Girl Stopped Midway through Sex and Refused to do Anything in the Morning Except Cuddle

atticusfinch1973 · 2020-11-10T09:16:48+00:00

She made a weird sound and you called her out on it. Which resulted in her being embarrassed. So then she’s uncomfortable. And then you argued with her about it, which was probably worse. And then ignored her and went to sleep.

She stuck around, but she probably remembered the night before and shut herself down. No big deal, but you might need some damage control a bit.

Inertia_Override · 2020-11-10T08:33:19+00:00

1- You already know. Don’t ask if she’s okay, let her tell you. Just act like you ain’t see, hear, or smell anything (unless it’s really concerning like an STD). She’s probably embarrassed about something.

2- Don’t argue with women; I imagine it as a failed shit test every time I find myself about to argue.

3- It’s hard, but you never want to seem mad or upset when you don’t get the pussy (or in this case don’t get to finish). It gives their pussy power it doesn’t deserve. You gotta just play it cool as fuck, like you get so much pussy it don’t even matter. Give her a kiss on the cheek then roll over or whatever. You get the point.

Edit: Spelling

RevolutionaryPea7 · 2020-11-10T09:42:26+00:00

So back at my place we start going at it and suddenly she gets off of me and it was because I asked "are you ok?" because of an awkward sound she made.

Do you always write in this non linear fashion? It's hard to follow when you tell parts of the story backwards.

As for this chick, don't overthink it. That's probably what she's doing. For you it should be nothing but a nut. Lift harder. Find another girl who won't make awkward sounds.

throwRA3141565 · 2020-11-10T08:07:12+00:00

shake it off homie. these bz's be crazy

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-11-10T16:04:35+00:00

I want to know where I fucked up and how I can fix it in the future.

It's not always that you did something wrong. Sometimes it's the girl who is mental.

Be polite to her, but do you really want to chase this one down? You need to have the attitude that she had her chance with you and she blew it.

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2020-11-10T10:02:22+00:00

I don't see a problem with asking her if she's okay, if you really meant it. Hold that frame.

The others are right: Don't argue. You asked if she was okay because she made a noise that you thought was strange and you meant it. She can't tell you that you didn't think the noise was strange. You told her how it was, and that's that.

Now, there's more from where I see it. Nobody on TRP seems to delve much into this realm, but imo, where you really fucked up, is by failing to identify what she was afraid of and guide her appropriately. This is a skill for everyone in almost every situation, not just for women or sex.

Most people are little more than nervous apes. Their egos are constantly afraid of, and defending against something. Normally these issues take place because people take life, situations, and themselves too seriously.

If you can empathize with them (NOT SYMPATHIZE), and figure out what they are afraid of, you can help them to see through their irrational fears and come off of the trip that they are on.

Sometimes this is best done by nonchalantly brushing it off and then removing attention from them, as TRP suggests, sure....but usually, there's a lot more that can be done.

For example: Someone else mentioned here that she was probably embarrassed. She'd also likely be afraid that you're not having a good time because of the strange noise if this is the case. If you caught on to this, you could make a little joke about how silly it is that she'd be embarrassed about that, and then say something that shows her you're still having a good time. If you are confident and matter-of-fact when you do this, she will believe you and fall into your frame. If you are nervous in your delivery or seem like you're upset in any way or trying to convince her of something, she will probably just continue to shit on you as she has evolved to shit on weak males. The key here is not to try and NOT be upset about it. You should be completely genuine. You need to actually feel her fear and radiate the warm and guiding energy that an unshakable, wise, confident, and calm person has in situations of tension. Women especially need to latch on to that kind of energy. Care enough to "not care", that is; show her it isn't a big deal. Keeping it fun and intimate, as it was meant to be from the outset is what will allow her to know that she can let her guard down again and open her mind and legs.

Forest_Warden · 2020-11-10T08:29:06+00:00

Damn man, she's sounds like real trouble. Please get the hell away from her before she falsely claims your raped her.

Fiendorfoes · 2020-11-10T16:13:48+00:00

She sounds crazy already

YouWannaPutMoneyOnIt · 2020-11-10T17:03:30+00:00

She’s literally in your bed at your place. You’re good... as far as false whatever

It’s a shit test she’s trying to control you - you’ve given her provider vibes that she can withhold sex from you. Either jump ship or fix the shit

cunningcaring · 2020-11-10T11:30:47+00:00

"I was very intoxicated..." Time to grow up. We don't make good decision intoxicated.

Welendas · 2020-11-10T16:56:39+00:00

LMR dude

FollowMeKids · 2020-11-10T17:56:41+00:00

She’s insecure about something. Whatever it is I don’t want to fcuking know and so should you. She’s already throwing a fit during SEX, are you willing to stick around to find out how she’s gonna act on a regular basis? Insecure women are a handful to deal with emotionally and mentally. Leave while you don’t have any feelings invested.

Spirited-Foot · 2020-11-10T20:01:06+00:00

Take the L dog, she’s crazy. Trust me it will happen again I’m sure ....

Zero-Milk · 2020-11-10T11:14:36+00:00

Far too little detail here. There's absolutely no context for any of this. You've already admitted you were extremely intoxicated the night before, so that's reason enough for your description of that event to be vague, but your description of the events in the morning after are also extremely vague.

Idk how anyone is even offering you advice, because there's nothing here to assess. For all we know, you said or did something stupid that triggered her "nope" response towards you and you just don't realize it, and therefore can't communicate it to us.

AceMav21 · 2020-11-10T16:18:57+00:00

Alright good this she got off you, all I’m sayin

johnnysilentleo · 2020-11-10T19:59:46+00:00

So far I have only read the title and my opinion is you should have kicked her out of your place.

LilLoserFreny · 2020-11-11T02:19:07+00:00

Why did you stay to cuddle? You do know you could’ve just left if you didn’t want to cuddle right?

JameisBong · 2020-11-10T11:26:40+00:00

She realized you weren't really the man you pretended to be. The moment she said no to sex you should leave and let her sleep in the morning act normal, kick her out and let her come back some other time, when she's not intoxicated.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2020-11-10T17:42:58+00:00

She flipped out. Hard next because of the blue balling she gave you.

ProFriendZoner · 2020-11-10T08:47:01+00:00

You've been falsely accused by "crazy women" in the past?

THAT is where you fucked up. Plenty of women out there, why are you attracted to the crazy ones? You have to do a much better job of vetting them.

Zero-Milk · 2020-11-10T10:59:23+00:00

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The_Invader_Kilz · 2020-11-10T18:02:15+00:00

You slept with Queen LaQueefa. No big deal. Sometimes shit happens, sometimes it's a pussy fart. Meh, no need to be embarrassed about it.

ngyuhnang · 2020-11-10T10:41:50+00:00

Dump her ass

Title	Girl Stopped Midway through Sex and Refused to do Anything in the Morning Except Cuddle
Author	ysosrs08
Upvotes	86
Comments	49
Date	November 10, 2020 7:48 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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