I read a post a couple days ago on OYS-MRP that has really struck me profoundly for some reason, and I wanted to get some more information.

Here is the part of the post that was most relevant:

Men should avoid irrevocable decisions about their relationships and marriage until they have

  • owned their stuff

  • developed their own authentic and congruent frame,

  • become self-validating, and

  • become emotionally self-sufficient and strong enough to be emotionally vulnerable.

Before then, they neither know the values of the future self they are deciding for, nor the wife they are deciding about.

Now, personally, I've learned to own my stuff, or at least made significant progress in this area.

I've tried to develop authentic and congruent frame, and I think I've made a lot of progress, although my recent OYS has me wondering if I've done as much work as I had thought. I'm not saying I've arrived here.

Self validation for the one who bends knee to the Lord Jesus looks different than it does for the pagan, I think, but I "get this", I think.

However, becoming emotionally self sufficient... At least considering it in these words, I feel like I've done almost nothing here, and I think it shows in my OYS, certainly in my life.

I think I've read most of the MRP books. The one that seems like it would be most relevant from memory would be NMMNG. Are there others helpful for doing the work here?