Background
Hi gents, Southeast Asian Christian here. Admittedly, am not as Alpha as I'd like, but it's a journey. I have been lurking here for about a year but started with reading Neil Strauss' The Game yonks ago.

I want to introduce some Christianity-related RP posts from an Asian perspective because I've noticed that there are several Christians on here who have expressed their frustrations with their faith and sexual strategy. Hopefully this will open up some avenues for conversation and debate.

 

Intro
I'm adapting some points from a previous comment I wrote concerning women and the Church, and how it's all gone to shit. Unfortunately, the Church as it is today is a terrible place to meet women, and really doesn't help Christian men in any way, shape, or form to fulfill their sexual needs.

 

Body
So you're a Christian guy who wants to get laid. Then you gotta put a ring on it, son, and she's got to be a good wife from among the faithful. Let's look within the church, talk about some monumental problems with this endeavor, with some Asian perspectives thrown in too:

1) The modern Church is still hopelessly inept at dealing with masculinity and men's sexual needs

They are more content with just sweeping it under the carpet or linking anything to lust, which means sin too. Lust, sin, fear, shame. In observing the shitstorm over these pedophile Catholic priests in Boston and elsewhere getting caught preying on kids (as in the movie, Spotlight) I've noticed that it sort of runs tangentially to the struggles many single Christian men are facing: unable to relieve the pressures of sexual need. Be it voluntary or involuntary celibacy or chastity, the pressure cooker that is the Church does nothing but make men suffer and become depressed. Of course, it's drilled into your head from an early age that you should only have sex after marriage, you can't even fool around with a girl before marriage, and no masturbation either. Flirting is seen as ungodly behaviour. So if you're to be this paragon of a Christian man, you're basically this sexless robot who has to just tighten the valves and keep the pressure internalised until you find a wife to release the steam. And where better to find a wife than in your/a Church, right? So easy! But then as your teen years go by and you grow up, hoping to reach that marriage age, you realise that...

2) Churches will shame you into wanting a feminine woman with whom you want to live out your sexual fantasies

You want a beautiful woman with nice tits whom you want to bend over the kitchen counter and rail? You must have been possessed by Lucifer then, because that's now how Christian men talk. Christian men don't desire women like that, instead, they need to look at her with respect and seek to provide for her. They look at their sisters with admiration. Always. Never mind that the Patriarchs all mentioned about their wives' beauty, you're not entitled to a beautiful wife. Or rather, you aren't supposed to desire outward beauty. You need to be deeper than that. Let us tell how what kind of woman to marry and how your marriage should be.

3) Christian girls are just the same as non-Christian ones

As you can imagine, or have experienced yourself, Christian girls tend to think that their piety is all that's required of them. They're generally intellectually unstimulating, passive, aren't good dressers and think their goody-two-shoesness will sustain a long, Christian marriage. And as a good Christian boy, you're just supposed to look at their inside, right? Okay, there are those who are hot and educated too, but the "M" in "SMV" dictates that, with such a limited "M", their SV will go through the roof. These high SV Christian girls were probably rich enough to study overseas, and they become unshackled and are just like any other non-Christian girl, who are materialistic and are looking for Chads (when they're younger) and BBs (when the Wall looms). Cue AWALT. Here's an example: I had this Christian oneitis once. She was a HB9 who was a serve-in-church-every-Sunday type, and came from a rich family. Long story short, she rejected me, never dated down (no shit, is that a surprise?.) She dated a string of guys (even a Muslim, at one point) and ended up marrying a beefcake former-gangster (with money), who, safely enough, is a Christian on paper. So you see, girls really can have their beefcake and eat it too. Even here in the East. ;) All my Christian girl pursuits, save except one, weren't virgins--and I'm not so sure of that one either.

4) If you date and fail with one Church girl, you're unlikely to be able to date her other friends (especially true if your Church is small)

Christian girls gossip. If you pursue a girl in your Church and she rejects you, it's difficult to then pursue another one because there are no players in Church, son. You can't play the game and work the field like that, especially since flirting is wrong and dating is bad. You can't go dating all of them, Lothario. And if the relationship was working out for a while (everyone knew you were dating for years) and then it broke off for some reason, there will be a lot of awkwardness and will probably mean one of you have to leave that Church.

5) Appearances are everything

The Church, unfortunately, is not a place to find strength to improve your physical body or your person. You can't talk plainly and simply in Church and express yourself as you'd like. It's like modern Churchians managed to discover a way to vapourise the contents of the blue pill so much so that the air is permeated with it. Appearance is everything. You need to appear happy and holy. This is why teenagers are so afraid to talk about sex in a place where it should be talked about as much as they want so that they learn in a place that ought to have been their reference point. I've always wondered how many Christian girls had to turn to abortion over the fear of losing face in such an environment.

6) Marriage is a high calling that is unsuitable for today's modern Church

If you're considering marriage, remember that the Bible exhorts you to love your wife as Christ loved the Church. This is a high calling. We as the bride of Christ cheat on him every day, and yet Christ died for us. So this is the standard to which we should hold marriage. Also, be prepared to be accountable to others in your marriage in Church, as a Christian marriage is more a social club kind of deal where Church elders feel the need to poke and pry into your marital concerns.

 

Conclusion
I want a great life partner, just as I think even non-Christian RPers do but the time of ripe fields for the plucking of quality women are long gone. Even here in Asia, many girls--religious or not--are secretly fucking around and feigning chastity, no surprise to RPers. It's the same as the West.

1) Don't hope to find a Church girl with whom to get married.

2) Don't hope to get married young.

3) Don't hope to get married.

4) Focus on making yourself the best version of yourself first. Always.