If your daughter had fantasies about having sex with two or more men, and wanted to try it out IRL, what would be your response to her?

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2015-10-15T14:20:52+00:00

"That's nice dear, please go get some girlfriends to talk to, I'm your mom"

goatismycopilot · 2015-10-15T10:06:22+00:00

What teenager tells their parents they want to try a three way though? They tell their friends that stuff. However, I would tell her that sexual fantasies are a part of sexual life and it was normal. Bringing it to reality? That would be a longer talk because I can think of a huge list of things I would rather my 16 year old be doing. I would rather them wait on having sex never mind a three way.

[deleted] · 2015-10-15T10:30:06+00:00

"Wait until you're of legal, consenting age and be safe."

This is assuming we've already had lengthy discussions on the importance of getting tested regularly when sexually active, inquiring after partner's' STI status, using contraception (which segues into the discussion on types of contraception: BC pills, IUDs, condoms, and more) choosing safe partners, etc.

I'd tell her fantasies and kinks of all kinds are acceptable and normal as long as everything and everyone is staying safe, sane, and consensual.

GridReXX · 2015-10-15T08:39:55+00:00

Sexual fantasies are natural.

But I would express to her all of the consequences of something like that.

And then tell her she's not allowed to have sex as long as I'm responsible for her life and bills.

:)

TheGreasyPole · 2015-10-15T09:19:50+00:00

My response would be

"Why aren't you a normal person! Who asks their DAD advice on threeways! Are you mental or something! Why can't you just go and do it already, without telling me, like any normal teenager does! Are you some kind of mental defective! I don't need to know this! ... Be safe ... Now get out of here. Fuck!"

Probably something like that.

belletaco · 2015-10-15T14:44:53+00:00

I really hope my child never comes to me to talk about her sexual fantasies. Ugh. I am all for sex education but im gonna draw the line at discussing fantasies with my children.

ee4m · 2015-10-15T08:05:10+00:00

She wouldn't discuss it with me in the first place, if she did it would mean we have a weird relationship.

So long as she was mentally healthy I think, so what?

Its normal.

What would your response be to your son?

SmurfESmurferson · 2015-10-15T06:32:55+00:00

I'd want to know why she thought it was ok to talk to me about that, honestly.

Then I would pay for a lot of therapy.

andrewisgood · 2015-10-15T21:53:17+00:00

I remember awhile back someone posted about how he was getting after his 19 year old sister about her sex life and breaking up with someone, and my thought process was, I don't want to ever think about my sister having sex if I don't have to. I think that's the same here.

If I was father I think it's different in that, it's something you may have to discuss and talk about the hard and awkward things like sex. In regards to telling a parent about sexual fantasies, I think that would just be weird, and that's an incredibly weird question to ask, haha. Of course I would be fine with it, my daughter would be a free woman who can do whatever as long as she's safe, but I don't want to know about sexual fantasies.

I've seen some responses, and the idea of saying no you will not to your daughter is pretty much telling her to have sex with every person in existence, because that's how being a teenager works. What's funny is I guarantee that red pillers with daughters will end up raising the most obnoxious SJWs on the planet, based on their strict adherence to gender roles.

[deleted] · 2015-10-16T00:34:52+00:00

Somebody has a twisted relationship with their parents...

woefulwank · 2015-10-15T06:59:13+00:00

I'd say it's relatively normal. And wouldn't stress her out about it. Many women report fantasizing about group sex. They even state they occasionally think about gangbangs/rape in a context where it is complete fantasy, and also say they'd rarely act on such thoughts.

Pornhub collected some results also that indicate women's sexual fantasies. http://www.pornhub.com/insights/women-gender-demographics-searches

rulenumber303 · 2015-10-15T10:05:00+00:00

She's normal, I'd tell her so, a lot of women have such fantasies. I'd recommend to her that she have a one on one relationship or two or three and be in her mid twenties before deciding whether/how to turn such a fantasy into reality because it is the sort of thing that can go horribly horribly wrong when attempted by people who are new to sex and relationships. I'd probably use the analogy of driving a huge prime mover... a lot of kids look at them and think "wow I wanna be a long haul truck driver" but then if they've got any sense they don't go hopping behind the wheel of one as soon as possible, they get their car licence and drive a car a while and then learn to drive a medium sized truck and then eventually work their way up to big rigs if that is what they still want to do. Even if they decide that they don't want to drive big rigs because there's just too much hassle now they know what it actually takes and they'd rather be doing something else, they'll always think the big rigs are cool and that's just fine.

My response to a son would be similar, if you want a bunch of guys to pull a train on you or whatever then that's a long term goal that requires working up to if you want to do it safely and knowing what you are getting into, not something for right now. Meanwhile, enjoy your fantasies and have a few relationships.

Edit to add: I've apparently had a visit from the downvote fairy and since I've got no idea whether the downvote fairy is a terp who thinks I'm terrible for not forbidding group sex completely or a sex positive bloop who thinks I'm terrible for not recommending she follow her star immediately... well I guess that downvote was a bit of a waste eh?

Nazrath2112 · 2015-10-15T12:57:08+00:00

Depends on her age, huehuehue.

betterdeadthanbeta · 2015-10-15T15:53:30+00:00

Let's say you had a 16 year old daughter, and she expressed to you that she has had many fantasies about having sex with two or more men at the same time, and want's to bring that fantasy to reality. However, she wanted your advice about that, and what you think about a girl her age having those fantasies.

I would explain that fantasizing about such things is normal. That I, her mother, her teacher, every person in her class, etc has similar sexual fantasies. But that acting on them can be risky, status diminishing, psyche effecting, and ultimately underwhelming.

I'd further tell her in no uncertain terms that she's not to engage in sexual congress until 18, that casual sex is bad because it lowers your value in the eyes of people who judge such things (which is most of us) and carries

I'd be tracking her development and if, against my best efforts, it seemed like she was just born for sluthood, I'd sigh, tell Jesus "very well, if this was your wish" and educate her to be the finest blue pill woman she could be. That is, a narcissistic, shallow, careerist, slut who ruthlessly uses men and makes full use of her "victimhood" to gain social and economic advantage, before inevitably mellowing out and latching onto a wealthy beta late in life.

SirNemesis · 2015-10-15T19:54:18+00:00

Lock her in the basement and find a good guy to marry her off to (and make sure he has a good basement).

bromance946 · 2015-10-16T01:55:09+00:00

I'd say go for it, be safe, etc.

Wolfwoodd · 2015-10-16T03:00:49+00:00

"Aww.. you're must get that from your mother"

wombatinaburrow · 2015-10-16T10:15:26+00:00

My dad bought me a box of condoms and told me to be careful, and make sure I had friends who knew who I was with and to call and check on me if I was alone with a man when I first discussed the idea of becoming sexually active. (He asked me if I had a boyfriend, lol). Basically to enjoy myself, not be heavied into doing anything I didn't want to, trust my instincts and look after my friends. It's good advice.

[deleted] · 2015-10-16T13:21:19+00:00

Most teenage girls do have sexual fantasies, but it's unlikely that they would tell their parents and if their Fathers especially are protective enough it's unlikely they will get to act on those fantasies.

Title	If your daughter had fantasies about having sex with two or more men, and wanted to try it out IRL, what would be your response to her?
Author	gavinok
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Date	October 15, 2015 6:28 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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