Unaligning Political Views!

Hammocknapping · 2019-11-08T23:43:11+00:00

Don’t marry someone you wouldn’t vote for.

redandpearls · 2019-11-08T20:37:07+00:00

I think this is something you need to think deeply about, whether you're okay with this or not.

Typically, this is a red flag for me as an individual. Not that we might not have the same views (my current SO and I have some differing opinions), but feeling like you can't discuss those views without being bulldozed or made to feel childish, especially things that directly affect your life and your culture. I would be concerned that this attitude would eventually drift into other areas of my life with this person, especially since you haven't been together that long.

szsunshine · 2019-11-08T22:27:55+00:00

My H is more than 10 years older than I am and belongs to a different political party. (for a clue, I am one of the people on this board who does NOT believe that "feminist" is a dirty word).

IMO, the age difference is not a power imbalance. We met when I was older.

I think more important than what political party you belong to (or conservative vs. liberal)....are your VALUES the same? Often, members of both parties want similar things, but disagree on the way to get them...

I very often see my H's point of view (although I disagree). And when I disagree, you can bet I open my mouth and tell him how I feel, or ask a question that exposes the hole in his POV (he has done the same to me). We can argue (in a debate, not fight way).

I also grew up around families (not my own) who were politically active and had two parents of different parties. I think that is A LOT more rare now.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-11-08T22:26:49+00:00

Are his views extreme, or is that your viewpoint bias?

I ask because when polled, people on the far left tended to consider themselves center-left, and to consider those who were liberal/leftist/center-left people from a decade ago on the far right.

Another poll showed that when surveying liberals, conservatives, and libertarians and asking them how both their own views stood and how the other two groups stood, liberals were the only group of the three that could not accurately articulate the positions of the other two groups.

In other words, are you sure that you're not the extremist instead? I mean, I give you the benefit of the doubt, but in today's culture everybody on the left (MSM, academia, etc.) all think they have all the answers and anybody else is far right, and when quizzed they're usually pretty ignorant. It's laughable. They call people like Jordan B. Peterson far right, for example, which is ridiculous. So checking your biases might be a better first stop.

EDIT: One more point.

He's absolutely perfect in every other aspect and is hinting at taking our relationship even further. As a good woman and first mate am I destined to accept his political views if I want my relationship to succeed?

What are the odds that he's brilliant, perfect, and amazing in every way except for his belief systems? If he is that awesome, don't you think that maybe, just maybe, there might be something to his positions that you could listen and learn from rather than dismissing him as an extremist?

Lurkingnopost · 2019-11-14T22:18:26+00:00

I am not a "left or right winger", but I do support Trump, my wife hates him. We never, NEVER would consider giving that bafoo any power or influence over our relationship.

That is my best advice. He sounds very much like me. You sound exactly like my wife. Accept he has different politival views and then just move on.

Another example between my wife and I is pizza. She likes pineapple on it and I remind her that there are still people in jail in New York for putting pineapple on pizza! In all seriousness....you are just fine. Accept the opposing views. Trump supporters are good men, too. Believe me.

luke__7 · 2019-11-09T12:44:25+00:00

The fact that he is Caucasian and you are Hispanic already tells me he might not be as extremist as you think. Most (right-wing American) extremists believe in race purity.

Could it be that he is not TOTALLY on board with some ideas you hold dear: abortion, climate change, and vaccination.

Personally, I believe in

-climate change (but not a single word about it from MSM), -choice (only when the life of the mother is in danger or the baby will come out extremely disabled or unable to survive realistically), -vaccination (when it's extremely clear what disease is in question and the companies supplying companies are not tied/owned by right or left wing elites)

By today's standards, most leftists would call me extremist on these issues, even though I am center on all

rbx11111098 · 2019-11-08T23:53:20+00:00

Sweet love, Your polarizing political beliefs will be a source of massive contention down the road. Right now, it's just starting to brew but eventually it will boil over. It's the same as different religious beliefs. Don't ever fool yourself into believing that your love for each other will triumph over opposing political or religious beliefs. Your infatuation with him is what's giving you the ability to overlook it now but when your child like infatuation diminishes, you will loathe the individual next you and like all other Liberals, you will ad homenin him until the cows come home simply because you think your views are right and his views are wrong.

Find someone whose political and religious view align, otherwise you will regret it when you invested all your time in a man you can't really respect or love because his views are too "right wing extremist."

I too, like him, have right leaning views and I have experienced the hatred, contempt, disdain, and ostracization when I went to a Liberal community college and now going to a Liberal University. I am done. This will be my last semester and I am disappointed I wasted the money, all because I am a Christian and have conservative views.

I would never link up with a man who is a Liberal. It already spells failure and doom.

symko · 2019-11-08T21:00:22+00:00

Short answer: Yes

Long answer: What is the point of marriage if you won’t accept certain aspects of a persons life? It’s not a buffet. It’s all or nothing.

hana-bullyn · 2019-11-08T21:40:59+00:00

How is he an Alpha if he's dating someone 10 years younger than himself & benefiting from a power imbalance? (Not even mentioning the difference in culture). Plus the fact that he's set up home & playing house with a woman who he obviously didn't care enough to marry first. He's a Beta.

An Alpha male chooses a woman closest to him in every aspect. If your partner was an Alpha male, he would date a woman closer to his age, ethnicity & political values. And he certainly wouldn't move in with this woman before marriage. No wonder y'all are having political disagreements. If he were an Alpha, he would make an attempt to find a woman who agreed with his views, somewhat. He's a Beta, blinded by the sex a younger woman offers.

Title	Unaligning Political Views!
Author	HunnyCitrus
Upvotes	8
Comments	39
Date	November 8, 2019 8:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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