Basically every way of meeting girls is impossible.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-04-22T01:11:09+00:00

right except everyone else manages to do it. stop being socially awkward

mc0079 · 2016-04-22T02:59:45+00:00

Don't get out of bed you might twist your ankle, don't think about going outside it might rain, don't even try to cross the street a car might hit you....

OfSpock · 2016-04-22T00:53:51+00:00

How do so many people get together then?

midnightvulpine · 2016-04-22T03:28:08+00:00

It isn't at all impossible to meet girls. It might be difficult for you, for various reasons. But the simple truth of people who are together counters your belief.

But yes, generally approaching women on the street randomly is rarely going to work. Most women on the street are doing things and having some random person proposition them in some way is rarely going to go over well.

If you, yourself, don't have interesting topics regardless of the setting, yes that will make starting small talk difficult. Why do you need an interesting place to talk about, rather than talking about something interesting that has nothing to do with where you are? Of course, given your views on women who are at bars/clubs, it might point to your attitude towards them as a source of trouble. Hard to woo someone you hold a general disdain for, if that's how you approach things.

The number of people who get together through online dating would also contradict your assumptions there. One can argue if it's the best way or not, but calling it impossible is plain wrong.

From what I've read, a lot of people make connections through friends and friendship. If you don't have a lot of friends, you might try to remedy that. Not directly, but through going out to do things you enjoy, which can lead to more social interaction, more friends and more practice being around people. And more topics of interest for bar trips.

It's not impossible to meet girls. But how easy it is varies from person to person. A topic like this won't fix the issue.

Wowbaggerrr · 2016-04-22T01:11:35+00:00

A shared hobby is probably the best way to meet someone. It gives you some kind of common ground beyond "Hey, we're both single! And we both like...alcohol." And it gives you something to talk about in those first-date awkward moments.

I do a lot of male-centric sports, and when I was dating, that was a great place to meet guys. I liked that they were fit and had the same interests as me. I have a guy friend who does yoga. He loves the fitness aspect to it, but it's also a way for him to meet a ton of (fit, flexible) ladies. He's also joined a knitting group, and while he met plenty of women, he said they were a little weirder than the yoga girls.

And who knows? Even if you don't find the love of your life, you might find a hobby you really love.

[deleted] · 2016-04-22T00:56:28+00:00

Well shit, running a marathon is impossible for most people but the capacity for them to do it is there if they take the time to learn and train and have a good game plan.

You either put in the work or you don't, it is your choice though so own it instead of making excuses.

rulenumber303 · 2016-04-22T05:06:05+00:00

Fix your social circles.

wub1234 · 2016-04-22T07:04:14+00:00

Most of girls that use these sites are legit sub 3/10s too so if you're a 5+/10 guy you're almost always going to be settling.

That definitely isn't true. That will be the least of your problems with online dating, I assure you.

alreadyredschool · 2016-04-22T09:17:30+00:00

With a self defeating attitude it is impossible. Otherwise it's very possible.

dopesk1 · 2016-04-22T06:47:45+00:00

Online dating is a poor substitute for face-to-face interaction, and the girl might just string you along and never want to meet anyway. It could all be a waste of time.

Well i dunno i had 3 dates scheduled for tonight (fri).

redmachines · 2016-04-22T01:27:12+00:00

Your strategy is wrong. Don't try to meet girls; make girls want to meet you. Men who use the latter technique will get better results than using PUA mentality.

Apexk9 · 2016-04-22T02:27:11+00:00

As an attractive male I have no trouble in day game night game afternoon game bar game party game tinder game online game.

It's very easy to meet girls.

How many girls have you approached in the last week?

datingninja · 2016-04-22T03:28:19+00:00

Where do you live? I am in San Diego and I can assure you that the women here are not 3's. Sure there are average ones but there are a lot of gorgeous hot women looking for men.

Just my two cents.

[deleted] · 2016-04-22T04:55:51+00:00

It works alright for hot guys like mine

jonascf · 2016-04-22T08:42:20+00:00

Online dating is a poor substitute for face-to-face interaction, and the girl might just string you along and never want to meet anyway.... Most of girls that use these sites are legit sub 3/10s too so if you're a 5+/10 guy you're almost always going to be settling.

Met my gf through a web-page, I'd say she's way above 3/10.

Then there's social circle game. Well, even if you have friends (which a lot of incels don't sadly), they don't always know lots of girls. They may know like one or two girls, and if you can't click with them, then you're left with the previous options.

Try social circles that are a little more diverse, like courses/classes or some kind of organisation for people that share a common interest. I found a fwb by doing ju-jutsu in the same club as her.

sunkindonut149 · 2016-04-25T21:13:30+00:00

Go for activities that lots of girls are into, like yoga. Go to indie rock shows. Avoid gaming, metal / hardcore hip hop shows.

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[deleted] · 2016-04-22T00:45:29+00:00

Hobbies and shared interests.

Truecelacct · 2016-04-22T01:09:08+00:00

Just make a decent amount of money and the problem solves itself..

I can't speak for everywhere, but in many small towns it seems like it's a crime to be successful and single. If you make over a certain amount a gf will be provided for you.

Truecelacct · 2016-04-22T08:17:23+00:00

Then there's social circle game. Well, even if you have friends (which a lot of incels don't sadly), they don't always know lots of girls.

This could be a reason why guys who want to learn sexual strategy are looked down on and are seen as creepy.

Finding a woman through your social circle is considered to be the most "natural" way of finding somebody. If you can't, something must be wrong with you and your social circle.

It isn't though. I have a great social circle, but there are no single women of my target demographic in it.

[deleted] · 2016-04-22T08:50:16+00:00

Do you have a six pack? Is your style on point? Are you socially calibrated?

Title	Basically every way of meeting girls is impossible.
Author	watereol
Upvotes	3
Comments	71
Date	April 22, 2016 12:44 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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