Does anyone else find it excruciating to further interact with a woman who rejected you?

Borsao66 · 2019-08-17T23:07:25+00:00

So back in like 2012 or so, there was this real estate agent that I had the hots for. Asked her out and not being redpilled at the time, got shot down pretty hard.

Fast forward a few years and a couple of weeks ago she found me on LinkedIn and said she was coming back to town and that we should go out for drinks.

Looking now, the past 7 years haven't been kind and after how she shit on me, I found myself laughing at how this had panned out.

I noped right the fuck out of that message thread and blocked her.

ashblossomcherries · 2019-08-18T01:36:41+00:00

Don’t shit where you eat.

Got curved by a girl in my dorm earlier last semester and had to see her 3 times a day everyday for the rest of the semester. Don’t ever do this to yourself.

Or do it and you’ll learn for yourself.

Gordon-G · 2019-08-18T04:47:40+00:00

Never fish from the company dock. Learned this the hard way. Ended up changing jobs for metal sanity.

kaolin224 · 2019-08-18T05:00:59+00:00

I don't find it excruciating because I don't further interact with exes. If I'm not in a relationship with them anymore, and this means either as my plate or girlfriend, once it's done, I'm done.

I've seen enough relationships implode because guys date their coworkers - which is a huge, huge mistake. Or they date from their favorite sanctuaries, like the gym, favorite lounge, etc. The drama is ridiculous, and the guy ends up having to rearrange his life when it goes to shit because he's spoiled where he spends a good amount of his day.

You can tell people not to date coworkers until you're blue in the face, but they keep doing it. So whatever, they're grown men; let them reap the whirlwind.

Every woman I've dumped has always tried to sell me on the "hope we can still be friends". They take pride in how many exes are still friends, which is crazy considering how their relationships ended.

It's like, "dude, she was cheating on you with your best friend and me. Why in the hell would you want to be 'cool' with her? She's trash. "

If it was mutual and something crazy happened, then maybe, but there's no point unless you want to start it up again. However, if you already split up, don't be surprised if the same problems come up again in the future.

If it ended badly, you're torturing yourself by keeping in touch. They'll call you ruthless and cold-blooded, but that's fine.

Personally, I find it highly offensive when an ex is complaining to me about her current boyfriend, especially when we've been intimate. Fortunately, the solution is simple.

Tell them to fuck off when they try to re-engage, block them on everything, and pursue new prospects.

binarySearch_recurse · 2019-08-17T23:08:00+00:00

The common rule when trying to get a woman's phone number / hit on them is to not do it to a girl that you will see after you have tried your shot at her. So playing game with a girl from one of your classes, at work, the gym, etc is not a good idea because it's awkward as fuck when you see them again and believe me: I know exactly what you're referring and I too feel that it is really awkward when this happens to me.

However, take my advice with a grain of salt because I feel like I play it safe too many times and don't risk it enough. Theoretically on paper, if a guy feels nothing when he gets rejected is more likely to be successful because being rejected will not prevent him from keeping to pursue women. On paper it is easy to think that not having any negative emotions will make you more successful, but when you do get rejected, you feel like shit.

I think I'm getting to the point where being rejected hurts less and less because I've been rejected so many times like most guys if not most, but I was able to get gfs because I took those risks.

hot_soup19 · 2019-08-18T02:26:36+00:00

No because I don't talk to them ever again

ComplexProjection · 2019-08-18T07:50:27+00:00

It’s a problem of ego, over-investment and lack of abundance.

If she was just one of those girls, you wouldnt mind.

red__Man · 2019-08-18T01:31:07+00:00

make it a reason to work more on yourself.. make her watch progress getting better and stronger while regretting rejecting you when she had a chance

soukyfi · 2019-08-18T04:16:41+00:00

Learn to take rejection on the chin and ask for more

Pokeylaw · 2019-08-18T04:07:20+00:00

If they reject me no deal but I'm still gonna act like as normal as I can be.

ArksunHD · 2019-08-18T06:38:20+00:00

I learned the hard way not to do that I see her every day in lunch time and we share a common social circle

Spaghetti1776 · 2019-08-18T08:09:33+00:00

Not if you just pee on her like a normal person.

uptimex · 2019-08-18T08:30:40+00:00

It is this Chinese "Doing by not doing". You are there, you interact, but you don't have any energetic exchange with that person. You create this emptiness with her.

ThePifta · 2019-08-18T09:49:37+00:00

I still sometimes speak with crushes who rejected, friendzoned me. I think that's cool. I'm not feeling anything towards them, a some of them became great friends of mine. So yeah :D

TooManyThots · 2019-08-18T11:27:45+00:00

I think it's a good test of how well you can control the narrative. I have a friend who's done this and played it off as "haha remember when I tried to get you, oh well doesn't always work out" with a smile on his face. Then would constantly be seen with new women as well.

goomerall3 · 2019-08-18T11:45:39+00:00

No, as a matter of fact just happened last week...

NathanHollister · 2019-08-18T13:15:39+00:00

I love it. You get to watch them suffer as your smv for sup and they come to wish they had gone out with yiu

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-08-18T08:29:42+00:00

Man fuckkkk her

Title	Does anyone else find it excruciating to further interact with a woman who rejected you?
Author	EdgyMcdonuts
Upvotes	70
Comments	55
Date	August 17, 2019 10:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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