How can I deal with post nut regret?

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May 31, 2020
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I've never had proper feelings for a girl in my life but this always gets worse when I nut. Suddenly I want to get away from this person as much as possible and achieve something in my life and not waste my time on women. I want to spin plates but if I have no feelings at all it will never be enjoyable. Initially I enjoy the start and the excitement but it always changes after I nut.


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Title How can I deal with post nut regret?
Author UKTeenThrowaway69
Upvotes 87
Comments 39
Date 31 May 2020 10:00 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/669734
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/gtwfmr/how_can_i_deal_with_post_nut_regret/
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[–]Guarnerre1995117 points118 points  (1 child) | Copy

Its normal man. Programmed to chase right till the moment you nut and fullfill your natural mission.

For me it gone away when I met someone I actually cared about other than her ass and tits

[–]robot3000_010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I get post nut regret but only if I'm rele fucking a not so great chick. If you fuck a 6/7 it's fine I don't have that temporary disgust

[–]spartan_samurai38 points39 points  (1 child) | Copy

It happens to lot of us, once you got what you were chasing then the excitement is gone and you start looking for next chase.

And it's better than getting Oneitis.

[–]Wants permission to daternsbrum8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh yeah, it fucking is much better than oneitis

[–]Rolfenstien69 points70 points  (5 children) | Copy

It’s a natural thing. It’s programmed in males bc once we nut and Impregnate a woman, our brain is really telling us to not commit as it’s much more of an evolutionary advantage to go impregnate another woman and not get attached too much to the first so that our genes can be passed on more effectively.

Honestly it’s just something you’ve gotta deal with. Just get away from the person if it’s too much for you

[–]Zombiespire0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

That is so incredibly incorrect it's not even funny. Look up what oxytocin is and get that pseudoscience put of here.

[–]Seagram70 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

You are referring to pair bonding. What does that mean if you are NOT experiencing that chemical dump into your brain?

[–]Zombiespire0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

It is evidence those areas of your brain have become deadened or burned and/or you shouldn't be having sex with someone so meaningless to you.

This is a very prevalent issue with modern day thots, who ride the cock carasol and then have difficulty the rest of their lives forming emotional connections with romantic partners, because they traumatized their brain with promiscuous sex.

[–]Seagram70 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

and/or you shouldn't be having sex with someone so meaningless to you

That would explain why the OP has post nut disgust. Stop fucking fatties and ulgy's

I do believe in pair bonding but I also believe that it is male instinct to breed with as many woman as possible.

[–]Zombiespire1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't think it's part of the instinct, it's more of a coincidence of our biology. When a woman has sex it can be a very big decision, because she his very likely investing in carrying that man's child for 9 months and enduring the process of childbirth. When a man has sex it is far less dangerous (from a evolutionary perspective) as they are not forced by nature to face the consequences. Also the fact that men only require several hours to recharge before they could impregnate another woman, while the woman would require more than 9 months including the recovery from the previous pregnancy before they can breed again. This suggests that men who seek to preserve the species and their genetic line, having sex as often as possible is evolutionarily desirable.

However, understanding of human psychology goes against this. Our psychological makeup more concretely suggests we have processes more comparable to something like wolves, as in high investment into their packs (families) and selective breeding with desired mates to maximize desirable traits in offspring. As opposed to us "breeding like rabbits." The existence of oxytocin is one, proving the biological brain drives us to have strong emotional connections with our partners AND our children. The other thing, is the fact that all children require a mother and father figure in their lives in order to have a healthy psychological development. And this is what suggests evolution demands that parents properly raise their families instead of having the father fuck off in some random direction to spread his seed more. You could argue that it might just represent an alpha male with a harem of wives and children, but the conflict, jealousy, and envy problems with polygamy, and amount of children he would be spreading his attention around makes that seem less practical.

[–]RevolutionaryPea732 points33 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fuck her at her place then leave after you nut.

By the way, I love the fact that men are capable of introspection and understanding that some things we do are part of our biological programming. If only women could understand this.

[–]OttoVonBismark7122 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

LOL at expecting anything of women

[–]Livecrazyjoe2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol that would involve using logic

[–]Endorsed ContributorHeathcliff--16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

Be honest to yourself. How attractive are the girls you're banging?

You don't get post nut regret with a very pretty girl. Even if she's dumb as rocks. It's more like pride.

[–]Mescalean2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This.

Always been a quality over quantity guy. Have plenty of coworkers who brag about how many chicks they are fucking and majority of them are 5/10 or below and fat. Not 15-20 lbs overweigt fat either. Goooordoooo fat

[–]cracksniffer66617 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

The older I get, the quicker I get (the fuck)

I wish I knew how to seem interested afterwards. Ole girl just texted me saying she has my black hat. I'm gonna have to be really horny if I want that hat again. Shit just aint the same anymore. Be careful.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

The technical term is called Post-Orgasm Dysphoria.

It has nothing to do with "clarity." It's about mild anxiety and paranoia. Don't fool yourself. "I'm so frosty and clear-headed right now." I doubt that's true.

Stop overthinking it. Go do something else for an hour or two if absolutely necessary. Either way, learn to chill the fuck out and not take how you feel in the moment very seriously.

I suspect guys who whine about post nut "clarity" really just lack much chill factor. They bust their nut and then start getting all froggy and neurotic.

[–]Boo Hoo World So Evilred__Man14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

fuck hotter girls

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is simply a normal indication that the chicks you are banging are not LTR material. LTR material chicks are the ones who are nice to be around even when you are not horny.

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[–]babban_rao0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I can relate. I have only managed to fuck fat bitches so far although I am not even attracted to them.

[–]OlderRedBrother1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

stop banging 5s and 6s and try to land higher quality pussy like a real man

[–]__batterylow__0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Enlighten me, Senpai

[–]MrAnderzon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your not feeling the girl your with. Every one says have sex with ugly/fat girls to get your experience.

Yes & No. Obviously the experience is good but not all experience is worth having. You would only have experience with girls you’re not attracted to.

And when you have someone you are attracted to, you probably won’t know how to handle it because you only have experience with girls with no mutual attraction.

[–]hedged61610 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Whereas a woman gets more attached after sex. Bro evolution in that regard kinda fucked us

[–]Tambamwham0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

cumming then coming to your senses is a tale as old as time

[–]maverick97590 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn .. You articulated my feelings so precisely .. I nut and then suddenly I wanna deadlift, shoot arrows/guns, start a business, conquer a country and shit .. I just don't wanna deal with women AT ALL and for a while I ponder if that's how MGTOW was created ahaha

[–]Swimming-Syllabub0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You could always fuck someone you like

[–]Ill_mumble_that0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's called "marriage regret"

Unless you marry a perfect 10 who never gains weight or ages and has zero hypergamey ability so is guaranteed to never cheat on you, while simultaneously ticking all your sex fetish boxes and also being an emotional support for you.

Such a woman doesn't exist.

So in other words, it's impossible to avoid. You learn to deal with it.

[–]Musicgoon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The post nut regret or guilt was usually in my past when I didn't do so well with women.

I could sell you some line about the comedown of endorphins. That, scientifically speaking, is correct.

The honest truth is: the chicks I felt that with were ones that weren't a catch. Easy, not the best looking and not anyone I would brag about. I knew I could do better. Don't settle. I did for a few years until my game got better.

[–]FuzzCod0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

After you nut, your prolactin raises. I call it the bitch hormone.

[–]3chazthundergut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Suddenly I want to get away from this person as much as possible and achieve something in my life and not waste my time on women."

Ahh, the old post-nut clarity. Trust your gut!

[–]spedoid0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Play some Madden and smoke a bowl

[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Research how to lower prolactin.

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[–]FuzzCod0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

After you nut prolactin raises and then goes down again. It's normal, you shouldn't take cabergoline, unless you want to orgasm multiple times.

Cabergoline is for when you take nandrolone steroids which will raise prolactin which will cause gyno.

[–]millenialprincess0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You need to have more oxytocin than testosterone after you nut in order to not have regret.

[–]courtesy_flush_plz-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Better than the opposite .. wanting to cuddle up & start a family 🤷‍♂️

[–]alphakari-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

The post-workout high usually evens it out for me if I go hard.

It's also less significant for me if I'm on a bulk.



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