Dodged a major bullet

ka0t1k · 2019-08-05T16:58:52+00:00

never ruin your life over a woman's feelings.

biggy_sauce · 2019-08-05T17:42:55+00:00

Lol i she tried to bait him into a relationship, she only told him once she thought she had him around her finger, then tries to guilt him into it when he reacted that way

HiredNote · 2019-08-05T18:38:23+00:00

I went to see the original thread, and , lo and behold, there was a single mom defending the woman. She was saying, "She wanted to wait until the right moment before sharing something so intimate." Fortunately, most weren't having it, saying, "She's doesn't need to be intimate before sending nude photos. But she needs to be intimate before saying she has kids?"

She had plenty of times to tell him. On the first night they met, when she asked if he wanted kids, when they texted, etc. But she had to wait until he was paying for her dinner before she let it out? Red flag.

More red flags: she's a liar. "Oh, I don't wanna go out evenings because of my parents." Don't date a liar. And she blew up on him over not getting the reaction she wanted and bad mouthed him to friends and family. Any chick that blows up on you for rejecting her for making reasonable choices (and doing it in a polite way) is not good relationship material, whether she's a single mother or not.

SirGuileSir · 2019-08-05T16:56:10+00:00

Can't get any more NTA than that.

vitruvius_legion · 2019-08-05T18:05:44+00:00

Put these women in their place. Threaten to cut ties with your mom and sister if they don't respect your dating decisions, especially if they come to you with unsolicited guilt-shaming pressure advice.

rigoexe · 2019-08-05T18:24:41+00:00

Holy shit, they're all in on it. Who can you trust these days to look out for you? Count yourself lucky if you have redpilled bros, appreciate them to the fullest extent, they're worth their weight in gold.

ChunderSmash · 2019-08-05T18:51:21+00:00

Typical that as soon as he's not willing to raise another man's kid, she shames him then contacts his family so they can shame him too. I can't believe it's still acceptable for people to expect men to look after single mothers as if it's a privilege.

devok1 · 2019-08-05T19:18:44+00:00

Even his mother tried to shame him , by saying shes a successful woman.

Bitch , successful women are not single mothers , those 2 are mutually exclusive.

Im_a_CNN_Expert · 2019-08-05T18:48:06+00:00

NTA. Your life, your wallet, your choice.

Dorgdorg · 2019-08-05T17:05:13+00:00

Somewhere out there is a man desperate enough to date a single mother. could have been me if I never found mgtow.

NeverNeverLandIsNow · 2019-08-05T17:14:12+00:00

NTA for sure, she should have told you right away, she didn't tell you I am guessing because she was afraid of exactly what happened, that you would no longer be interested in her.

Shipbldr2000 · 2019-08-05T17:17:56+00:00

NTA - You have a right to have standards. No one is at fault, she simply does not meet your standards.

Dating is an opportunity to gather information, which you did, and make an informed decision as to whether to enter a committed relationship.

You have made an informed decision.

TheKnightRunner · 2019-08-05T20:19:11+00:00

How could he be the asshole? Having a kid is a major part of who somebody is. The fact she wasn't up front about that likely means there are other sketchy things about her she's holding back.

Modern society: Girls are celebrated for saying they only want guys 6' and taller. Yet men are not allowed to say no thanks to single moms without being judged.

SneakyRat67 · 2019-08-05T21:00:55+00:00

Reeled him in then dropped the anvil when she thought she had him. Miscalculation.

GSV-ZeroGravitas · 2019-08-05T20:21:50+00:00

It's turned into a hell of a thread! GOD there's some vitriol being thrown about in there. You'll get acid burns just from reading it. 😆

Cizzar · 2019-08-05T22:04:37+00:00

It's like a sleazy car salesman trying to sell you a car with 20k miles without telling you that 200k miles have been substracted from the odometer...

Tex_Willer_44 · 2019-08-05T20:37:32+00:00

As I've said elsewhere, the two instinct-driven goals of women:- procreate, and get a mentor. It's as cold and calculating as that. All else is woolly distraction and flummery to hide the stark reality. The only benefit to the male is passing on your DNA - but that is really only of benefit to the species as a whole, and not to the individual living his one and only brief life.

crawdaddy9880 · 2019-08-05T20:38:13+00:00

Good old bait and switch.

Teflon08191 · 2019-08-06T00:31:48+00:00

Notice how she still lives with her parents, and "they get super weird" when shes isn't home on time.

My guess is that her parents got sick of taking care of the kid while she goes out partying.

U-94 · 2019-08-05T19:58:38+00:00

She's the asshole for polluting this planet with another person.

lastlaugh100 · 2019-08-06T04:55:15+00:00

Imagine if the dude waited a while before revealing he had $500k in debt and was a garbage worker and then demanded a girl keep dating him because he was "falling for her". He would be called a dangerous controlling asshole and probably have a restraining order filed against him.

randybigbones · 2019-08-05T20:15:38+00:00

I mean he asked in a round about way before the date. It is best practice to ask early on,"how many kids do you have?" Even if you already know the answer, phrase it that way and watch how they react.

migelall · 2019-08-05T20:52:11+00:00

I would never marry or have a long-term relationship with a single mother. Why waist your time, energy, resources on someone else's child? It is not natural at all. In addition, one has to understand that for her the child most likely will always be the first priority. Also statistically, you are much more likely to get accused of molestation, abuse etc. It is enough for a child not to like you and he/she may decide to come up with such allegations. Stay away from them.

Electronic_Record · 2019-08-05T21:22:45+00:00

I know a single mom who lets her 7 and 11 year old sleep in her bed. No way you will be getting any poon in that relationship.

Jsjgiwwsddd · 2019-08-05T21:31:29+00:00

Hahaha, once happened to me.

I didn’t say nothing and I remember I banged her in her kids room while her kid was sleeping, and yes I banged her raw and came inside in a tiny bed, then left and never wrote back.

I’m glad the dude exit but he could have just pumped and dumped.

Pd: don’t try that if you don’t have a phone number bought with cash in a extra phone and untraceable, just saying.

Cockinit · 2019-08-05T21:49:36+00:00

If you go waaayy down you'll see the cucks.

IterantImprovement · 2019-08-05T22:28:17+00:00

my mom and she’s majorly disappointed that I didn’t give it a go because this girl is really successful and nice etc.

What exactly is it that she's successful at? She has a 4 year old, still lives with her Parents and has a curfew. Yup, sounds like a winner to me.

GSV-ZeroGravitas · 2019-08-06T09:11:14+00:00

Aaaand it's been locked and the original removed. BUT, sort by Old and you'll find the Automod copy of it. Tbh I'm not surprised as it was getting a tad raucous in there.🤣

caralto · 2019-08-06T11:57:33+00:00

damn, tries to guilt op into being an instanta-daddy beta cuck, lucky he got out

deepspace7 · 2019-08-06T12:47:16+00:00

More men need to do this and set absolute boundaries about not dating, living with, and marrying single moms. That would cut off resources from a major societal resource hog.

DarthVoidz0 · 2019-08-06T16:31:49+00:00

The post was deleted... anyone know a way I can (and others) read it?

wonderlustraven · 2019-08-05T23:17:37+00:00

you do realize the childs father could be dead right?

Title	Dodged a major bullet
Author	friggandfrayed
Upvotes	160
Comments	61
Date	August 5, 2019 3:48 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/cmcnov/dodged_a_major_bullet/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/dodged-a-major-bullet.412522 https://theredarchive.com/post/412522

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