My (30) LTR (26) of six months and I have both had sex prior to our relationship and prior to being saved.
Last week, I was in the bathroom and she had left her phone on the sink, unlocked. As I'm washing my hands I see a notification for a message from a guy she had mentioned she talked to for a short amount of time before me - she, unsolicited, told me they didn't sleep together. Now, I'm not one to snoop without a reasonable suspicion to do so, but early on in our relationship, I made my boundaries clear and she knew exes of any kind were off limits. I open the message and, expecting the worst, I see that he has been reaching out to her, but she was telling him they couldn't talk because she was with someone and wanted to focus on our relationship.
Great - one point for her.
However, just above their most recent conversation was a conversation from a year ago when they were seeing each other. It was less a conversation and more sexting. Things, as her boyfriend, I definitely don't want to read even though it happened before she knew me. Some of what they were saying referred directly to them having had sex.
I'm super happy she shut him down now that she's with me; however, I'm annoyed she lied to me. I know, I know, AWALT.
What I don't get is that three months into our relationship is when we had a brief discussion about our exes and she was pretty open about this dude and dudes she had slept with. So I just can't figure out why she felt the need to lie about him specifically.
Do I confront her about this?
Is it wrong that I want her to know that I know she lied?
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