I can't endure this

ParalyticPoison · 2020-01-09T05:54:03+00:00

Welcome to the realization that you were just a Beta Bux. Don't take it personal, it's just their nature. Now the question is what are you going to do to pick yourself back up and forget about being used and abused and improve yourself?

DangZagnut · 2020-01-09T06:11:21+00:00

It’s hard. I’ve had friends go through this.

Betrayal. No matter to what level, is a subjective experience. As much as you don’t want to hear this, it could have been far far worse. Whatever you’re feeling right now, pales in comparison to how bad it could have been. You’ve had your whole future life plans snatched from you, rather than your whole future, just your plans for it.

It. Sucks. It really does. And the only curative is time and distance. There’s no magic pill. I could give you some techniques, but they won’t work right now. Nothing will work in this raw state

You’ll go through sadness, anger, rage, sniffing around her social media, etc. you’ll do the same stupid shit everyone does. And that’s ok. Everyone goes through it their own way, but most people follow a common framework. So what works for you is finer

As far as advice, whatever you do, don’t try and contact her, and limit sniffing around into her life, online and off. This chapter has closed. And that’s how it goes. New chapters await.

Despite what you feel right now, this is a good thing. Your feeling the stupid purge from your body. Youth, naïveté, unrequited trust. That’s the stupid. Scales are falling from your eyes.

This happens. There’s no such thing as closure. It is done.

You will rebuild from this, hopefully wiser.

Take your time. One day it’ll hurt a little less. Again, there are things you can do, but now is not the time. Grieve in the way that feels right for you.

horse3y3s · 2020-01-09T06:24:21+00:00

We are never enough. Stop beating yourself.

Be grateful if she didn't destroy your whole life.

Stop with these ideas of "confidant"

They will always find what you dont have in others. Money, house, car, etc. The most important part is the tingly feeling, that she probably got when she was fucking other dudes imagining you, oblivious sob. Dont forget that, and never ever accept her back. She did it more than once, will do it again.

Minimize your suffering because she is not worth it, GYOW

gantz_au · 2020-01-09T06:07:48+00:00

You are discovering women's true nature and you're distraught at the fact that this world has lied to you for your entire life.

You're most likely going to become angry with the world, with women, with yourself, with everything... but anger, if channelled correctly can drive you to move forward and to a better place in your life.

Once you're ready to do so, accept the fact that mistakes were made and then learn from them. Figure out what the world out there is REALLY like, learn the true nature of the world and the people who inhabit it and adapt to that true world.

We all make mistakes, sometimes terrible ones, but you still have a life full of potential ahead of you and it's up to you to make the most of it.

GreetingsFromErf · 2020-01-09T08:22:39+00:00

It may not feel like it right now, but you are a very lucky man to be learning about reality BEFORE you put a ring on it.

This next bit may be harsh, but it is sincerely meant to help. Every guy who has already digested the red pill can see in your writing the very weakness her "friend" describes as repulsive. It's just how it is. You were taught your whole life, mostly by women and starting with your own mother, that women want a nice man. You became exactly who they taught you to become. The only problem is they were lying.

Please take careful note of this. This "friend" is also teaching you that All Women Are Like That (AWALT). Listen to her words and take them to heart. She absolutely identifies with your girlfriend and her motives. She sees why your girl did what she did and she has told you very directly that you are viewed as lacking masculinity.

AWALT my brother. Take care of yourself. The pain will pass. Ghost the bitch. She taught you a very valuable lesson at very little real cost. I woke up to reality after marriage. That is a whole other level of pain. Be thankful your missing out on that one.

And just in case I didn't make it obvious enough, there is nothing wrong with you. The only thing you did wrong was believe a lie. Now you know the truth. The truth will set you free. Better days are just around the corner, assuming you swallow the red pill and give up the unicorn hunt.

usehername6969 · 2020-01-09T06:25:38+00:00

So sorry, yet this is so familiar, and as someone who has been through an almost exact replica multiple times I implore you to learn the lesson now that AWALT.

It doesn’t get easier the next time, it usually gets worse and can get MUCH worse.

Believe me I feel your pain. I’ve had multiple “life partners” betray me, deceive me at inconceivable levels, steal from me, cheat on me, manipulate me into revealing my deepest traumas and secrets only to inflict upon me those very same traumas x1,000,000.

Both the “loves of my life” ran off with my former best friend and biggest male confidante. Imagine losing the woman who was your most trusted confidante to the male who was your most trusted confidante...twice. Yes I should have never trusted him again. It took 8 years to try again with a woman and she hooked up with THE EXACT SAME GUY, tracking him down online and manipulating him with ease. That second one destroyed my finances and wrecked my community and life that took me almost two decades to build up. I lost my home and everything I thought mattered and ended up literally in a coma minutes from death from the stress. That’s how bad it can get.

Believe me, many of us on here have been there. You’re not alone. I sympathize, it’s absolutely hell what you are enduring.

None of them are remotely worth it. NONE OF THEM.

2020-01-09T06:26:48+00:00

No, you will endure it because you have no choice. Thats the hardest thing about breakups. You have no choice, you're gonna have to face the pain and loss. Heres the great thing though, after a few years, you'll realise it was the best thing that ever happened to you.

Me2Brah · 2020-01-09T09:04:58+00:00

This too shall pass son. Doesn’t feel like it now. But in 1 year, 3 years, 5 years you’ll thank God you dodged a massive bullet.

Never trust a woman again. Ever

hl100orsmth · 2020-01-09T09:13:20+00:00

She tells me that my lack of aggression, masculinity was repulsive and i was just a wallet for her.

That's just an excuse. It happens to almost everyone, aggressive or not. Its what majority of women do - they can't be loyal. They just can't.

Knutjob · 2020-01-09T06:18:49+00:00

Take heart. Most of us here have been in yr situation. It's, perhaps, next to death of a loved one, the worst feeling imaginable. Don't beat yrself up about it, I did, didn't put any thing right though.

What's important now for your sanity is to get yr mind off it, as much as u can,do something crazy. Take a unplanned road trip, visit another country, do something u have never done before. Yes, grieve, it's natural, it's normal, but don't dwell on yr misery.

Dont beat yrself up by asking yrself " what if" ...its done,nothing can change that, you have been stabbed in the heart....u must heal now..Only time can heal that wound. Most importantly ,remember you are not alone.....I, and practically everyone else here has been through similar....and, we have gotten through it, some have moved on , some will always carry the scars....but we've all been there. And we got through it. You can too......

quickGunShoot · 2020-01-09T09:22:31+00:00

Bring yourself together brother. If you look on the bright side, you just dogged a fucking bullet. She could have divorced raped you or fed lies to your probable kids about you, it could’ve ended far worse.

Take it as it is. Women are greediest of all species on the planet. She did what every women wants to do -Got a beta bux for providing, and random fucks from chad for the thrills. She was fucking happy, living the time of her life. And seeing how much you trusted her I bet her job of manipulating you was pretty easy. And I assure you she didn’t have a shred of guilt while doing it. She most likely had fun having you at her finger tips. She approached things as calculative as she could and would have continued to deceive you if not for her friend. And don’t even get the wrong impression on her friend, she only did it cause she was jealous of her.

Truth is the bitter pill to swallow. That’s why many choose to live an illusion instead.

If you are worried that you cannot forget her. Remember that most of us here have been through shit like yours or far worse. Give it sometime. Keep distracting yourself from her and spend lot of your time with close friends and family. And try not to burden them by bring “her” up, just be with them, doesn’t matter what you do. This will help you see that you are not alone.

“Time heals what reason cannot” — Seneca

Ps: don’t delude yourself that you need to meet her some “closure” or some other bullshit. Just end it as QUICK as possible(phone or text is best because of reason listed next) and go ghost mode. At this point she might be very stressed. But that’s because she need to redo all the work again to trap another beta bux. So she might come after you with full force of manipulation in a final attempt to get you, no matter what don’t engage her. Since she had such a grip on you, you might get deceived again out of habit, you need time to grow immune to women’s tricks. So Ghost her completely and be reborn again. Wish you luck.

andreas-mgtow · 2020-01-09T07:44:38+00:00

she installed a couple dating apps, met multiple people and engaged in casual sexual partnerships.

Long winded way to say she's a cheating whore.

This girl was my confidant, my love... I stormed out of there... I've been sobbing and have my head's aching like it'll explode.

Are you sure you're a dude. Brah, you sound like you're on your period.

It's just pussy, none of them are "unique". Just walk away and count your blessings, you didn't wife this whore.

peshMeten · 2020-01-09T09:25:01+00:00

I went through a similar thing mate, girl I lived with was fucking some athlete dude whilst I was out playing in my band, I was devastated, but what you MUST remember is that the act she played for you was the one you fell in love with, you fell in love with a phantom, her real self was hidden from you and if you had known her real self, you would never have fallen in love in the first place as that real her was a whore who used and disrespected your soul, she is a Trickster, Incubus, Demon and trust me, as shit as you feel now, you have had a lucky escape.

Don't concern yourself what her bitch friend said, she will be getting off on the drama and twisting the knife for whore solidarity and sadistic tingles. Yes it will hurt for a few months, most of us have been through it, get wise, become stoic with women, improve yourself, most importantly do not let them fuck with your self-esteem, it's their favorite weapon of cruelty and control.

Nagamagi · 2020-01-09T06:15:13+00:00

When that friend ask you why you leave your SO....

“It happens”.

richlad · 2020-01-09T08:07:40+00:00

None of us are enough for woman for long term relationship.

I can easily get a woman in bed with my mind bending techniques and using the resources I already have but beyond that nothing is in my control.

That's why most of us are running away from women.

graydoggames · 2020-01-09T08:59:58+00:00

Cheating is what females do. Don't take it personal.

SawsRUs · 2020-01-09T07:32:44+00:00

> This girl was my confidant, my love and she chooses to abandon everything for a brief adventure.

These things were in your head, they never existed in the real world.

strongandhappy · 2020-01-09T06:15:08+00:00

This won't help the pain now, really nothing will, but it will help the understanding which will stop the pain in time. Read this man's story from a few days ago and count your blessings, which is every day from now through the rest of your life that you actually understand women, not just the dreams your mind was poisoned with. https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/ekmgqs/the_worse_that_could_happen_to_you/. This is the real world, and you have many brothers here.

Blissbynature · 2020-01-09T08:06:27+00:00

The love you gave her, give it to yourself instead. I'm not saying to turn into someone who is self-centered, because giving to others is very important in life. But give your love to yourself first and then you can discern and give love to those who are worthy more easily because then your value of yourself in your own eyes will come from you and not others.

2020-01-09T10:43:48+00:00

Your immediate priorities:

Quickly and cleanly break up with her. Permanently.
Distance yourself from her as much as possible.
Find a healthy way to endure this pain, and give yourself time to recover.

Your takeaways from this experience:

Understand female nature (and how their inclination to cheat is natural, and not your fault).

How you build upon this:

Have respect for yourself and learn to love yourself more than anyone else.
Learn self control and establish boundaries in relationships.
If you want to continue dating, understand common pitfalls and behavioral patterns / red flags, and learn from other men's experiences and mistakes.

Some explanation:

First of all, this is not your fault. You did not know about female nature, and projected your own values such as loyalty on to her. That is natural and respectable. You are not pathetic as some other people will have you believe.

She did not cheat because your "lack of aggression, masculinity was repulsive and i was just a wallet for her", women cheat on all kinds of men. It's what they do. We try to rationalize it or find specific faults or reasons because it's hard to accept, but ultimately we must realize that it's just something that comes very naturally to them, regardless of the man they are with.

The pain you are going through right now is not something I can help with. To some extent, it is also a physical reaction of your body. You'll just have to find a way to endure it and give it time to heal. Do not turn to anything self-destructive or addictive. You need to learn to deal with such stuff with patience.

Don't try to get revenge on her. You won't find contentment or closure, and will only get in trouble. Your only option is to quickly and cleanly break off with her, and permanently stay away from her no matter what (she WILL be back sooner or later, and taking her in would be disaster for you).

You'll be called a "beta" (as compared to "alpha"), as some guys here are calling you now. Don't obsess over those words. (The only difference between the supposed alpha and beta is

understanding female nature
having self-respect and loving yourself more than female validation.)

Take it easy and realize you've just suffered a serious, serious blow. But as you heal from this, make sure to also learn from this experience and grow wiser. Stay strong, and I wish you all the best.

ShowMeWarFace · 2020-01-09T11:25:07+00:00

My advice: Remember this feeling and hold onto it for those moments you feel tempted to date again. Pain is instructive.

Trust_No_Bitches · 2020-01-09T06:34:57+00:00

What do you mean you were told? Did she tell you or did her friend tell you?

fxshion · 2020-01-09T08:08:53+00:00

Master the art of not giving a fuck and move on. shes not the end of the world

evergreen35 · 2020-01-09T15:29:25+00:00

Be glad to didn't breed with this psycho
Be thankful you discovered Red Pill (female nature) at such a young age. I didn't discover it until my 40's
She's NOT THE PERSON THAT YOU THOUGHT SHE WAS: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c709rGYW8v0

Free_Of_Will · 2020-01-09T07:31:27+00:00

Whatever you do don't do something stupid like self harm over this instead begin working on yourself to get your mind clear and well:try meditation,sports,gym,whatever else soothes your nerves but under any circumstances don't go looking for another girl to ''fix'' your emotional state currently.

Don't go begging to her ,don't ask why or implore her to comfort you by lying and saying she didn't do it just consider her dead,erase her from your memory slowly and surely, do not go snooping around her social media heck you may even want to look closer at what quality your mutual friends are and cut them from your life too.

It'll be hard for you to accept but all women are like this,you cannot change it you can only adapt yourself and never be in such a weak position again,build yourself up for your own good,they'll come for you in due time and when they do remember what you learned now .

redarkane · 2020-01-09T12:32:45+00:00

This is their true nature. Same shit happened to me. I was just an option to my ex fiance. Just focus on yourself man. Never trust a woman. Only woman who will ever love you is your mother. The rest are vultures.

CertainCrow1 · 2020-01-09T13:12:42+00:00

This really brings to mind that meme that says "how do you get rid of a woman? Act like a decent guy. . They hate that shit." Serously. You know what women mean when they say aggressive masculine types? They usually mean assholes. Thugs, criminals, or just everyday inconsiderate pricks. It's pretry hard to be a thoughtful, considerate person, reasonable person and be aggressive in nature. Don't confuse that with not being masculine. Girls would initially be attracted to me but think I was weird or be turned off because I was shy, quiet, cautious, thinker type. At the Same time the boys mostly all respected me because of my physical stature, even my intelligence, and when we played sandlot football I suddenly gained a real swagger and confidence. Just because you're not a loud mouth doesn't mean you aren't a real man. Also why the hell do you want to be with someone aggressive?

It sucks Bro. But you will recover and in the long run women just such your energy and slowly cause you to give up activities and people you love

KneeDeepThought · 2020-01-09T13:25:20+00:00

This is one of the worst pains you will ever feel in your life. But you know what? You're stronger than this pain. It won't beat you. One day you'll wake up and not think about it and your life will be so much better without her in it.

You are the one who kept your word. You are the one with integrity and a good heart. You are the one who gets to walk away with their head held high. When you look back on this that will be all that matters.

For now, you need to allow yourself to grieve. Yell and scream. Get raucously drunk (in a safe environment.) Go hit a punching bag until you can't life your arms. Whatever you need to do to vent the anger borne of your sadness. Be patient with yourself, this phase can take a while and you are allowed to be upset with this horrible betrayal.

It will get better. Slowly at first and then it will pick up steam. Your broken heart will mend itself in time, and she will still be a rotten cheating bitch. You win.

HoZZBonaventureCEOtm · 2020-01-09T14:28:12+00:00

It'll be okay...

We've all been there..

Everybody plays the fool sometime-There's no exception to the rule🎵

Start training as if you are headed to a war.

Start running and start lifting and you will be okay.

Use that anger and spin it into muscle mass...

Aren't you glad it didn't go any further?

Imagine having kids with this asshole and then having this problem.

You lucked out, bro.

OddPhilosopher1 · 2020-01-09T14:45:16+00:00

It's only life shattering if you allow it to be so.

Instead of taking it so hard, be thankful and take this as a lesson. Life's lessons are always hard to take, but they always teach us to not repeat the same mistakes over and over again. The pain, hurt and disappointment are nothing but mechanisms to engrave this lesson in you mind.

I wish you well, and don't do anything stupid over a person that clearly isn't worth it.

VoxVirilis · 2020-01-09T15:57:47+00:00

"She was never yours, it was just your turn."

This statement sucks, but it is absolutely, fundamentally true. Doesn't matter the girl, doesn't matter the relationship. Learn it, internalize it, live it. If you must get in another relationship, always be the person in the relationship that cares the least.

She tells me that my lack of aggression, masculinity was repulsive and i was just a wallet for her.

Go. To. The. Gym.

Right now you are the guy that women will begrudgingly have transactional sex with. Build yourself into the guy women will enthusiastically have validational sex with.

jermrash7 · 2020-01-09T06:22:26+00:00

Good thing you are still young,consider yourself lucky imagine if it was the same girl you gonna marry oneday and this to you,GYOW.

silly_birb · 2020-01-09T07:31:14+00:00

Women base their choices on preselection, meaning that they only desire things that other people have (e.g. the new iphone), in your case (and also one of my exes) they envy the promiscuous life of the "average girl" and go for the hookup online.

youloveboobs82 · 2020-01-09T09:45:55+00:00

Dodged a bullet little bro.... Bet you won't do that shit again.

Valor_X · 2020-01-09T14:15:40+00:00

All women are like that, it’s female nature

She’s never yours

It was just your turn

HWGA_Gallifrey · 2020-01-09T14:56:08+00:00

You're gonna be so much better off without her. It'll take some time, but this is a good thing. She can't hurt you anymore because you don't give a fuck anymore.

brytlites · 2020-01-09T15:29:10+00:00

Right now is when you need to seriously check yourself. Grit your teeth and do not allow any show of weakness to her. I know you want to talk to her. I know you want to ask why. You want to see that she feels remorse. You want to see that she regrets hurting you. You will not get those things because she does not genuinely feel any of them. The only regret she might feel is that you found out. Confronting her will not go the way you want it to. The very best, yet hardest thing for you to do right now is ghost. Pack up any shit she has at your place and leave it somewhere she will see it. DO NOT CALL, DO NOT TEXT. If she does either, DO NOT RESPOND. You will want closure but you will not get it. There is no way to end this in a tidy fashion because she has shown you blatant disrespect. She has humiliated you. Do not add to that. In this one thing be strong. Cut her off without a word. Any discussion you have with her will only result in more of your dignity being compromised. This is the one option that shows strength. All others will make it worse. You don’t want to hear this, but I’m telling you the absolute truth. This bitch doesn’t feel bad. Yes, she’s fucked up, on so many levels, but nothing you say will make her realize that, or pause and suddenly regret her choices. If that ever happens it will be later. The only way to show strength here is to cut her completely out of your life. No contact. No goodbye’s. She doesn’t deserve goodbye. For her NOTHING!

FilthyZulu · 2020-01-09T15:56:44+00:00

Yea you can endure this motherfucker. You know why??..cuz you put up with enough shit for 6 years. I bet you suffered your trials and tribulations. And this is the break away point. The proverbial diving off the cliff into the darkness moment. Embrace that shit my dude. You live once, dont live in angst and fear. Give it time. 2 months tops and you will feel new again. And will be angry you wasted your emotional investments on sum ungratefull biotch. Saul good man.

itwasntme19 · 2020-01-09T16:03:32+00:00

You respond to this situation with total indifference to her, she did this shit, not you. The only thing you should feel is anger and total disgust for her. If people ask you why you two aren't together, don't sugarcoat it, tell them what she did and watch what happens. She'll be socially scarred and will never smile the same again and always wondering if anyone around her knows what she did, she'll live in fear of shame for the rest of her life. If she contacts you, it'll be to make sure you're miserable without her so dont give her the satisfaction even if you have to fake it.

As for you, move on, get rid of all shit that reminds you of her. If you're having anxiety, order yourself some CBD pre rolled joints to help you(doesn't get you high and can be shipped to you legally), eat well, run and workout, the pain of that will stave off the emotional one. You'll see the benefits of not being tied up. You're the prize here, not them. You're far stronger than you give yourself credit for. Good luck,brother.

thefudmaster · 2020-01-09T16:15:55+00:00

She was never your confidant OP. Dump her and move on. Do not ever be a walking wallet to a woman again.

MGTOWfromEAST · 2020-01-09T19:41:04+00:00

Hey buddy.

I know, you might not wanna hear this, but, we have all been there.

I have been there too.

Trust me when I say this, how you feel right now, will end. You clearly won't be able to see through it. But with all my heart, hang in there buddy.

Cry your heart out, if you can.

Don't fall for traps like alcohol for numbing the pain.

Put all your energy into working out, for time being, so that, you're too tired to even think about anything.

Don't talk about it anyone. Most will never understand. So don't even bother.

I wish I could tell you an easy way out, but there isn't.

Going through the pain is the only way.

You will never be the same again.

Once you're out of it, you'll curse yourself, why nobody told you the truth earlier.

You'll feel blessed, that you went through it.

You'll start looking at the world, like a man with years of wisdom.

Meanwhile, read this sub alot.

Read the books prescribed here.

DM, if you want.

legalquestion4545 · 2020-01-09T07:39:22+00:00

Read my last post and don't be a fucking faggot beta committing beta suicide. All of eternity will remember your cucked suicide.

You were beta bux and I was alpha fucks.

She fucked me over because I was only dick to her.

Im supposedly "not marriage material, value my indepencne too much, and want a traditional wife"

lol

She literally found a beta bux now to marry. Aren't you happy your not going to marry a whore because she sees you as a beta?

no children

no marriage

YOU WIN BIG

I WIN BIG

Grow some balls and fuck some younger hoes and cheat on them.

BillyBronze09 · 2020-01-09T09:20:20+00:00

The red pill hurts sometimes. Welcome to Zion.

GSstreetfighter · 2020-01-09T12:49:08+00:00

NGL, it's gonna take a while to get your dignity back.

Use the anger. It will straighten your focus on you.

Forget her.

Your armor just got upgraded, you just don't know it yet.

BlackFire68 · 2020-01-09T13:04:37+00:00

Take this opportunity to improve yourself. Read the book No More Mr Nice Guy (you need it). It isn’t you,it’s her.. them. Their nature drives them this way, but you certainly need to become more secure and willing to speak your mind regardless the impact on the near term emotions of your partner. Harmony is a long game, not a short-term avoidance of emotion.

redarkane · 2020-01-09T13:08:43+00:00

Escape your biological thirst to pair bond. I'm guilty of it too. It causes too many headaches. And women and their hypergamous nature doesn't help.

Live your life for yourself and treat them as an option like how they see you. There is no such thing as true love between man and woman. True love means never betraying to this extent.

RadicalAsceticMonk · 2020-01-09T16:25:30+00:00

Have a nice song to help the acceptance process, mate.

Semisonic - Closing Time

Josiah55 · 2020-01-09T18:06:21+00:00

Women assume all men are players and do not care, I imagine it's only a small percentage of men who naturally enjoy that lifestyle. Most men form deep emotional connections to women and they could care less. Kill the beta inside, trust no woman and focus on yourself. This may fall on deaf ears but I have sat where you sit and I am now a stronger man than I was. I sincerely wish a better future for you. Your life is valuable and not defined by the approval of a single woman or women in general.

ZoloftSanta · 2020-01-09T19:00:56+00:00

Your turn ended. It is that simple.

I am sorry that this happened, but she honestly did you a favor by blowing up your relationship before marriage and kids.

You'll be better off than her in the long run, as long as you never, ever take her back.

olliemunday20 · 2020-01-09T20:48:29+00:00

Yet you’ll find yourself in some years looking back and laughing about a great lesson learned!

redarkane · 2020-01-09T21:05:18+00:00

You're gonna be much stronger after this. Trust me when I say this.

Gabo9718 · 2020-01-09T06:01:26+00:00

Don’t take it to hard buddy, we all had been through that, this society raises all men to be cucks and since our fathers are all gone (real father, you may had had a mule provider as a father or raised by single mom) see it as an opportunity to find yourself and your manhood, nature is a bitch, but it hurts you because you were doing something wrong, you were committed to a women and that’s very wrong of you, women are there to be pumped and dumped or ignore and if one day there is a deal among men, then you may marry and have a family, with a bitch that if she cheats on you you can chop her head. Now it’s time to become what you were meant to be, it’s isn’t going to be easy, it’s going to be painful, but you can do it, after all you are a men, the most fucking powerful creature of this world and the known universe.

JMD173 · 2020-01-09T06:28:29+00:00

It's time for you to become the man you were destined to be. But first you must endure the pain and follow this necessary step...

"The Most Important Step To Becoming A Powerful Man"

https://youtu.be/gstNR-dLwFw

Didisoru · 2020-01-09T12:20:20+00:00

Being able and willing to share a woman with others can mean 2 things : 1 - you are so in love with her that you can deal with pain just not to lose her. 2 - you are not (longer) in love with her at all - so no pain to deal with. Make her believe that truth is number 2 ;)

Revolutionary_Reason · 2020-01-09T12:20:31+00:00

Let this feeling fuel your first stages or your transformation. Its fuel for the gym, class and general improvement. Phase 2 is the realization that you're actually doing all that for you not the affections of some petty woman. Go hard for 12 months then fuck her friends.

DapperHeight · 2020-01-09T12:45:28+00:00

contemplating my options

well. i believe your option is to be sad.

you'll be sad until you won't be sad anymore. and i know it because i know men are strong and will overcome any hardships

CerebralAbrasion · 2020-01-09T12:53:11+00:00

Most of us have been viciously betrayed by the woman we loved and trusted, I sure have. It hurts like hell but you WILL recover. Side note: You may be tempted to get a new woman to make you forget the old one. For me it eased the pain temporarily but then I found myself in the same shit as before, not recommended.

Doc_Sithicus · 2020-01-09T13:58:09+00:00

Bro, I was where you are now 4 years ago. To make things worse I was married and had a kid with that cunt. The pain you're feeling now is the death of your dream. Remember it well and never let anybody place you in a similar position.

Also, remember this: Hate will keep you alive where love fails.

BuckeyeGuy8 · 2020-01-09T14:38:18+00:00

Brother, everyone goes through break ups. I went through one about 5 or 6 months ago. Dump her and then break all contact. Block her on all social media. I’m telling you that is the only way you will be able to start the healing process and put her out of your mind. If you see her Snapchat stories and Instagram pictures having fun it will eat you up inside. I could have gotten over my breakup so much quicker if I had blocked her sooner and didn’t constantly check her shit to see if she was doing anything. Start lifting, hangout with your friends, and go bang some other bitches. I know the feelings that you’re going through and just know they are temporary. You will get through this and you will learn from this.

rarmin_qosets · 2020-01-09T15:00:02+00:00

Watch some movies, dance, sing, get drunk, get high, whatever. Take your time and get your shit together. Remember

SUFFERING IS AND ALWAYS WILL BE PERSONAL.

Don't overshare with your freinds and family they don't care. And to end this remember self improvement is like masturbation you do it by yourself for yourself.

pkarlmann · 2020-01-09T15:48:06+00:00

She tells me that my lack of aggression, masculinity was repulsive and i was just a wallet for her.

My highest level of utmost disgust for today has been reached.

ContactJoshua · 2020-01-09T16:13:13+00:00

dude, you really wanna live with a traitor disgusting whore with shallow, plastic emotions like that? If not, then you're better off, and you should get on your knees and thank your lucky stars that you didn't wind up spending a lifetime with that garbage

Jnycguy · 2020-01-09T16:43:03+00:00

Your best ten ’years of your life are ahead. You don’t know it yet Sob for no woman

2020-01-09T17:01:46+00:00

You're a nice guy, and as the girl honestly told you, women hate that. They're not loyal and the most you'll love them, the less they'll love you.

You should cut your losses there and focus on yourself, there is nothing you can do to "save the relationship", she saw you loved her and in a woman's book it means you're weak and should be ditched asap.

Don't be ashamed, you have been lied to your whole life, no man in the universe will ever be "enough" by women standard, there will always be something another man is better at than you and that's normal.

WILLNOTLAND · 2020-01-09T17:07:15+00:00

Your options are [to break up with her] and [to stay with her].

Both are difficult but the first will be better for you long-term. I think the reasons are obvious: you have been betrayed, the one you love does not respect you, and she will do this again.

You need to remove her from your life in all aspects, and then spend some time figuring out what you want out of your time on Earth.

I say take a year or two considering this; answers that involve other people do not count. You must function successfully as an individual first, because the only person fully invested in your well-being is yourself.

Good luck.

2020-01-09T20:43:54+00:00

Be grateful it was 6 months not 10 years after marriage, children etc. You dodged a nuke be grateful. just focus on you and your happiness and future don't attempt to replace her

everydaygreyman · 2020-01-09T23:07:52+00:00

You weren't married and you don't have kids together.

You got off easy,

TooAwareToCare · 2020-01-11T08:46:52+00:00

Take into account how much weight you viewed this girl with, how much she meant to you.

Wouldn’t have made any difference how much or little you wanted or needed this girl, she simply wasn’t that in to you and made it known.

You thought she was your confidant? After 6 years? Nah, not long enough.

Women will wear the mask as long as it’s comfortable and suits them.

Sounds like she got bored mate, tough luck, on to the next one? Unless...?

Didisoru · 2020-01-09T12:12:19+00:00

Get in touch with her, and tell her : "Ok you cheated on me and I did not - out of respect. Thing is I still want you in spite of everyting, so if you agree we can still be together and ill be your trusted friend and sex companion, but no more "mister nice guy" from my part". You will get your dignity back ;)

Title	I can't endure this
Author	ambrosad
Upvotes	170
Comments	88
Date	January 9, 2020 5:50 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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