Maintaining Frame in Tragedy

Theowawayjustforu · 2020-05-06T05:05:08+00:00

Just tell her "hello LTR, thank you for your support. I will be needing sometime to help deal with my grandfather, hope you understand!"

alphakari · 2020-05-06T09:05:21+00:00

This is a test for her as much as it is for you.

Life inevitably contains tragedy like this.

How she handles seeing you this way is important. It's still a test on you too, that doesn't mean you can just let life go and say, drown yourself in ice cream and gain 200 lbs, but that if you trip up and she pops like a soap bubble, it just means she's not good enough to be the queen in your castle.

That said, it's up to you if you decide to test her. If you want to be realistic, insulating her from that is the safest bet rather than eliminating all women who can't handle a tragedy stricken person (most of them) from your dating pool.

nixon993 · 2020-05-06T08:31:40+00:00

Man your grandpa is dying stop thinking about redpill and how you will appear weak in front of your girl.You dont have to cry all day in front of her but no reason to hide your pain.

hoopingblob · 2020-05-06T07:46:39+00:00

After Xenophon's son died he merely said "I knew my son was a mortal"

You knew that one day he will die. Accepting that will make it easier for you. Don't be sad that he will be gone, be grateful for the memories he gave you

spedoid · 2020-05-06T06:21:37+00:00

It's okay to feel upset when you're losing a family member. Don't worry about crying in front of her. You could always go cry in your room under the bed or go into your car and be alone. You can tell you you feel like shit and wanna be by yourself if that's what you need. Or you can ask her to sit with you and talk about it. Whatever helps man. I would talk to other relatives too maybe.

comcain · 2020-05-06T18:11:12+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this, brother. I lost my Dad 6 months ago and still haven't come to terms with it. Eventually I will, it just takes a lot of time with me.

Now is the time for family to come together. Is your LTR family? That's up to you. Try to support your family and your parents, who will be grieving terribly. Sometimes that's the best way to get through this.

Your grandfather lives on through you. Make him proud of the man you're becoming every day.

Cry your tears for him, of course, but realize he probably knew his time was up one of these days. Death is something you come to accept as a friend as you get older. He's headed for a better place now.

Many hugs of course (bro hugs, of course!)

Hang in there, brother. And he isn't gone yet!

Fucking CoVid.

Cheers

LiberianCongauBCBa · 2020-05-06T10:49:09+00:00

Hold your balls my nigga. Don’t think for a second she is on your side. For she is your enemy in weakness and your ally in strength. Right now you are weak and it’s understandable. Hold your balls my nigga much love

theredsperg · 2020-05-06T12:23:58+00:00

all the pussy in the world doesn't replace family. do what you need to do to face this terrible tragedy, stop caring about holding frame.

all this built up masculinity isn't worth shit if you can't accept your true emotional state

The1ndex · 2020-05-06T12:46:34+00:00

Keep this between you and your family. Don’t involve your LTR. If she sees you crying, she will never see you the same. Likewise, if you fall into her arms crying like a puppy, it’s game over. There are countless examples out there.

Go ahead and grieve. Just keep your LTR out of it.

DeepNutted · 2020-05-06T14:25:56+00:00

Why are you concerned about her, you should be concerned about yourself?

L0nerizm · 2020-05-06T20:57:58+00:00

Why the fuck do you care about maintaining frame when your family member is dying? Stop using TRP as a bible and be a human

IsaacShSe · 2020-05-06T07:59:04+00:00

Talk about it with your family. Keep your distance from her and only see her when you know you can mantain it. If you feel a trigger you flee. NEVER show weakness to anyone outside of your family (the ones that love you, do not show it either in front of the toxic ones).

TheChinkLord · 2020-05-06T08:37:45+00:00

Tragedy helps you maintain your frame

slappysq · 2020-05-06T13:39:03+00:00

Is he on Hydroxychloroquine?

Title	Maintaining Frame in Tragedy
Author	Pilgrimboy5
Upvotes	35
Comments	28
Date	May 6, 2020 5:03 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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