Married a Bipolar bitch and headed towards divorce less than a year later

sinklamp · 2017-11-06T17:09:00+00:00

No contact. Immediately withdraw money into cash from joint accounts and personal to avoid her making claim in them. This is "illegal"however courts are so overwhelmed it's next to impossible to prove you did so with malicous intent especially since you haven't begin the "process" yet. Liquidate everything you possibly can into cash and hide it away. If pressed by courts when it gets there say you couldn't afford the bills on your own leave it at that. The best answer when pressed is to say you have no recollection. When she batters you with questions about missing assets simply feign ignorance. You probably think I'm a dick for suggesting all this but TBH she will feel nothing when stealing your shit. Make sure it stays yours. Fuck or get fucked buddy. The longer it drags out when you do file the more bitter she will be. The more bitter she is the more she will try to fuck you. Be merciless now and salvage as much as you can.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2017-11-06T17:59:37+00:00

Lawyer up and take steps to protect your assets. Consider annulment.

Refer her to your lawyer for any future Contact, then do not contact her for any reason.

Make no mistake, this bitch married you for one purpose, and that's to collect a free paycheck. Make sure you don't have any illusions about this.

This isn't, at it's heart, malicious. 3-year olds don't have the ability to comprehend that their relationship with their parents is that of a parasite, neither does your soon-to-be ex.

She just can't comprehend what self-sufficiency is.

The fact that she moved out first may work out in your favor, as that constitutes spousal abandonment/desertion. Depends on the laws where you live.

About Personality Disorders:

most people have a social mask or persona that they wear most of the time when other people are around.

But normal people are willing to be vulnerable when appropriate, and let the mask fall down. Underneath there is genuine warmth, passion, fear, pain, compassion, and inner strength. It bothers most people when there's a glaring disconnect between their public persona, and what they actually feel.

People with PD's generally have several personas that they swap out at the drop of a hat. The whole two- or three-faced behavior is usually one of the first red flags. Moreover, people with PD's can only simulate vulnerability, poorly. They go to great lengths to avoid it.

Unlike most people, their mask rarely drops, and if you have enough time to observe, you notice that they always try too hard, it's all play-acting. But when the mask does slip, the only thing underneath is an emotional black hole. So there's no sense of irony, because everything they do has always been fake. This is what allows them to lie persuasively.

PD's don't have a well-defined subconscious. At best they're all rage and paranoia, all the time.

Olongapo · 2017-11-06T17:05:51+00:00

My marriage to a BPD woman lasted exactly 7 months (pre-Red Pill). I walked and filed based on the advice of my really sharp attorney. Lawyer the fuck. Now!!! Protect your assets, freedom, and reputation. Minimize your losses.

RPTA3498 · 2017-11-06T17:05:40+00:00

inb4 the don't get married posts....

Dude go talk to at least 3 attorneys and also look at u/red-curious posts over in MRP

Johnny_Wins · 2017-11-06T19:25:45+00:00

I found TRP a year ago. None of what you wrote (the irrational and destructive behavior, lack of agency, etc) shocked me anymore. It is like your wife in your story went along my checklist, item by item.

All the best. With TRP, you will come out of this in better shape than going in.

McVaghunter · 2017-11-06T17:21:48+00:00

Stop procrastinating and get an attorney's help right now! Now is NOT the time to be asking for help on reddit.

Best of luck.

cellphon · 2017-11-06T17:44:21+00:00

No real advice aside of its totally worth it and you'll be so happy once it's done.

Within months of my divorce I had my dick burried into a 24 year old blond.

It's gonna suck for a while but worth it at the end.

huntersam13 · 2017-11-07T00:05:14+00:00

I got one up on ya, I knocked this kind of woman up. Now, I am forced to deal with her as she is my daughter's mom.

BPasFuck · 2017-11-06T17:19:54+00:00

Don't wait. Get it done now, with an attorney. Very important.

You want to be able to say she no longer lives there, and have it stick.

A lot easier to get rid of the bitch if she's not living in your house.

Jojobelle · 2017-11-06T20:16:36+00:00

I'm pulling for you bro

FatGirlsInPartyHats · 2017-11-06T20:22:22+00:00

Many states allow annulment within a year of marriage. You should look into this.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-11-06T17:05:07+00:00

Change the locks of the entrances to the house, get a lawyer, divorce the bitch. The sooner it's done, the better.

Narcissist456 · 2017-11-06T18:16:42+00:00

How long were you together prior to marriage? I find it hard to believe there weren't any red flags prior...

Corey_Lahey12 · 2017-11-06T23:41:05+00:00

There’s always a positive way to view any situation. In this particular instance:

Thank your lucky stars you never put a baby in this psycho bitch. You’re a lot luckier than a lot of other men. Your woman revealed she was batshit insane less than a year into your marriage. Some do it 20+ years in and leave the kids in a broken home

Sir-Pumpalot · 2017-11-07T09:56:50+00:00

actually the bitch is not crazy, she ist just a better player you did so many mistakes, I would have bet on it to become a shitshow.

1) bought a house together, married etc. (bought a house after marriage)

I know it won't help you to show you your mistaked and you did not ask for it, but what you described is AWALT behaviour, why would she keep her shit together if you gave her everything for free without her working for it? Well what you can do now is, consult a lawyer, try to get a private detective to catch her cheating and if she isn't, try to hire a chad to make her cheating

Kommanderdude · 2017-11-06T18:04:43+00:00

Contact a lawyer in your area.... Do exactly as he tells you and stop asking advice about this from strangers on the internet.

Rotten_Red · 2017-11-06T22:43:00+00:00

If you can't change the locks maybe you can install a hidden camera or two. May not always be admissible in court but it could come in handy if she comes home and then accuses you of hitting her.

Moreofmore · 2017-11-07T02:03:36+00:00

I had something similar. You have to stay aggressive in getting what's yours. Don't forget ALL of it's yours. You want to push as fast as possible and as hard as possible. Once you made the decision to get divorced, you better do everything to cover your ass and win big. The other side will use any and every tactic against you, so be the dog with the biggest fight. Go win big man! You got this

36virgins · 2017-11-07T05:04:45+00:00

Why is it that mental health issues show only after cohabiting or getting married I wonder

Top_Brazzler · 2017-11-07T07:34:18+00:00

If she no longer lives there, make sure you CHANGE THE LOCKS asap! This will save you from some crazy shit she could do to you that you'd think is unthinkable.

Drazicc85 · 2018-03-29T01:30:14+00:00

Hey man,

Same exact thing happened to me. If you cannot have rational negotiations with her regarding the finances i would get a good lawyer and shut her down before she has a chance to build a settlement case based on fantasy. I know from experience, do not sit on it, i lawyered up one week after wife walked out on me while i was at work.

All the best man

Ricky469 · 2017-11-06T21:03:03+00:00

The best advice I heard here is lawyer up ASAP!! You said you consulted. Try to get around town and get free consults from all the attorneys specializing in divorce it means they can't take her on as a client since it's conflict of interest. Follow the lawyers advice scrupulously. One fact in your favor is she unilaterally moved out, that will be of some help in keeping the house. Not being married long or having kids is another plus. If she left any wacky messages, voicemails, texts, etc. keep them and make sure your lawyers has them. Take any valuable items that are indisputably your personal property somewhere else for safekeeping. I never married because of this fear. Good luck man!

un-candid-vestibule · 2017-11-06T18:31:01+00:00

God forbid a women with male friends....

Title	Married a Bipolar bitch and headed towards divorce less than a year later
Author	sinklamp
Upvotes	48
Comments	60
Date	November 6, 2017 4:40 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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