I've accepted the fact that I'll never be the same again after leaving TRP, PSL, and the Blackpill

raziphel · 2020-05-23T04:27:33+00:00

You won't be the same. You'll be better, more confident, and more mature once you work yourself through this. There's no such thing as "forever damaged" and we all exist in a state of perpetual improvement.

Confidence is a skill that takes practice.

I suggest you get therapy.

Inareskai · 2020-05-23T09:10:05+00:00

I don't think you're forever damaged. You see those distortions now, remove yourself from where those ideas are reinforced and go and meet people who don't hold those ideas. Therapy wouldn't be a bad idea either, but even without it - your knowledge that it's false combined with experiencing the world is likely to slowly make those ideas fade anyway.

Everytime you have a thought you recognise as RP/not-good, challenge it. And when you feel like you're going to act on it, do the opposite. Over time, it will get easier.

Rhazelle · 2020-05-23T12:05:01+00:00

It sounds like you're still pretty young, which means you have time to mature, learn, and rewire your brain into more healthy views and mindsets.

The worst thing you can do is give up on yourself, aight? So keep fighting, make improvements every day (no matter how small), and you'll get to where you want to be :)

yulemguysmmoja · 2020-05-23T13:27:37+00:00

I suggest finding a purpose and putting full focus on it. This will stop you from analyzing too much other than your purpose. Finding what i love and working on it everyday is the best thing i ever had, this slowly shifted my mindset and i can tell I'm just a few miles away.. don't give up!!!

Peterselieblaadje · 2020-05-23T15:24:37+00:00

Firs of all, what is PSL?

Like the others said, you might be in a dark place now but you're definitely not forever damaged! Think of it like a break-up: you've just broken up with TRP. It wasn't a good relationship hence why you've been broken into a thousand pieces, but with time those pieces will be put back together.

I thought the same as you, only 6 weeks ago. Now, I'm way more happy than I was back then. I'm rebuilding relationships with old friends, man and women, and I'm relearning how to have conversations with the women in my life without the damaging perspective that TRP teaches men.

Sure, sometimes I slip back a bit in my head to my old ways, but I must say that it's gotten way easier surprisingly fast. There was a time in your life before TRP. You'll remember soon enough how you used to interact with people during those days, and you'll pick it up again. You've just not ridden your bike in a while. Doesn't mean you can't pick it up again!

Take care bud, and feel free to msg me.

globeglobeglobe · 2020-05-23T20:55:07+00:00

It's unfortunate that you, like me, had to deal with blackpilled bullshit ideologies from such a young age. And I totally feel your lingering pain---as you go through life, you'll meet a number of really shitty people who will exploit you, mock you, and judge you on your looks, race, money, intellect, etc. rather than the content of your character. But you don't want this to consume your life, nor interfere in your forming meaningful relationships with the large number of kind and empathetic people you'll meet. Some things you should do, which helped me, are:

Develop some hobbies, and find a purpose/calling in life. Keep healthy through diet and exercise, and sharpen your social skills. This will improve your quality of life and sense of self-worth (which should be your motivation for doing it!); as a secondary effect, it'll make you more attractive to the opposite sex. You'll realize that attractiveness is far more changeable than you think, and is not exclusively genetic destiny. You’ll s move to spending less time contemplating the height, jawlines and whatever else about the “competition.”
Form close and meaningful friendships with women, try to understand their perspective on issues. You'll find that men and women are more similar than they are different. A lot of what divides us really is the effect of socialization, culture, and economics, rather than anything inherently biological.
Finally and most importantly, don't equate, in your own mind, your sexual attractiveness (looks, intellect, charm, etc.) with your self-worth. You have as much right to human dignity and respect as any other man or woman. Treat others with respect, regardless of whether or not you're attracted to them, and demand the same.

Mrapocalisse · 2020-05-23T21:17:19+00:00

> my senior year of high school a a year and a half ago

so you're 20ish

give yourself time bud,life pretty much starts now

get outside more,breathe and forget about all of this shit

srubia2007 · 2020-05-24T04:16:33+00:00

You can do it. I have faith in you!

The best way to combat a bad habit is by replacing it with a good one. And that’s all this TRP/whatnot nonsense is, it’s training the brain to be a certain way, but you have the ability to counteract it simply because you are AWARE of how it is affecting you and your mentality. If you feel those thoughts creep in, try to replace them with something more positive, or even focus on something else entirely (maybe even something silly, like purple elephants, or the craziest/funniest thing you ever saw in your life). Eventually, those negative thoughts will dissipate. Like someone previously mentioned, you are young and still able to change, it’s not like you are 90 and have ingrained racism you can’t get rid of. You fell into a trap of negativity but there is a small ladder to climb; it may not be easy to do so as it is to write it out like this, but it it IS possible.

YOU. CAN. DO. IT.

Title	I've accepted the fact that I'll never be the same again after leaving TRP, PSL, and the Blackpill
Author	NickNeverBrokeAgain
Upvotes	37
Comments	29
Date	May 23, 2020 4:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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