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Is it worth it?

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April 29, 2020
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A lot has been happening lately, this crap of being in the house most of the time is like RP on ultra hard, been having arguments often, some good, some bad.

But this has made me start to wonder if its really worth it, i mean is it really worth it? wife has been great 90% of the time, great sex, sexy, nice food, great with the kids etc.

But everything works like a tense peace, if i slip a bit she is like a shark on blood, i know i have to keep my game at 100%, but at the same time is tiring.

The years i was single/divorced i used to do beautiful elegant code, because my mind was calm 90% of the time, made money everywhere. The years i have been married/ltr i live in tension, either from going beta and living with a bitch, or keeping my game at all times.

not planning to to MGTOW but started to romantize living without a partner, just plates, have the kid 50/50 and enjoy freedom.


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Title Is it worth it?
Author turbospeedsc
Upvotes 15
Comments 19
Date 29 April 2020 03:02 AM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/657864
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ga1lrb/is_it_worth_it/
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[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy

The years i have been married/ltr i live in tension, either from going beta and living with a bitch, or keeping my game at all times

If you’re stress while keeping your game, then you’re just not there yet. When you have rock solid frame, you’re indifferent to her trying to start fights. You live intuitively, and you just know when to STFU, when to AM, A&A, fogging, grab her and pull her in for a kiss.. etc

It sounds like you have a potato chip up your ass, fully in tact: lighten up and quit being so scared of her... she’s just a girl.

[–]ChiefGuitar2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah my first thought to his post was "dancing monkey" is the true tale.

[–]FoxShitNasty8310 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are a vacuum cleaner suckin up all the negativity, bad feels and being impacted by other members of the household.

You need to change, the good news is I am magic. You are now a twin turbo petrol powered leaf blower that throws out gold dust at the speed of sound. No negative feelz get in only positive emotions and fun comes out. You are high value so use it wisely.

Remember what Spidermans uncle once said "with great power comes great responsibility" don't let him down arsehole.

[–]SepeanRed Beret9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

But everything works like a tense peace, if i slip a bit she is like a shark on blood, i know i have to keep my game at 100%, but at the same time is tiring.

Like a shark? What, she takes your leg off? Or does she just scowl and say something mean that hurts your feelings?

Lighten up, bro, you say she's great and you have great sex, that's because she likes you. No reason to get bothered so much by some lip.

[–]ChiefGuitar8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

But everything works like a tense peace, if i slip a bit she is like a shark on blood, i know i have to keep my game at 100%, but at the same time is tiring.

What do you think you're doing to "slip"? What does she do as a shark?

You realize you're placing her frame as the apex predator and your frame as the seal?

When the seal slips off the ice, that's when the Great White launches its 5000 pound killing-machine body 20 feet out of the water and eats.

The years i was single/divorced i used to do beautiful elegant code, because my mind was calm 90% of the time, made money everywhere.

Right. I'm sure you were just so put together and "alpha" that you had it all figured out. Alone. Single. Pining for a woman and a LTR. And you got married and you were so well put together and strong that you found your way here to MRP. That's what we all are here. Guys that were naturally alpha and dominant. We just decided to congregate here and shoot the shit.

...or maybe you weren't calm 90% of the time and instead were depressed, bored, or naive. Or all three.

The years i have been married/ltr i live in tension, either from going beta and living with a bitch, or keeping my game at all times.

You have no game. You don't understand IT. For one, you think "going beta" equals bad. That your wife is a bitch because you go beta. MRP requires a healthy balance of alpha and beta. It's spelled out for you in MMSLP. You going beta should help build comfort and security so that you going alpha leads to stronger, more meaningful tingles and feels.

She's not a bitch because you "go beta" when you get tired of "keeping your game." She's a bitch because you're a phony who is just putting on a show to get sex.

not planning to to MGTOW but started to romantize living without a partner, just plates, have the kid 50/50 and enjoy freedom.

Reality is you'll live without a partner, have no plates outside of escorts, and your kid will pine to get back to hanging out with Step-Chad. You'll enjoy your "peace of mind 90% of the time" until your inevitable victim puke post that starts with: "OYS #1 - Had a previous account but I'm realizing I need to start over. Intro...."

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

Two years you've been on MRP. Two fucking years and 12 - yes 12 fucking victim pukes later and you're still here asking the most basic fucking question...

'What do I want?'

Well, what DO you want?

[–]so_woke_da_wookie3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Romanticize"

"Romanticism was characterized by its emphasis on emotion and individualism as well as glorification of all the past and nature"

This painting is by Courbet, it's called The Desperate Man.

Jean-Jacques Rousseau, the father of romanticism, wanted to elevate the feminine qualities in men so they might feel their world.

You get where this is going, right?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

When you are on lock down it is tough to clear your head with your harpy wife sitting right there asking you ten questions a minute because she is scared if the boogeyman virus and you are her only source of security. Tell her you are going to spend some time alone doing this or that and then do it and if she chases you around the house just leave. I still leave the house at least once a day and go to a park or something. I also make her come to me for attention and validation just by staying busy on my own shit(not dancing monkey). While things are going well I still take her to a work friends house so she can have some time away from the house. Of course she is still calling me 5 times while she's there and when I retrieve her it's a sexual cornucopia of whatever I want.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey, you know what? Divorce is reversible. So divorce her. It seems like you've gotten what you want but now that you have it, it's not worth it.

Women will always pick fights. That's why "Why won't she love me for being me" never works.

Rule zero is paramount. Other than that, why stay married if you're not up to the rest of the shit that goes with it? Maybe she's not the right woman for you? Find another. Really who gives a fuck.

What do you really want?

[–]Red-Curious8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

It takes two to argue. So how are they happening often if you're STFU?

You sound very in her frame too. You care too much about what she thinks and "keeping the peace." How fluent are you with amused mastery? It helps you enjoy the tension rather than being stressed out by it.

Some people hate the pressure of tip-toeing around egg shells. Others find it a fun game to see how long they can go before cracking them. My 4yr old is the type of person who would stomp all over them just to watch them crack, giggling all the while. Be at least the second, if not the third ... but definitely not the first.

Ultimately, only you can decide if it's "worth it."

[–]theycallmenubs2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get your shit together

[–]ancient_resistanceShit coming out my eyeballs1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

if i slip a bit she is like a shark on blood

Fog through that shit a few times, see what happens.

[–]Tyred_BiggumsRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You need to reverse your line of thinking. You have the cause and effect backwards.

Your tension causes you fear from yourself (going beta) or your wife (aka being a bitch). You have zero frame. Worse, you let your wife pull you into hers (via arguments). And then you start hamstering if it's worth it.

You're operating on feelz (romanticizing a different path). Get your shit together.

wife has been great 90% of the time, great sex, sexy, nice food, great with the kids etc.

Sounds pretty good to me. I'd say "you do you" but you got to fix yourself being such a fucktard first. Back to lifting, STFU, and sidebar. And post in OYS every week. You've been at this far too long for this type of post.

[–]UniRivv0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I love this comment.

[–]johnmic071 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't make an impulse decision just because you had a few fights recently. It sounds like you've been making some progress and are seeing results. You gotta be a little patient and keep making improvements. If you do decide to get a divorce, you should be prepared and go in with everything planned out to minimize the impacts.



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