How to be more desired as a woman

Rejoice7 · 2019-09-30T21:52:28+00:00

Something outside the norm, but I would say - while yes beauty is obviously a first attraction - but cant tell you how many pretty woman are otherworldly boring. No conversational skills, no real opinions, no strong beliefs beyond where the wind is blowing. No sense of how BIG the world is and other cultures. We’re all in our tiny safe bubbles, men and women.

Be witty, be well read, well versed in the world, other cultures, have opinions, be curious, know how to keep a conversation (spoken or text) going. Men are always thinking about something (lol) and if you can get inside his mental world on an ideological level - that is the place where a man gets vulnerable and where his trust comes from. Can he really speak his mind? So many men are just bored out of their minds in dating/relationships - might also be a factor in male cheating (not defending cheating). Just my 2 cents much love everyone. Great post! Look forward to other responses

ragnarockette · 2019-10-01T01:15:42+00:00

Low hanging fruit:

wear red
wear skirts
wear high heels
smile
laugh

I do think being a flirt and sparkling conversationalist can take you far.

bahnahnahnah · 2019-10-01T01:13:59+00:00

Everything in life is about balance and when you balance yourself you become desirable.

Examples: Be confident but humble. Sexy but modest. Funny/serious but casual. Knowledgeable but open to learning more. Kind but set boundaries.

Write down all of the traits you yourself would like to see in an SO, then detail each of those traits with what you believe they would desire, expect, or deserve based on those traits. (i.e. my husband works long hours, when I work short days I cook/clean, my husband stays in shape, I should too, etc.)

BFCE · 2019-09-30T22:35:24+00:00

I'm not super hot or anything, but I look alright and used to get approached quite a lot (when I was younger-I'm 31 now so approaches are more sporadic).

It definitely was not the way I dressed. I used to have a buzzcut and dress like a dude.

I definitely wasn't demure or ladylike. I speak my mind and am often called obnoxious.

Part of it is probably that I'm really skinny but still have tits (small but still they exist) and an ass that isn't flat. It sucks that this is the answer, but I have no clue what else it could be. And they do say men are more visual. I guess a woman who doesn't have that body type naturally could lose weight, do squats, and wear flattering bras. Being skinny without losing your attractive bits is 80% of the battle IMO.

I think another huge part of it is just genuinely liking men. I was always a little boy crazy. I always liked being around men, talking to men, flirting with them and making them feel good, giving them lots of compliments and laughing at their jokes. I think guys must be able to sense that. I was always very approachable to guys, I think because I liked them. I probably gave off a lot of subtle signs that I was receptive to being approached.

I never wore make-up or dresses. I never did any of the other stuff I see most commonly advised to women. I just left my house and said a lot of ridiculous shit.

I believe if you think highly of men and like being around them, they can just sort of sense it. If you secretly harbor negative views towards men (like a lot of women I see on this site), I think they can sense that too. Idk know, I'm thinking somehow there are subtle signs via body language and facial expressions.

Tishkaminx · 2019-10-01T07:04:30+00:00

One thing ive noticed is to look approachable, dont look intimidating in your dress sense.. maybe slightly more casual but still appropriate to the occasion.

When i go out, i go to goth/ metal clubs. I spend a lot of time planning my outfit, sometimes even sewing and constructing peices especially. I look over the top flamboyant in corsets, boots , makeup etc. I feel great and im told i look great - but i also get told that i look intimidating. The only guys i attract are the drunken 'shirt boys' (trendy guys who come for the experience) who want to hit on a goth girl.

I get more attention wearing casual clothes in the daytime, especially when im dressed for work. (Unfortunately its attention from trendy guys that im not interested in)

LateralThinker13 · 2019-10-03T19:10:59+00:00

Stand out from the crowd. The crowd consists of:

Feminists.

Tattoos.

Fat.

Unfit.

Single mothers.

Uncouth.

Poorly dressed.

Uninteresting/shallow.

No etiquette.

Self-centered/entitled/attention whore

Avoid those traits and you're already head and shoulders above most women.

JohnIan101 · 2019-10-01T11:21:22+00:00

The use of perfume - having it not be blatant; something that only can be smelled by close proximity.

_your_cat_is_ugly · 2019-10-01T20:21:16+00:00

Look pretty Be young Have a low waist to hip ratio Have a symmetrical face Look hot naked

RainySeasonInPH · 2019-10-02T14:50:59+00:00

Hit the gym.

"Lift" is not advice for men only.

TakeYourTime109 · 2019-10-01T12:59:56+00:00

Like some others have mentioned in this thread - beauty is only skin deep. Yes, men are visual beings but once that initial vetting (and fascination) of appearances are done, what's left is your character and who you are as a person. What are your thoughts, interests, beliefs and opinions? Are you intellectually curious and open to learning more about other things? Sometimes we get too comfortable with our lives and the little boxes we exist within and forget about working on these qualities, so it's always good to give ourselves a bit of nudge and get back on track towards becoming (as you've said) 'highly desired'.

lordkingalpha · 2019-10-01T00:52:08+00:00

Coming from a guys perspective, other then the obvious being hot and having a nice body. I like women who are funny, can actually hold a conversation, that do things for me like cook and treats me like her king.

Title	How to be more desired as a woman
Author	k8_gr8
Upvotes	25
Comments	24
Date	September 30, 2019 9:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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