Q4M who are disgusted by bisexuality in women: Why?

cloudydays84 · 2020-05-25T20:55:39+00:00

I'm a 21 black bi guy and from what I've seen and heard from friends and kinda just public opinion: bi people in general kinda just get shitted on. Most of what I say comes from what friends and others have noted.

To answer part of your question, Bi women typically have to deal with being fetishized for what they are in terms of sex or hookups but they actually face a good deal of resistance in the dating market and contrary from what people might assume it's not just men. There are plenty of lesbian women that are ready and willing to sleep with bi women but outright refuse to date them. Comparatively speaking some guys who date bi women don't consider their relationships and flings with women as "real", but some women who date bi women consider their relationships and flings with men as them kinda being "defiled by dick".

Bi men typically don't get fetishized as much but it does happen from time to time where a girl or couple look for a guy who's bisexual to have a MFM threesome. They also seem to get a lot of flack when it comes to dating as well, surprisingly (or unsurprisingly depending on how you look at it) bi men get swerved more by straight women than they do gay men.

The public image of bi people also kinda sucks ass because by virtue of being bi we're already seen as high sex driven and promiscuous. Always the people you need to keep an eye on for fear of cheating because "every person they interact with is now a potential competitor".

It's even pretty bad in the LGBT community (which I've distanced myself from for other reasons as well). A good chunk of the community don't believe that bisexuals exist and the ones that do kinda invalidate bisexuals who can and have passed as straight because some choose to be in heteronormative relationships.

So yeah kinda sucks all around.

freeagent108 · 2020-05-25T20:04:56+00:00

Been with many bi chicks. They always end up making out or "playing" with other girls when they have a few drinks. Thats cheating to me. I do not find it fun or fair at all whatsoever. Especially after you both discuss that it is CHEATING even if its in front of you. Ended 1st fiance after that. Had it happen with any bi chick i dated...they either lied or were so drunk and thought you were somewhere else at the get together/bar and went hard. Yeah, no thanks.

loke2dabrain · 2020-05-25T22:26:29+00:00

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Aaren_Augustine · 2020-05-25T20:14:34+00:00

I'm a 40 year old white guy in the US that isn't religious.

Dated a chick like that and it was a turn off when I saw her as relationship material. Its not attractive in the context of relationships.

I looked at this girl I dated and went...you're kind of a dude. So that's fun and all and we can be "dudes" I guess. Fuck buddy? Cool. A bit of dude behavior, but okay. We can be friends that fuck.

But if I want a relationship, I don't want a dude chick. It's not attractive to me. Its not a gay thing, but a redundant thing. If a woman is the dude in their life, I don't feel useful or helpful. Then I have to wonder are you going to be the dude chasing after chicks. Are you expecting me to the chick? Because that REALLY seems to happen under the "equality" banner.

Too many factors to assess that's really hard to assess. Now I got to worry or wonder about how you'll conduct yourself with both men AND women.

And they'll point and go "AH-HA, insecure and homophobic!" Which is stupid. I think its wrong to call women shallow because they don't fuck obese basement dwellers. BECAUSE its clear they don't find them attractive. But some women will do this when you say you don't want to get into a relationship with someone who they aren't attracted to.

Barely-moral · 2020-05-25T20:58:54+00:00

I am not disgusted. I just don't like competition. So I would rather pick someone that has less options.

Early 30s. Undisclosed country in South America. Raised catholic, atheist.

KapteeniJ · 2020-05-25T19:56:58+00:00

I used to be ok with the idea of bisexuality in a woman I'm committed to, till I actually did it...while they're perfectly compatible with my free agency lifestyle, if I were ever going to monogamously commit again it wouldn't be to a bisexual

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-05-25T21:22:10+00:00

I'm not disgusted by bi women, I just dont like them.

Why would I want to date a girl with twice as many options than me? That's a whole other gender she can pick from. I dont want a girl picking both sides. "Omg it doesnt work like that. I see them as people not guy or girl." I dont care. Still more potential options.

Bi women tend to pick when to be gay or straight. Your gf motorboated a girl at a party? She slept over with a girl friend in the same bed? Who's to say that's just playing around or a sexual thing for her? Sounds like a great cop out to cheat. A lot of girls dont even consider it cheating if it's with another girl. They think being Bi makes them special and gives them a free pass to be slutty because they're "expressing their sexuality".

As toxic as it sounds, I don't see bi women as real women. Women are sexually attracted to men. Masculinity. That's what makes them feminine. I want a feminine woman.

A lot of bi girls are fake bi or just going through phases. If you've never slept with or even kissed a girl you cant say you're bi. A lot of bi woman also tend to have daddy issues and other problems. Just the trend I've seen.

The LGBTQ community is just annoying and toxic nowadays. Cancelling everyone and being hypocrites hating straight white men and being racist and sexist while commiting violent protests for no reason. Shoving their agenda down our throats when every new Netflix series has to have a bi or gay minority character

Workaholiconew · 2020-05-25T20:15:36+00:00

I do not have a disgust for bisexuals per see, i actually have a preference for them.

But I have a distaste for high n count women, which many do show bisexual tendencies.

Which for outsiders may seen a distaste for bisexual women, when in actuality it is for just high n count women.

2020-05-25T20:58:59+00:00

It’s usually not the bisexuality itself, it’s the type of people that tend to be bisexual is who I’m going to be incompatible with

geyejoe7 · 2020-05-26T09:42:08+00:00

Idk why any dude would dislike that. Sure. "Double the chance of cheating" since she likes both genders. But maybe a chance of threesome aswell, right!???

Ooooor they're just normal people, and if they're commited it makes no difference

DangZagnut · 2020-05-25T20:08:37+00:00

Please include demographic stuff too (age/country/race/religious background)

No.

A bisexual woman has all the same problems of a straight woman, and all the problems of a lesbian woman, then mix two problems together.

Negatives don't cancel each other out.

You have incorrect assumptions apparently.

Women don't like bisexual men. It's just more competition against them. Plus being gay isn't "manly" ironically enough, and women aren't into that. Sure there's a couple bi women that might, but it doesn't matter what the exceptions say.

What possible benefit is there to forming any kind of LTR with a bisexual woman? There's literally no upside, just bringing more problems into the relationship.

Casual sex? Sure. LTR? Why?

Innovative_being · 2020-05-25T21:18:48+00:00

It’s a red flag. Usually only highly promiscuous liberated women identify as “bisexual”

loke2dabrain · 2020-05-25T21:00:47+00:00

wouldn't say I'm disgusted by it and I have dated a bi woman before and would again if we were compatible.

Tbh I would prefer a straight woman for anything serious though for the reason I stated in the other thread. Bi women tend to be on the sluttier side.

2020-05-26T00:59:02+00:00

I'm a far shot from having a deep theoretical understanding, but for me, it's instinctual. Basically all the bi women I've met in life have been promiscuous as they want, and had some form of serious issues (BPD, narcissism, even a schizo) while quite immature, self-centered, unempathetic and lacking in self-awareness.

You can feel something's plain wrong when you find one, and the way they react (even on this thread) just confirms it.

VaporwaveVampire · 2020-05-26T03:10:34+00:00

I’m a straight woman who’s friends with quite a few bi people. Most bisexual people are normal and great. That being said those that advertise their bisexuality tend to fit into this... category. I don’t want to stereotype but I think you know what I mean.

There’s also the issue of the mostly straight girl who has slight attraction to women but never views that relationship as anything more than friends who make out and get nose piercings together

But most bi people are chill.

FuckJanitors · 2020-05-26T11:09:50+00:00

Homosexuality is completely frowned upon in the buddhism community. We very very recommended that you convert to heterosexuality as a straight buddhist, today.

Homosexuality is disgusting. The lgbtq + community are sin sin sin sinners and will be condemned to the depths of hell for their acts. We abolish any of that.

spacechicken1990 · 2020-05-26T13:58:34+00:00

Answer(the same one on all these threads): because women are sluts & x women tend to make worse life partners.... at this point the lot of you should just go celibate.

jigglypuff__0 · 2020-05-26T20:34:10+00:00

A lot of bi people say everyone who doesn’t want to fuck them is biphobic. Why aren’t bi sexuals pan sexuals? Are they transphobic?

gaylord_fag · 2020-05-25T23:40:05+00:00

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diffdedbed · 2020-05-25T19:58:24+00:00

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2020-05-26T05:51:27+00:00

I haven't seen this point touched on yet, so here it is. My personal experience with bi women is that when they do "open up" to you regarding their sexuality, they define their sexual urges towards men and women to be separate. It's common for them to say things like "a man just can't touch me the same way a woman can". And they are right!

Am i to believe that if i am dating a bi woman that suddenly her urges towards women will magically disappear? Of course not. And that is an urge that she cannot receive from me. Will she realistically never touch a woman again? Not likely. In other words, I'd go into this situation knowing that she will cheat eventually. Am i just supposed to be ok with that? I'm not.

I'm certainly not disgusted with her though. I'd love to join her sometime! Just not a likely match for LTR given my standards.

Title	Q4M who are disgusted by bisexuality in women: Why?
Author	neualgae
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Date	May 25, 2020 7:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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