(story time begins in paragraph 4)

I can’t stop reading everything in the manosphere and I have been religiously lurking through this sub every day for the past two months. I’ve only posted once a few weeks ago. My post was called the 300lb invisible man- a story about my transition away from being morbidly obese and the real differences how people look (and treat) you.

So after hitting approx 190lb on the scales 3-4 months ago I switched from long-distance running to Squad lift 5x5. My lifts have been getting progressively stronger (loving them noob gainz) and within the past 1-2 months I’ve noticed some cool looking muscle on my upper body. I did have some issues at first with SL 5x5… basically I was a complete retard who though he could progress his lifts with a 800 calorie deficit. Lesson learned: eat more veg and chicken kids.

Anyway, as mentioned in my last post I’ve also started receiving more positive sexual advances from women- which is still alien to me. I’m also married (que boos). Even still, I can’t advocate for this subreddit enough in terms of the importance it is for men and how real a lot of the information on here is- particularly the sidebar.

So I went out drinking on Boxing day with my wife and her friends- all of us were nicely dressed for the occasion. I like to dress well now that I can see my entire body in the mirror. I find pininterest has some really good fashion tips for men. Anyway, I left my wife and her friends at a table to buy drinks at the bar. As soon as I approached the bar a girl asked me to buy her a drink. I said no and continued ordering drinks for me and my wife. After initially looking offended that I wouldn’t buy her a drink (maybe she was used to guys buying her drinks as she was easily a 7-8) she asked me if I was single. I told her I was married and she sighed and looked really disappointed. I told her there are lots of guys in the bar tonight and I’m sure she would find someone. She didn’t look convinced. I shook her hand and I walked away. This little interaction might seem normal to some guys on here, but imagine being obese most of your teenage and young adult life. This shit doesn’t happen when you are obese.

Anyway as the night continued on, drinks were had and more of my wife’s friends joined us- one of which I hadn’t met in a long, long time. She couldn’t believe I was the same guy. All night, she was hugging me, telling me how she missed me how good I looked and eventually she decided to come back to a house party with me and my wife.

At about 4 am we are all sitting down in the living room and she says really loudly in front of the group “OMG you look amazing, you have changed so much! Who did you do it for?” I ignored the question and just said thanks. However she repeats it again “who did you do it for?” and for the third time she asks “who did you do it for?”

I shrugged my shoulders and didn’t answer. I didn’t have an answer ready because I had never expected the question. But after thinking about it… I wasn’t impressed. Why was she so interested in an answer? I did this shit for me. I lost this weight for me. I didn’t lose 100lb and hit the gym every single day at 6 am for my friends or my family or even my wife. I felt that her question was an extremely loaded question. It was a poor attempt of disguised insinuation. It was her tone, her urgency for an answer- but more importantly, her need to get the point across to a larger group. Reflecting back, she was making a statement and was a poor attempt of returning to the old days where power was unbalanced and swung in her favor. “hey everyone. Look at this guy. He used to be a 300lb beta who used to sit in the corner and was universally ignored. Now look at him. He’s changed. But why has he changed? Why has he increased his SMV even though he is married. What’s his agenda?”

Maybe I’m interpreting this wrong. I have a long way to come in terms of implementing redpill thinking and still feel like a beta in an alpha body. Most people I meet ask me how I did it? Do I feel different? Did you have to buy new clothes? All innocent questions that people make small talk with. Jesus, I even had a few retards ask why? Maybe it’s because being 300lb is the equivalent of high fiving the grim reaper that you will see him before the age of 50?

Wtf do you care WHO I did it for?

Oh and that girl at the bar? Turns out she went to school with my wife. My wife found out about her asking me for a drink and asking if I was single because I told her and pointed her out… I like to keep things honest between me and my wife. I also wasn’t going to pass up this opportunity to create a bit of dread. My wife also had a gay friend who said I was a dish….whatever the fuck that means. Anyway after all of the above combination, for the first time in three years my wife initiated the next morning.

Anyway, i still have a long way to go. I'm harder on myself than i ever was. I hope all of you guys had a good Christmas.

TLDR: make sure you eat plenty of fruit and veg when you are lifting and your wife’s friends will become a bunch of jealous bitches.