How Does One Accept a Girl's Truth

grimreapersdtr · 2018-12-12T23:13:07+00:00

Not to sound odd, but as a woman I tend to question what anyone says at first glance. People of all genders can be deceiving.

TheMadWoodcutter · 2018-12-12T23:17:21+00:00

Can you elaborate on what you mean by that? Are you referring even to simple statements or whatnot?

How could you possibly ever connect on a human to human level with someone you intrinsically feel you cannot trust?

whisperHailHydra · 2018-12-12T23:26:32+00:00

Has anyone given you a reason not to trust them? Honestly, if you can't seem to trust any woman simply from the fact that they're a woman, you probably need to talk to a counselor.

birdiesss · 2018-12-13T00:02:10+00:00

You recognize that it is your desire to not be vulnerable that makes you objectify them this way. It's up to you from here. Do you want to learn how to be vulnerable and actually experience a deeper layer of human existence? Or are you happy fucking animated sex dolls?

tinylittlelady_3891 · 2018-12-13T05:57:04+00:00

I mean think of it this way. Wouldn’t you be upset if a woman did the same to you? Did not trust a single word you said. Made you send her your location at all times, even though you said you were at the gym and that’s where you were. You wouldn’t feel free with her, and I’m willing to bet you’d end that fast. All her life, she was taught that men are violent, and they only want sex, and at any moment they could rage and do something drastic. Taught to see men as rapists or a predator. There are more examples of domestic violence where the man kills the woman, I’m not saying it doesn’t happen the other way around, but statistically, women have more reason to fear men than men fearing women. Seeing everything you did through that lens no matter how many times you said the opposite, shouted until you were blue in the face that you aren’t violent/don’t just see her as an object. Always try think from their perspective, recognize that they are people too and blanket statements (all women are untrustworthy, all men are violent rapists) don’t apply on the individual level. Giving each individual that merit to show they are trustworthy, and after a while they earn your trust. It goes both ways. You’d want a woman to trust you, but if you can’t trust her, that’s just unjust...you say you have trouble recognizing a woman’s prefrontal cortex/executive thinking ability, but what if she treated you like that?

Did you ever see that post of all the things a woman has to think about when it comes to her personal safety compared to what a man thinks about? It’s crazy, like 34 things, vs how little men consider that question. While you are blanketing all women as untrustworthy, women’s worst fear is “he will become violent or kill me,” so who has the greater incentive to stay out of relationships?

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/7072080

I knew someone who took a taxi once, that taxi driver raped her, strangled her, and drove over her body with the car. There are countless incidents like that in the world. Should I assume, after that, that all men cannot be trusted? No right? Women, like men, were taught things about the opposite sex that, generally, may seem to make sense, but can’t apply that to every individual.

thechargingsky · 2018-12-13T03:32:50+00:00

I'm not trying to sound judgmental, but have you considered therapy?

It seems like your issues w/ women stem from mistrust in general. Therapy can be helpful to break that cycle of thinking.

In regards to vulnerability:

Vulnerability is scary, but leads to a more fulfilling life. I highly recommend watching this Brene Brown video.

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en

Cellosrcool2 · 2018-12-18T16:02:01+00:00

I’m sometimes skeptical of what men say initially, because I’ve found it’s often just bravado.

Calamari1995 · 2018-12-14T06:31:49+00:00

You say you "can't seem to believe anything a girl says". Now ask yourself this, Can you believe anything a guy says? Is it not nonsense unless a guy also takes the initiative to back it all up as well. Nonetheless, as a guy, I just wanted to let you know that I am a multi-billionare and would like you to pay me a couple hundred bucks because TRUST ME, I can make you rich in a few days, sounds good?

At the end of the day, you know its BS because this axiom far extends gender and is actually based on the individual. Who would you be more likely to believe, which one is more credible, A successful woman with a PHD volunteering in a soup kitchen for the homeless or a smelly guy on the street wearing worn out clothes with a drug addiction.

aanarchist · 2018-12-17T10:50:30+00:00

Go by the evidence.

Title	How Does One Accept a Girl's Truth
Author	EL_Miore
Upvotes	8
Comments	38
Date	December 12, 2018 11:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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