I don’t want to hang or or be excessively cool with any girl I’m not fucking. AITA for this? What is this called that I’m experiencing?

DarkestShadeOfRed · 2020-05-02T04:17:44+00:00

Don't worry if someone thinks your an asshole, you know what you want and you're doing it.

le_wolfe · 2020-05-02T06:13:02+00:00

Do what you want. Who's stopping you from not being a simp?

longjeep2005 · 2020-05-02T05:50:28+00:00

A woman friend will never have your back the same way your boys will. Normal if you ask me. Be nice to them but don’t go out of your way if you don’t want to

casual_redditor_01 · 2020-05-02T16:47:46+00:00

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2020-05-02T06:58:54+00:00

You're not the asshole.

There are no fucking friendships with the opposite sex. That's pure bullshit. The time you spent with a "female friend" could be spent either on a plate that you will fuck or on yourself.

If a woman tries to shame you for not wanting to spend time with her "just as friends", ask her:

"How would you feel if you get married and your husband spends a good amount of time with this "female friend" of his.

They share ALL of their problems to each other and support each other and go everywhere and do everything except sex and kissing. Would you be alright with that?"

Of course the answer would be no. BINGO. There's her answer.

peakymann · 2020-05-02T04:39:55+00:00

You're experiencing what we call: common sense.

2020-05-02T13:25:07+00:00

That’s called being a normal and honest male. Guys and girls can’t be friends in the truest since of the word. One always wants more (usually the dude) whether he’s honest with himself or not

It’s good to have casual friends with these types of women. Can do things in groups together, get social proof, extend social circle, etc. but hanging out one on one or going shopping with a woman you aren’t fucking? Guys and girls don’t and can’t do that

Also never use “AITA” ever again. Don’t ask redditors of all people to validate your decisions. Build up your own moral compass

PiperBigBell · 2020-05-02T04:12:18+00:00

That's called valuing your time and knowing what you want. Otherwise known as "Standards and Boundaries". Another word for this is "Value Proposition". The value exchange doesn't make sense unless she's compliant to your needs.

A woman's natural place is to be submissive and compliant, regardless of if her needs are being met yet. It's more important for a woman to play her role than a man in terms of survival since she is the dependent. Anyway . . No you're not a dick.

You just want compliance and submission before you give up any investment, which women will gladly do nowadays.

Shitcuckedredditsays · 2020-05-02T08:38:54+00:00

You should rather want to be a dick than a swallower

AuberyBitoni · 2020-05-02T12:05:19+00:00

Same.. I only hang out with girls who I want to fuck. I got my boys to do stuff with I actually enjoy.

MemphisBro · 2020-05-02T13:30:31+00:00

I’ll go against the grain here and say you’re not an asshole just dumb. You know how much attention you get from women at the club, when you got 2 hot blondes with you, who are just friends and you don’t want them sexually? Quite a lot

ay-fuh-q · 2020-05-02T15:22:10+00:00

No. You're not the asshole. Guys who go shopping with girls are "girlfriends" (unless they're shopping at a sex shop.... and even then, sometimes those pussies are helping her get sex toys for another dude).

Let the no-getting pussies (and no getting pussy) go with the girls and be their friends.

Now, this isn't to say that being friends with a girl can be bad. It's just that most dummies think they can "friend" their way into pants.

CaiusBard · 2020-05-02T16:07:18+00:00

Seems normal to me. Are there guys out there who literally go shopping and run errands with girls that they aren't banging? LOL, I didn't know orbiting has gotten that bad now.

The only time I'll invite platonic girls around as friends is for social proof if I'm going out to a bar or some other social event or something. Literally no other reason. Much easier to game other women if you have a herd with you that enjoys your company than if you're by yourself or with a handful of other guy friends.

violetmonstermunch · 2020-05-02T19:30:11+00:00

You are just a guy who has self respect and knows what he wants. You aren't a simp, but it's a simp's world so they'll make you feel like you are the asshole. You aren't, you are just a self respecting man who doesn't take shit from anybody.

TheDopestPope · 2020-05-02T20:33:10+00:00

what's stopping you from making a move? if she doesn't want it you move on

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-05-02T22:16:46+00:00

I don’t see a problem. I have some female acquaintances but we never hang alone unless we’re fucking.

Flimsey_wavee · 2020-05-02T07:27:02+00:00

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IXseed · 2020-05-02T16:19:11+00:00

YTA and that's ok.

The only thing I'd be weary about is thinking that a women can bring 0 value to your life just because she's a women. Give her a shot to prove it to you but don't be all up in her ass looking for it.

thrwy75479 · 2020-05-02T19:11:01+00:00

What is this called that I’m experiencing?

equanimity

Tambamwham · 2020-05-02T04:28:18+00:00

You’ll never have a true abundance mentality until you can be friends with girls with no strings attached. Understanding and accepting that has brought a lot of value and pussy to my life.

Title	I don’t want to hang or or be excessively cool with any girl I’m not fucking. AITA for this? What is this called that I’m experiencing?
Author	casual_redditor_01
Upvotes	35
Comments	33
Date	May 2, 2020 3:57 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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