You work hard to improve yourself. You lift, you dress better, you are more confident. Soon the ladies take notice and you think that everything will be fine now. But it won’t.

Don’t fall for the trap. It’s tempting to think that you have won the game, but it’s not the case. That empty feeling, that void in your chest? Sure, a woman can fill that for a short while and damn does it feel good!

But it’s not the answer. It’s like eating that burger at 2 AM. For a moment you’re happy… until it backfires. You quit looking for your purpose, because you think you’ve found one. You think: “Well, I don’t have to train this hard. X loves me anyway.” or “I guess I won’t take that extra project, X would be unhappy if I worked till 7”.You’re intelligent, you get the point.

The worst thing – when you quit lifting, when you don’t fight for that promotion, when you stop shaving every day and when she inevitably dumps your ass – you will be alone again, with that huge pit in your heart. You know why?

Cause women are not the answer. Not the one, not your unicorn, nor any number of perfect 10s can fill that void for you. It’s your own to fill.

We spend so much time discussing how to get women, that we forget they are not the final goal. Women are just a byproduct of a life well lived. To put it in other words: Sawdust might be useful, but you won’t get it without cutting some wood first.