My issues with FDS

silentium-est_aureum · 2020-10-18T19:51:48+00:00

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makeouthill261 · 2020-10-18T16:53:29+00:00

There's a reason as to why almost all of the women on that sub are single. So much so that, on a dating sub, they have to repeatedly talk about how it's okay to never actually date. Teaching women how to vet men and approach relationships with boundaries is all good and well, this whole "queen" mindset is so fucking unattractive and if regular men find it off-putting, I can't imagine why "high value men" wouldn't.

DeprivedBee · 2020-10-18T16:46:17+00:00

Yeah I agree. If you want to be treated well then you need to treat your date the same way. Let them know you're interested in them too. Playing hard to get and making him pay is just going to run any self-respecting dude off. Only simps would tolerate such shitty treatment.

FDS gals complain about pickmeishas but they're literally filtering for the male equivalent of them.

i_have_a_semicolon · 2020-10-18T16:44:57+00:00

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As a woman I whole heatedly agree and hence don't even get bothered by complaints males lob at them. Because they're super entitled, provide nothing of value, and are hypocrites.

LooseIndication · 2020-10-18T19:53:27+00:00

The FDS has absolutely no clue on how men and women relate.

jose3013 · 2020-10-18T22:38:20+00:00

FDS has a delusional view on what makes Women "valuable" to men.

No you're not a HVW just becaue you have a Phd and more money and success than the guy that's hitting on you.

Men don't value the same things that women do, most would pick a fun, hot, loyal, and caring 23 year old college dropout over a cold and serious 32 years old nobel prize winner.

Value is subjective anyway, you can't "decide" your own value when looking for someone else..

Physical_Cabinet · 2020-10-19T00:36:47+00:00

I get wanting a high value man and wanting him to not pump and dump you. Going on a date as opposed to his bedroom to “Netflix and chill” makes a whole lot of sense. But why is the amount of money he spends the ultimate sign of status to FDS women? Why does it have to be fancy as fuck? What if she shows you a good ass time instead or take you a fun ‘adventure’.

mensahi41 · 2020-10-18T17:22:49+00:00

People post examples of cheap dates that the guy put a lot of effort into regularly and there’s a convo about how the whole idea is about effort.

silentium-est_aureum · 2020-10-19T20:47:34+00:00

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_mwk · 2020-10-18T16:47:39+00:00

also my issues with fds!!! it's even more unforgiving than i am and i am the type to hold grudges for life

as for pt2, it should really really add more emphasis to thoughtfulness and effort

and for pt3, they're just so cold to their husbands. if i marry someone they become family, you cant keep tabs and count pennies with family???

2020-10-18T18:12:15+00:00

they have very wacky and shitty political opinions as well. but– do we maybe maybe talk about them a bit too much? not you obviously, i'm speaking of myself/in general/broadly. maybe ive missed smtn

it's kind of like people who post about flat earthers forever. like yes you have a point but are they worth spending that much time on

banned10 · 2020-10-18T19:21:11+00:00

Bookmarking

tiposk · 2020-10-18T17:47:57+00:00

As much as I think that FDS is a shit sub and much more harmful than what you've described, I still think you're one-sided about this. Looking at your posting history you spend way too much time shitting one women while completely ignoring similar behavior in men.

silentium-est_aureum · 2020-10-18T19:22:54+00:00

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jackandjill22 · 2020-10-18T22:33:27+00:00

SecondHandMatron · 2020-10-19T10:25:32+00:00

When men learn from experience, they become more valuable. Their mistakes in life do not burden them permanently if they learn from them. Some women might even find a "mysterious past" intriguing.

The mistakes women make in relationships burden them for life. When women learn from experience, they change category. There is no way around this. To a man looking for a relationship, a woman's value depends entirely on her purity. There are many other ways women can be valuable, but understand that for relationships, her value never exceeds her purity.

Many frustrations I see in women is caused by their belief they can learn from mistakes and start over fresh. It's similar to the frustrations of incels trying to looks-maxx without results.

The FDS advice reads as "control yourself woman! No, don't suck that dick! Don't even dare touch it! It will ruin everything!" which is accurate in a literal sense, but any woman needing this advice is out of the game anyway.

The best favor that can be done to "well traveled and experienced" 30+ women is to help them understand their options and what their future is looking like. With realistic understandings of their situations, they would be able to exercise options, which are still greater than most looks-maxxing incels.

jdobrila · 2020-10-18T16:44:22+00:00

Men are not humans. Women are not humans either. We're all animals.

Title	My issues with FDS
Author	silentium-est_aureum
Upvotes	24
Comments	67
Date	October 18, 2020 4:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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