"You are too choosey. Aren't you afraid of being single forever?"... (How would FDS reply to this?)

AyemHerself · 2020-10-28T02:14:35+00:00

"No. Because single isn't a bad thing to be."

As paradoxical as it sounds, FDS at its core is learning how to be happy being by yourself. Because once you're happy as a single woman, you're not going to settle for the first man willing to marry you just for the sake of being married. So unlike modern dating advice, we advise against dating everyone in sight, and weeding them out for incompatibility as soon as possible to spare yourself later heartbreak.

sikedyke · 2020-10-28T02:21:13+00:00

I would rather be single than be in an unfulfilling relationship.

smm1892 · 2020-10-28T02:18:24+00:00

Nothing wrong with being single when you have fulfilling family relationships, friendships (with both men and women), and hobbies that you can do both alone and with other people!
Everything wrong with putting up with treatment that is less than you deserve just to say you “have a man”.

Let’s normalize being single until you’ve really found what you’re looking for! No reason to rush! 🌟

AbundantOverflow · 2020-10-28T02:19:21+00:00

I wouldn’t respond at all because another person’s judgments of my choice don’t require my defense.

Part of being high value is protecting my peace, and that means not everything and everyone deserves a response.

Danigirl_03 · 2020-10-28T02:21:29+00:00

When a lioness knows what she brings to the table she’s not afraid to eat alone!

Solaresa · 2020-10-28T02:24:02+00:00

"No."

If you want something more elaborate: "I love my own company, and in order for me to invite someone to share that, they would have to offer me more than I can offer myself alone. No one has met that standard."

chateauduchat · 2020-10-28T02:19:42+00:00

So?

🙂

SuitablePerformance3 · 2020-10-28T02:23:59+00:00

"What the hell is wrong with not settling for someone who won't treat me right?Or to my standard? If it works for your then fine, but some of us want better for ourselves."

And if they don't get it then reassess the relationship with the person.

Freshweave11 · 2020-10-28T02:45:27+00:00

I’d say, “I have a greater purpose in life than to be someone’s wife, thanks tho!”

Gambit12345 · 2020-10-28T02:27:45+00:00

I’d also just say no. Coincidently, some of my happiest years were when I was single and really living life to its fullest, challenging myself, robust social life, high self esteem, lots of hobbies and interests and living on my own time not needing to consider a bf. Dating or not is someone’s personal choice that others seem to love giving input into.

MacheteDavis · 2020-10-28T04:40:11+00:00

To quote the great philosopher Whitney Houston, "I'd rather be alone than unhappy".

kettleodumplins · 2020-10-28T05:28:33+00:00

It started out with criticism, block and delete ;)

Title	"You are too choosey. Aren't you afraid of being single forever?"... (How would FDS reply to this?)
Author	manisfestationqueen
Upvotes	12
Comments	14
Date	October 27, 2020 8:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jj963z/you_are_too_choosey_arent_you_afraid_of_being/
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