Q4 All: Have you ever had a partner retract consent during or before sex?

MagicGainbow · 2016-04-03T00:20:33+00:00

Had lmr, as soon as she started it, I started to glance towards the door and made moves to ask her to leave...suddenly she was ''just playing.''

MasherusPrime · 2016-04-03T01:33:19+00:00

I had a girl rubbing her ass against my crotch after a date night. She was kissing me, groping me, the whole deal.

I asked if she wanted to go back to my apartment to do more, she agreed. She drove us there (she didn't drink, and I had had a couple of drinks).

Back to mine, she starts removing my clothes and we end up lying on the bed, touching and kissing.

Then she says "I'm not ready for this".

I say, "ok, no problem... please leave"

I explained that, she came to my apartment for sex, she drove us there for sex. If sex is not happening, her invitation to my home was revoked.

(She sent messages like crazy for the following two days, and then turned up only wearing a long coat...)

friendships4everyone · 2016-04-03T04:50:28+00:00

I think everyone has. My partner has wanted to stop for multiple reasons before, as have I. Fighting, too tired, too sore. Whatever. We stop immediately.

It's always slightly disappointing if you are in the mood/worked up/almost reaching orgasm, but who cares. I respect and love my partner far more than I want their body because they are more than a sex doll to me. I would never continue or make them feel bad for not feeling it any longer.

damaskrose · 2016-04-03T08:27:11+00:00

Of course, who hasn't? Sometimes it starts hurting, or something interrupts and the mood is gone, or sometimes you just change your mind. When you've had sex with someone 1000 times there's bound to be a few false starts. Response is "kay" and then we go back to whatever we were doing before we started having sex.

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[deleted] · 2016-04-03T01:29:47+00:00

Have you ever had a partner change their mind moments before or during sex?

nope.

If not, how would you handle it?

i'd be surprised, probably, but that would be that; no is no.

[deleted] · 2016-04-04T15:44:16+00:00

Yes, during sex. I stopped, I pulled out, and we "talked about it". Nothing was resolved, of course. We stayed together in a horribly deteriorating relationship for another 2 years after that.

JBrogrammer · 2016-04-10T17:13:48+00:00

You mean something like: "I'm getting kind of sore, can we stop?.."

I always stop, even I'm not uncaring enough that I could keep going and still enjoy it

ozymandias271 · 2016-04-03T00:32:20+00:00

Of course I have. What kind of ridiculous question is that? If my partner never said "eh, not feeling it" after we've had sex, oh, a hundred or a hundred fifty times, I would be genuinely concerned that they didn't feel comfortable rejecting me.

wazzup987 · 2016-04-03T03:21:57+00:00

NO but i had one nearly kill me while i was giving her head.

FirionDarklight · 2016-04-03T00:17:47+00:00

Stopped after about the 10th "No" to various tries or something. You could tell that she wasn't into it. So I just decided to sleep. The other day she left and ghosted after explaining in some messages why with stuff that boiled down to "I am not a whore and I have just broken up". I think she just wanted a place to stay for that day or something since she had no home in the town yet and I was one of the people she knew from highschool. Make what you want out of it.

wombatinaburrow · 2016-04-03T10:37:17+00:00

Yes. The cat attacking him and putting him off was the funniest time it happened.

buartha · 2016-04-03T04:12:33+00:00

My partner's never done it to me as far as I can recall, but I've done it to him (rarely) over the years. Depending on the reason, he's either changed tack and done something that I'd prefer, tried to get me more in the mood or left it. We've been together for 6 years, he knows I don't turn sex down lightly and I kind of expect him not to treat me like I'm playing games at this point.

[deleted] · 2016-04-03T09:19:17+00:00

I've had them shouting no but I keep going because that's not the safeword.

[deleted] · 2016-04-03T17:02:32+00:00

I was making out with a girl at a party in my friend's bedroom when I was 20 or 21 I think? She seemed into it at first and even lured me in there.. but then out of nowhere she stopped and shook her head doing the "no" thing and sort of moved away from me. I stopped and asked if everything was okay and if she wanted me to stop. It was pretty weird.. Maybe she was regretting it cause we were pretty good friends.

We wound up dating about a year later haha.. I asked her about it and she said she was so drunk that she didn't remember. I was pretty hammered too.

Had other times too where I was super tired, shitty bad mood, mad at my girlfriend, too drunk to fuck etc..

DietCokeImOnMyKnees · 2016-04-04T12:05:59+00:00

Yes. I always back off immediately. Sometimes I will try again later, but if there's one thing we should all be able to agree on, no means no.

Title	Q4 All: Have you ever had a partner retract consent during or before sex?
Author	GoldPilot
Upvotes	5
Comments	69
Date	April 2, 2016 11:45 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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