After my first three posts ("She's the woman of my life", The flirt is oversized and What women want), which received many opinions (negative and positive), I had to make an introduction to this writing.

Titles are always caricatured. I don't have the science, far from it. I often rely on scientific studies. It's just my opinion and you don't have to adopt it.

I'm generalizing absolutely everything because we have to generalize something like this. Obviously, every human being is different, my writings describe a generality, stop being stupid.

And the most important thing, it seems to me: my writings are in no way reductive as far as women are concerned. There is a touch of humour indeed, but human behaviour is made that way, female hypergamy is no more scandalous than male hypogamy.

And NO, I'm not heartbroken, I didn't get cheated/quit, let's be serious.

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Women, for the most part, do not love us, they do not choose a man because they love him, but because they like to be loved. - Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr

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UNDERSTAND WOMAN

HYPERGAMY

A woman can only desire a man whom she considers of higher rank than herself (beauty, wealth, social status, whatever). It is said that she is hypergamous by nature. She is programmed to search for the best possible partner, non-stop. She always wants to "do better".

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In the savannah, lions live in groups, generally composed of a lion, several lionesses (the bastard is polygamous), and cubs. It is common for another lion to attack the male of the group to take the lead. If he manages to kill or scare away the current leader, what happens? The female lions will stay with the new male. He's the victor, the strongest. He's just better. Lionesses aren't sluts, they simply respond to their biological imperatives.

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Women historically were not encouraged to study and work (at least not as employees). This lack of social and economic status allowed her to be satisfied with the majority of men, whom she saw as "superior".

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WIDESPREAD CELIBACY

Nowadays, wherever feminism takes hold, celibacy is on the rise. The most affected population is the "low class" men (ugly, poor, etc.), who can no longer meet the hypergamic conditions of the modern woman. The second victim group is the group of educated women, often referred to as "demanding bachelors" because they are intellectually and economically superior to the majority of men and cannot be satisfied with an "inferior" man.

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Problem that I have described many times: few men are "above" these women (apart from their bosses). Hence the Pareto Principle, which I often use, for lack of official figures, to illustrate the concept. 20% of the top men are therefore desired and fuck 80% of the women. (Which is an exaggeration - for the morons who still wouldn't have understood -).

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EMOTIONS BEFORE LOGIC

Women are irrational and incoherent. They have the ability to reason logically but their emotions naturally take over. Their dominant sex hormone, estrogen, is the main reason for this. A woman's estrogen level rises sharply during her ovulatory phase, often leading to unexplainable mood swings and contradictions. Some women cannot even tolerate the contraceptive pill for the same reasons.

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This emotionality makes women much more manipulable than men. I have rarely heard a man complain about being fooled by a "beautiful talker". On the other hand, lying and selling dreams to a woman works wonders. If I wanted to grit my teeth, I would even say that this is the reason why power gave women the right to vote (and also young people, by lowering the age from 21 to 18). Because these two categories are the most manipulable, i.e. subject to the dominant ideology. They will certainly not make the revolution tomorrow and will never even vote against the current.

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Use your logic. Don't listen to what it says, but look at what it does. She pretends she only likes nice, romantic guys but always ends up in the bed of the slightly bossy, borderline guy? I'll let you guys wrap it up.

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ACTIVE MAN, PASSIVE WOMAN

VAIN EFFORTS

The sacrifices and efforts made by men cannot be appreciated by women. For her, it's normal, it was expected. She doesn't even realize it. A woman is daily covered with subtle services rendered, little things that make her life easier. When was the last time someone spontaneously offered you a helping hand, paid for something out of the ordinary or gave a free compliment that brightened up your day?

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Imagine someone offering you coffee every morning for 1 year. After a few months, you will no longer be grateful. It will be the habit, the norm. You won't even pay attention to it anymore. But the day it stops, you'll miss it. And you'll appreciate it all the more when the free fucking coffee comes back.

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Women get free coffee every day, without interruption. Partial explanation for the success of the guy who makes no effort for the woman (the famous "bad boy"), because the slightest effort on his part will be instantly noticed and appreciated. The nice guy who offers coffee every day is never rewarded.

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All your efforts can only be truly appreciated if they are rare.

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"A COUPLE CAN BE BUILT"

I've never heard a man say that before. When you're in a relationship, you really don't expect anything from the woman except calm and sex. But the woman expects everything from the man. She has specific criteria. A couple should naturally function as a friendship or a family relationship. We just enjoy our time with them, with no particular expectations. A woman expects sacrifices from a man. She wants him to change for her, to conform to her ideal. Let's think, in what situation does she have to make an effort for him? Exactly. She never does.

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When a man shows too much love, the woman freaks out and loses her desire. Because being in love puts pressure on the other person, who is forced to give love back or risk disappointment. Returning doesn't exist in the female vocabulary. It just takes, in every sense of the word. All men would like to be able to confide in their wives: to confess their feelings, their weaknesses, their worries. But with each declaration of weakness, even if she never admits it, she loses desire for him. Her status gradually changes from lover to friend.

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A man must be dominant, not by any violence, but in the sense that the woman relies on him, not the other way around. He is the element that keeps the couple together through his sacrifices and decisions. Women cannot stand 2 sentences: "I don't know" and "as you wish". You are supposed to know, you are supposed to decide.

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NON-RECIPROCAL ATTACHMENT

We can love a woman in an almost unconditable way because our attachment to her is deep, because of our personal investment and our efforts. We're always attached to the things we've been involved in. Because, unless you're crazy, the effort you put in implies an expectation of results. Imagine working on a project for a year, devoting all your energy to it, only to see it collapse overnight. You will be heartbroken and above all you will not accept to abandon it like that, because you are attached to it, you love it.

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Children will never be able to love their parents as much as their parents love them, because it is the parents who have made the effort and invested their resources (time, money, love, etc.). The children only benefit from all this, they have had no effort to make. Women will never be able to love men the way men love them, for the same reasons. Hence the following hierarchy, simply based on the amount of personal investment: Man -> Woman -> Child.

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LET'S TALK ABOUT LOVE

As seen before, man makes the sacrifices. He has no guarantees as to the love of the woman, and his attachment to her is deep, due to his personal investment.

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FEMALE LOVE IS TEMPORARY

His love seems to dissipate as quickly as it appeared. His constant search for the best male and his high emotionality prevents him from loving unconditionally. She lives only on emotions, and has a daily need to remember that you are the one. The PUA community (Pick-Up Artists, who are pickup artists) call it shit-testing. She tests your limits, to see if you don't fall apart at the slightest difficulty, which in her mind would amount to an act of weakness, something she can't stand.

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This ephemeral love poses a problem for the male vision of the couple. She can hardly stand routine and gets tired very quickly. Hence her propensity to create drama out of nothing. She has to feel something, all the time, to feel connected to the man, because her love for him is only infatuation.

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"Why don't you ever tell me that you love me? "Need emotions to feel connected to him.

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"It's obvious that I love you, otherwise I would have left you by now. "Logic is enough. It's obvious to him.

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SHARED MISUNDERSTANDING

The misunderstanding of female love prevents the man from seeing whether the woman loves him or not. He wants to believe that he can be loved for what he is, not for his usefulness or the emotions he transmits to the woman. He will therefore "build" his relationship by making the efforts he actually expects from her, since this is his male vision of love. He will remain himself. Why would he change since she chose him like that?

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Routine will settle in the couple and will become more and more burdensome for her. Eventually, she'll stop loving him without him knowing it, blinded by her own perception of love. By the time he figures out what's going on, it'll be too late. His logical response will be to try to remember what he was doing in the beginning. He'll never understand that nothing has changed, and that's the problem. This flat, comfortable and unsatisfying life (for her) has destroyed her relationship. The lack of emotion killed her love and desire.

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MEN ARE THE TRUE ROMANTICS

It's the men who work their asses off to be imaginative and innovative. A woman, as always, takes advantage of the moment. What she perceives as romantic is never something planned, it must come "just like that", at random. Because planning means an obligation of appreciation. That is to say, which 'man expects something in return, and this, the woman cannot assume. They don't like to be approached, they prefer "natural" encounters. We must force this "chance" and make her believe that it is a chance. Because if you wait for real chance to do things, nothing happens.

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The married man who cheats on his wife with a more desirable one will never leave her for his mistress. He's excited by the young one, but loves his wife. For he can separate love from desire. When a woman cheats on her husband, she has no more desire for him and therefore no more love. 75% of divorces are initiated by women. A break-up is often incredibly more painful for a man, because of his real and deep attachment. 75% of people who commit suicide are men. It is estimated that 60% of these suicides are the result of a love break-up.

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These different representations of love are at the root of misunderstandings and disappointments between men and women. Each person sees love according to his or her own paradigm but does not imagine that the other person may have different expectations and needs.

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Women love in an opportunistic way. Men love by sacrifice.