this while dating) and I've been to a couple lawyers in regards to my exit strategy should it need go that way. But I want to make sure I address my own bullshit before I go that route.
I don't have many expectations of her, she's a SAHM, kids are in school, outside of cooking a meal a couple nights a week and some laundry, she doesn't have much on her. I make good money and we have lots of support. She should not be stressed out given the circumstances, I don't know what she resents me for but half of every week is the silent treatment.
So I ignore her bullshit and focus on me but I'm concerned about the lessons I'm teaching my kids with this ongoing dynamic. I believe in extreme ownership so I know, regardless of the issue, it's my fault. But I'd like to see the fault more clearly before I take my next action. Thoughts...
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